If a private school offers a better curriculum and teaching method for O and A levels, I would rather send my kid to that school than stay in a government school. There is something wrong with the education system if parents need to tax their children with more school work outside of regular school hours. There will be little time to play and be creative.
My sister's daughter suffered a nervous breakdown because she constantly worries about her grades. It has come to a point where she is seeing a psychologist to help manage her anxieties. She attends all kinds of tuition classes and enrichment programmes. Did quite well in school but this took a toll on her mental well-being.
It looks like the girl may be looking into other options as she is currently unfit to continue with her A levels in the junior college. But her mom is quite adamant that she goes to a good university...
parental support is very important.
i almost had a nervous breakdown too, struggling with 4 hrs of sleep each day trying to cope in JC. luckily my parents had no expectations of me and told me that all they wanted was for me to be healthy and not end up in a mental hospital. so how relieved i was to submit that withdrawal form when i received my O-level results although I qualified to stay at the same JC. there was no tuition whatsover for me last time and i had to rely on myself pouring over the class notes at 2am in the morning and still could not figure out Fmath.
i eventually went to poly and after 3 yrs, an Australian uni invited me (through my level head) for me to apply for overseas studies scholarship. i did not accept (financial difficulty at home hence no money for daily lodging etc, parents not looking forward for me to go overseas etc, still have younger sibling schooling etc) and started working and got married instead
. applied NUS part time, got accepted, then rejected their offer (cos fees and time commitment was so much higher than SIM) and planned for our first child and then went on to get my degree at SIM. my husband dropped out of JC after 3 months too although he qualified to continue. he went private diploma (he took 2 'specialty' at the same time) and got his degree before he NS. all these possible because his parents were very supportive of him planning his own route (and also cos his parents could afford because no other siblings). he also shared that going private studies requires a lot of self motivated and determination. social circle and social life will be very limited (ie no such thing as campus life as in NUS/NTU kindof campus life ah). because he deferred NS (which he said is no longer possible now), failing is not an option and he accelerated his learning by taking max modules during a given time period. for backup, he also took another higher diploma while managing his degree. all these were planned by him, so his parents only provided morale (and money) support. no tuition last time too ah.
life is still very long ahead. my husband said that while getting a degree should be the aim for our kids, he is open to the different ways that our kids could achieve it so long at the end of the day, a uni degree is a must.
so bottom line, parental support is very important. kids usually get stressed from parental expectations rather than sch expectations. but unless parents envisage that at the end of the day, the quality of lifestyle they wanted their kids to have should be higher than what they are having now, then maybe that's why parents are pushing their kids to work harder. my ILs mentality had been so long my dh is independent and can earn a decent living, that is good enough. (my parents were so long i can get married, good enough for them
but hor, now 2 uni grad parent fumbled at P4 math questions...