孩子的心是敏感,柔软的…请小心处理

这是写给我孩子的道歉信.

宝贝, 妈妈对不起妳.

我不应该对妳发脾气的, 只为了芝麻緑豆的小事. 昨天就像一向那样, 我轻易的被惹怒, 而妳只会乖巧的讨好我.

晚上忙着上网, 到睡觉时间,我没像我每天做的那样, 抱抱妳, 亲妳; 告诉妳这一天妳什么事情做得棒, 告诉妳:"妈妈爱妳,宝贝"; 只催促妳去睡.

今天早上五点多听见妳的哭声,赶紧去看妳, 竟在梦中哭泣! 而床垫上, 还有未干的尿迹…

困惑…妳自从不依赖尿片后, 是从不尿床的, 一次都没有. 为什么?

因为我的责备伤心吗? 还是, 妳在生我的气呢?

吃早餐的时候, 突然想到, 难道是因为昨晚我没向妳说爱妳吗?

赶回家, 看到妳刚好醒来, 赶紧抱着妳对妳说:"妈妈爱妳! 对不起, 妈妈昨晚忘了!妈妈昨天是生气, 可是生气不代表我不爱妳; 记得, 妈妈是永远爱妳的".

妳只是笑笑, 又闭上眼睛睡了…

我去做了做别的事, 回头再看妳…眼睛仍是闭着的. 但妳的眼角, 却闪着泪光…

"宝贝, 怎么啦?"

……

"妳还在生妈妈的气吗?"

眼睛还是闭着. 轻轻摇头.

"妳伤心妈妈骂妳?"

犹豫. 摇头.

"妳很感动?! 妈妈说爱妳?"

缓缓点头.

我的喉咙,有一种哽咽的感觉; 我的心,有一种酸酸的感觉…又好像有一点痛? 我的宝贝… 妳的心竟是敏感,柔软至此… 而妳还只不过是个四岁的小孩, 妳已经会想要隐藏妳的感觉…

妈妈对不起妳…太多时候, 妈妈不够细心, 妈妈不够耐心, 妈妈不够贴心…原谅我, 给我机会改进…在妳的心变冷变硬之前, 让我学会做一个, 够好的妈妈.

Take good care of yourself first

Dear JennyP,

I think it’s really no easy for us women to juggle among our multiple roles of being a mother, wife, daughter, daughter-in-law, working individual and etc all at the same time. It’s very stressful! and very often, we forget to put OURSELVES on top of our priority list. As a result, we are weary physically, exhausted mentally, unstable emotionally and having no time to examine our spiritual needs. We have no clue on why we lose temper easily, throw tantrum uncontrollably, and our daily routine ends like a spinning top which spin non-stop but seemingly without a direction.

It’s important for us to realise that in order for us to take good care of others, we must first TAKE GOOD CARE OF OURSELVES, in terms of our physical needs, emotional needs and spiritual fulfilment. Try  to take some time out of your busy schedule, even if it’s merely 10 or 15 minutes daily, to spend it only with yourself. I usually use this time to ‘talk’ to myself, in order to know myself better and also to find out my inner needs (I will teach my DD to do this, a part of EQ training). In times when I’m in no mood to ‘talk’ at all, I’ll just listen to some favourite music or songs or just tell my brain "hey, switch off".

I believe that only when we feel good about ourselves we’ll have the energy to treat people around us better. Find out what makes you happy and makes your mood ‘high’. The very first person you should take good care of is YOURSELF. This is not being selfish, I think this is the root cause and solution to our relational challenges.

I’m learning to be a better mommy, let’s learn and grow together. You may like to visit this thread http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=4759 pg 3 for more parenting tips and links.

Wish you all the best.

That's exactly how I feel.

That’s exactly how I feel. Sometimes you think they are so adorable, sometimes you just feel like volcano is going to erupt toward the things they did. Such a contradiction!

yes me too, so touching. i

yes me too, so touching.

i not know how to express my feeling to my son of 5, he very naughty when i beat him i will feel very guilty why i cannot control myself 🙁

actually he is a very good boy compare the same age with other kid, but i hope he can be more perfect resulted very strict to him.

am i wrong?

what a beautiful piece. i

what a beautiful piece. i feel the same way many a time, thats why after feeling guilty abt it, i choose to switch off the tv and just spend my time with my dd 🙂 so touching!

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