058. The “Why” of Love

Here’s a message that needs to be drilled into the hearts and minds of every mom and dad: You don’t love your kids because of what they do, but because of who they are.

Simply rewarding children with affection because of their accomplishments is like a circus trainer giving a dog some food every time he jumps through a hoop. The dog isn’t loved for himself, but for his actions.

Dr. Laura Schlessinger, the popular talk show host, has a new book for children titled, "Why Do You Love Me?" Part of the story includes a mother explaining to her son that it is not what he does that makes her love him — she loves him because he is unique and because he is her son.

You don’t show affection simply because a child is good at karate or gymnastics. Every mom, dad and grandparent needs to memorize the words of a long-time popular song: "I love you most of all because you’re you."

– Neil Eskelin

Unconditional love

Yes, I think unconditional love is important in our lives. If the love we receive is dependent on what we do, we will end up being insecure people, or ‘yes’ people, just to get attention and love.

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