Don’t Be Pressured To Pressure Your Child
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No offense or judgment meant on anybody, but it is useful to see things in perspective:(Sorry ah, here goes another slice of "different perspective", sashimi style).
People who have good things to say about themselves will always be louder than those who do not. (Again, no offense intended; nothing morally apprehensible about this).
Likewise, the news media likes to report on individual "successful entrepreneurs", smiling faces and all; but for every one reported, there are 30, 50, maybe 100 failures out there whom you will never hear of. Even funnier is how some of these successful entrepreneurs go down the drain after a couple of years (cf. dot.com crash).
The reverse is also true – bad news makes great news, to the press.
Anyway, my point is – don’t put this kind of pressure on yourself and put even less on your children. Be the best you can be, for your children, for yourself – don’t bother comparing or judging your kids based on others. There will always be "better" ones (and even more worse ones, perhaps?). Even better, learn from them and apply what is beneficial to your own family.
Personally, I never believe and have no interest in child prodigies. To me, what’s important is what you ultimately achieve in life and for society, regardless of age.
Last but not least, children mature at different speeds. A 2-yr-old child may seem very smart compared to her peers, but when she reaches 8, all the other 8-yr-olds have caught up, and they are all roughly the same. Why just look at the way they all speak broken SEnglish. And I recall people saying how impressive my daughter’s standard of English was just a handful of years ago.
As I said before, that’s why, what’s important is ultimately what you achieve in life, and not how clever or precocious you are at age X. A 2-yr-old who can recite latin achieves no more than an 18 or 80-yr-old who contributes nothing to life and society.
I shall stop here and not go into the subject of how so many adults devolve into immature dummies with no common sense when they grow up. ![]()