Looking Back, Paying Forward

Today is 1 January 2011 (1.1.11), perfect numbers for a new beginning of a new year. Looking back on the past one year, I marvel at how much my daughter has grown. She is now a bubbly, chatty and inquisitive 3-year-old who has a penchant for books and loves to ask "why" to almost anything she does not have an answer.

If there is anything I am most proud of in achieving in the last one year, it’s seeing my sacrifices (in terms of my career, time and efforts) paid off in how my child has developed thus far. She is eloquent, bubbly, joyful and well-behaved most of the times. Of course there are the usual tantrums and occasional misbehaviour that is expected of a child her age, but generally she is a good-natured child with a big heart.

My only regret about her is her social life, or the lack of it. Being the only child and having been homeschooled all this while, she is not exposed much to people outside the family and is extremely wary of strangers or people she has seldom met. She doesn’t play easily with the other kids and takes a while to warm up in a social setting. But once she has warmed up to you, she will chat with you anything under the sky. She is also not shy to show her affection with kisses or bear hugs to her loved ones.

Looking forward, I am excited for her as she will be going to preschool for the first time when school term starts. I am happy that she will be meeting new friends and enlarging her social circle. She will also be learning new things from her teachers, apart from me. I sure hope she enjoys school as this marks an important milestone in her life. But I am also aware that I should continue to inculcate good family and social values in her, and not depend on her teachers just because she is now in school.

Especially after I came across this meaningful and thought-provoking poem by Dorothy Law Nolte, it set me thinking how easily influenced children are by the people around them and the home environment they grow up in. Children are like sponges, they absorb whatever they are dipped in. It made me realise how crucial my hubby and I are in molding and imparting values to our child, not through teaching her but by setting an example. It can seem scary to have such power as it also means huge responsibilities. And as human beings, we are not perfect and may sometimes fail in setting good examples.

So this poem serves as a timely motto for the start of a new year, that we should constantly strive to be a better person so that our children will benefit from it and hopefully do likewise for their next generations. It’s like paying it forward.

Children Learn What They Live
{Copyright © 1972 by Dorothy Law Nolte}

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

Thanks for sharing

Thanks for sharing

tks for sharing too

tks for sharing too

You r most welcome

Thanks Fuzz, Mombobb, Mummythreestreams & Happy Mama for all your kind comments and sharings. I’m glad that the poem strikes a chord with you all as it did with me, which is why I felt strongly that I should share it here!

Parenting is never easy. But it’s deeply enriching and rewarding, so it’s especially important that we nurture our kids right so the results will be even sweeter. Jia You!! 

Lovely Poem

Thanks for sharing. I especially love the poem and will be sharing this with my DD as it is very meaningful…

Thank you for sharing!

I think you’re going a great job with your daughter! Thanks for sharing the poem. We all need to pin it up on our refrigerator!

Thanks for sharing the

Thanks for sharing the poem. 

My DD just the same as yours. Always asking ‘WHY’ most of the time. Be it movie, cartoon or story book she is watching, all the WHYs will definitely come out from her. I have been cracking my head on how to answer all her WHYs..

Oh yes, she hugs and gives kisses alot.. ALOT.. haha.. until I have to stop her from doing that. But it is definitely heart warming to feel their passion towards us.

I will print the poem out and put it in my office and remind myself.

Thanks for sharing this

Thanks for sharing this poem! It’s a really good reminder of how important upbringing is for a child. I believe nature plays a part, but I think nurture is more crucial in terms of shaping a child’s character and the kind of person he or she will grow up to be.

Happy new year and happy parenting!

Thanks, LKVM & foreverj for

Thanks, LKVM & foreverj for your encouragements! Let’s "jia you" together to nurture our precious kids. And happy new year to you both too! 

Enjoy reading them

Happy New Year to all of you.

When I am free, I’ll love to come in to read all these published articles. They are all very meaningful and interesting, for some, I also printed them out and hanged in my room as a reminder. Thanks for the sharing!

Very nice article

Your arcticles are very nice, keep it up!!

thank you angelight, and

thank you angelight, and happy new year! may your little one continue to grow, develop and mature under your TLC and your wise guidance as a parent! she’s indeed fortunate to have a great mum like u 🙂 and to the rest of the kiasuparents who have been faithfully nurturing their children with the biggest love – happy new year to you all and a fruitful year ahead!

Happy New Year, Desertwind,

Happy New Year, Desertwind, Autumnbronze & Momokosan!

Glad that you all enjoy the poem and my articles. That’s the beauty of this forum, isn’t it? That we are able to share our thoughts and insights.

Autumnbronze, I’m gonna print out the poem and pin it up too, so as to constantly remind myself of the right values to impart to my girl. 

 

Thanks for sharing

Thanks for sharing Angelight, it is a beautiful poem!

 

Thanks

Hi Angelight,

Happy New Year!

Thanks for sharing this wonderful and insightful piece.  I love reading your articles.

I especially love the poem.  Am gonna print it out and put it in my DS’s room

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