Making Behaving Well Fun!

There are many ways we can trick our children into behaving well, without them realizing that this is our intention. If we can make behaving well seem like fun this will create a positive atmosphere anywhere you are.

Here are some ideas usually carried out in good pre-schools, but i find can be carried out in the home as well, for parents with young children.

  • Turn control tasks into a game.
    • Think about the way that you present tasks and activities to your children. Use language that suggests fun and challenge reather than boredom and hard work.
    • For instance, you might want your child(ren) to lie down and be still for story time at the end of the day. Instead of telling the children the required behaviour in a dull way, introduce the task as a game called "Sleeping Lions"… in which they must pretend to be lions who are fast asleep. What happens when lions wake up? This activity can also be used when there is a sleeping baby in the house. The baby is the "lion" in the game.. we are the prey (smaller animals lions love to eat). When baby wakes up, baby will create an uproar… (with the crying!)… and we sure don’t want that, cause it will mean less time spent together doing fun stuff.
  • Enter the world of make believe.
    • Young children respond to make-believe and to the chance to use their imaginations. The opportunity to be someone, something or somewhere they are not.
    • For example, if you want them to tidy up the room very quietly, you might tell them to imagine that beneath the floor is a sleeping giant, and that they are walking across his back and must not wake him up.
  • [For older children] Treat them as adults sometimes…
    • One very useful fiction is that children gradually become more adult and grown up. For instance, you might ask the child(ren) to play the role of Science professors while working on an experiment. Taking on the role of an expert in this way encourages child(ren) to take responsiblity for their work and behaviour. Interact with them as though they are adults, expressing surprise at any silliness. ie. "I can hardly believe you are doing that Professor Benny, seeing as you’re a world-reknowned scientist!"


Thanks for your creative

Thanks for your creative ideas, buds! It is really inspiring and helping me to be a better parent, to think of different ways to handle 3 little ones especially during this long holidays now!

Nowadays parents need to

Nowadays parents need to come out with all sort of ways to teach the children. It helps train our mind to be creative and flexible so we will not get old so quickly  … haa haa

Making it a game

Kudos to Bud!

You are right! After reading some books, I tried in my own ways (cannot follow the book exactly coz each child is different) and now? I am the ONLY one in the household that can get my girl to keep her toys, keep her crayons, go for her bath NOW, go to sleep NOW and it works even in the bookstore where I can get her to return the book after browsing..

Yes, it works. But sometimes, the kids get too smart and tries to ‘whine’ their way out so hang on parents.. do another reverse psychology.

For example, if she still refuse to keep her toys away. I will pretend I dont know how to keep them as ask her to help.. "oh, where do i keep this ? In your potty?’ My gal will instantly be interested and reply ‘NO!’. So i say " Then can you pleaasssseeeee help mummy keep this properly? and pretend to be really really helpless. My gal will show her ‘big girl’ atitude and show my where and say ‘ here!" and keep it!! There!

hahaha.. đŸ™‚



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