My Life Purpose

Today, as I cradled my darling daughter in my arms and gazed at her peaceful sleeping countenance, I was overwhelmed by a profound sense of maternal love. As I touched her face gingerly with my fingertip, tracing her face contour starting from her hairline, down her eyebrow, her eyelid, touched the tip of her cute button nose and the outline of her lips, a silent tear rolled down my cheek. A tear of deep gratitude – for this precious miracle of life lying asleep in my arms.

Just earlier in the day, I had given her three hard spanks on her palm for being rude to me. Though she was upset for being disciplined and looked as if she was going to cry, she did not. I know this child is strong-willed and probably has a stubborn streak in her. The fact that she held her tears and refused to cry also shows that she is rather headstrong and has a lot of pride. She doesn’t want to show her vulnerable side to others, not even in front of her mummy.

But nevertheless, my love for her is not dependent on whether she is good or naughty. She is the love of my life and I know to her, I am her world. She is totally dependent on me to bring her up, nurture her and give her the best I could. But I’m not a perfect mother. I have my flaws and insecurities, too. I can only pray that my imperfections will not leave any scar in her childhood, or hinder her development into a wholesome, joyful woman with a beautiful mind and a kind spirit.

Suddenly it dawned on me that perhaps this is my ultimate calling in life – to nurture and bring up this precious child that God has entrusted in my life; to love and cherish her without asking for anything in return. And when she is a grown woman and the time comes for me to let go, I pray I would be able to let go and let her bring up her next generation. That is when I know my purpose in life is fulfilled and hopefully, I can proudly say that I am satisfied with the fruit of my labour and I have no regrets.

Thanks for sharing :)

Thanks for sharing 🙂

Thanks for sharing

Thanks for sharing

hi angelight, Great piece of sharing

Great piece of sharing yr thouights and emotions of being a wonderful mother. By reading yr article, it brings back lots of precious moments of my gal when she was just a baby.

Her smile, her cry, her screams, her action of sucking of her little finger……thanks God for this precious gift………….

Yes, Icemountain, I'm also

Yes, Icemountain, I’m also sometimes guilty of being overprotective over my daughter, especially she’s my only child. I desire her to have what I could not have and hope she could be what I have wanted to be but could not be…

Let’s always remind ourselves that our child is a part of us but not a replica of us. Let them have room and space to grow up to be what they desire to be, and not what we desire them to be. 

Dear cantbearit2, Children

Dear cantbearit2,

Children are a blessing from God, so you are indeed very blessed to have 3 of your own. Am happy for you. Nurture them well and you will be able to enjoy the fruits of your labor in the future!

 

Dear Angelight, Thanks for

Dear Angelight,

Thanks for sharing with us your thoughts about your daughter.  A mother’s love is beautiful!

Angelight, your post

Angelight, your post reminded me of a quote from one of my favourite philosophers, which seem appropriate here:

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of the desire for Life itself.
They come through you but not from you, and though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts, for they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies, but not their souls; for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

Kahlil Gibran.

I am reminded of this quote every time I find myself unconsciously trying to veer my kids towards a direction I am inclined but didn’t stop and think if that’s what they really want or care for. I tell myself to step back and let them develop into their own persons instead of smothering them with overprotectiveness, that’s my gift to them as a mother.

Same thoughts

Hi Angelight,

I feel exactly the same, after I’ve spanked my daughter for being naughty. She will hold back her tears, refusing to admit she is wrong – very stubborn and a real handful.

As she lay asleep, I feel so guilty having to punish her but I know I have to do it. The earlier feelings of anger towards her made me so very guilty. She is so beautiful and my little angel indeed. To think of her going to Primary 1 next year made me so sad, because she is so small-sized and simply hard to believe that she has grown up in such a short time.

Beautiful, simply

Beautiful, simply beautiful.
Thank you for sharing Angelight.

Thanks for the wonderful

Thanks for the wonderful article, Angelight.

It’s a refreshing wake up call for my maternity instincts.  It has also brought back many memories of my own.  From infertility to having my first miracle baby (now with 3 precious ones). 

Let us all try our best to let go of our little ones when the time comes.

 

hi autumnbronze definitely

hi autumnbronze

definitely not strange at all for u to start preparing yourself. n the fact that most of us gave/sacrificed and are stil giving/sacrificing much for our kids means the harder it is for us to let go??!! there wil come a day when we wil have our lives back – but that only means its the time when our kids are independent and dun need us much anymore. truly mixed feelings cos for a good part of our lives, we would have focused our attention and efforts on them and suddenly, nothing to focus on anymore. a bit like feeling lost after retirement, i guess.

no matter what, it’s necessary cos when its time for me to go, i want to be glad that dd can take care of herself n is happily married wif  a family of her own, rather than to be worried abt her.

Great sharing

 Great sharing, Angelight …

 

An afterthought:  Would it be strange if I were to confess that I have already kinda started mentally psyching myself that I will have to let go of DS sooner or later in life …

Of course, at the end of the day, only time can tell whether I’ll be able to do it without any emotional hitches or not ….

hi angelight, tks for a

hi angelight, tks for a beautiful reminder to us mums. one more realisation on my part is that, even before we have to let go of them when they are their own grown person, there will be many a times we feel frustrated why they can’t share the same opinion/ thoughts as us. m talking more abt personal preferences n opinion so nothing abt right and wrong. i’m stil learning to let go of this part – can only pray for God to help myself in this area cos there’s no way I can control/ influence this area becos she is her own person and of her own mind.

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