Singapore’s school going kiddos losing their competitive edge?

Our kids grow up in a comfortable environment.

They do not have to worry about their next meal, or a roof over their head.  Instead, we worry about when we can get the next iPhone, or iTablet, or even which blockbuster will gather the most Oscars.

Parents attend to their children’s whinings.

Are we pampering our kiddos too much?

Singaporeans are really fortunate. We have Rain Shelters and air-condition Bus-Interchanges everywhere. But are we at risk of losing touch with the "real" world? A world where children can still live in absolute poverty. And where children live only for the day, and nobody dreams about their "Aspirations and Future". How many poor kids are fortunate enough to have an education?

In Singapore, are we only good at complaining :p

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Read this sobering article from Transitioning.org –> The expats will rule Singapore .  The writer (Adam Khoo) writes about how our next generation are losing their Hunger for success, and Fighting spirit.

How can we encourage our children to step out of their comfort zones?
What will we do to ensure our kiddos grow up to be independent?

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I agree.

I agree.

This is really true.  I

As to what I observe and whatt  I see from the generation today,  are really far from our times. That is why I am trying to teach my children t the values that I want them to learn.  The hardship, perseverance, and always being thankful and happy even if they don’t have these things, because they are blessed with so many good things… and that they are many children out there who are less fortunate compared to theme. I always exposed them, show them pictures, keep them informed through news to what is happening in the world.  When we are praying my 5 years old son always mentioned the children of Haiti and thats surprised me… when his younger sister  don’t want to finished her food he would remind her the children of Africa. I make them understand why they cannot have these things, and should be thankful, happy and give importance to what they have. I know they are stiil young but I think it’s the best time to start training them. Sometimes giving the best to our children does’nt mean really giving the best for them.  I don’t want them to be  pathetic, easily giving up when difficulties arrived. Because life is full of difficulties.  I  believe we parents  play a vital role in training our children. 

Thank you all for your

Thank you all for your heartening and encouraging feedbacks.

I only got one simple request for my kiddos.

They can be anything they want, fullfill any dream they wish, as long as they have the Aspiration and Drive.
 
But I will not spoilt them, rather I will teach them the world is their oyster, but they have to strive for it. Themselves.
 
{easier said than done }
 
 

As much as I like to

As much as I like to disagree, I have to admit that this comment is in general quite true.  Its very sad.  Maybe we should tighten our purse strings and not make it as easy for our kids?  Create some hardships? 

RE: kids are generally not as resilient as our generation

we are somewhat the product of our environment.

given our better environment as compared to last time, how are we to train resilience when that very value can only be honed through practical life experiences??

our parents had no luxury of giving us iphones, iwhatnot, but if they can, surely no parent will want their kid to have secondbest in the world.

yes, they do complain, but there will surely be a group of resilient ones who will outshine the others when situation demands it – let’s have more faith in the next generation, and by doing so, we’ll be giving ourselves credit for our own parenting skills 🙂

as much as i can, i wil

as much as i can, i wil impart the values (other than moral values) that my parents passed down to me to my dd. eg. values such as being thrifty, not being wasteful, need to study hard and work hard for the fruits of our labour etc. my mum always tell me to be careful with expenditure cos my dad had to labour and toil for the hard-earned money. n thats also the reason they dun give us too much pocket money. my dh was amazed when we compared our pocket money going from pri sch to uni and he resolved to be like my dad haha.

an additional thing i teach dd is that nobody owes us a living. eg. when she cries and insists i help her to keep her toys, i reminded her that if she were in school and she played with the toys, does she expect her teachers and friends to help her to keep? if people offer to help, its out of the kindness and goodwill of them but she should not expect them to help as if its an obligation. she herself is responsible for keeping the toys on her own since she alone played with the toys. similarly if i help her its becos i happen to be free and dun mind helping but the reality is she alone is responsible to keep her toys. when she’s older, i wil teach her that similarly, when she goes out into society to work, she is responsible for earning her keep and achievements. no boss is obligated to give her a hand, provide the training and lay the career path for her. she must fight for opportunities herself cos thats the way to survive in the real world.

i feel this kind of attitude starts from young. by the time they r old enough to work, they likely are immersed so long in the bo-chup attitude that it takes much more to wake them up from their immature and reliant-on-others ideas.

Not resilient?

I think that kids are generally not as resilient as our generation. Don’t have to look too far. Just look at the youngsters in their teens or early 20s. I have heard of stories whereby one employee got her mother to call the company to tender resignation after less than one month, and her brother to pack up her belongings.

Another case the mother called her daughter’s boss to say her daughter can’t work beyond 7pm, so that she can be home in time for dinner. While I agree that having dinner as a family is important, one also has to be realisitic. If the working hours are really unreasonable over an extended period of time, one should look for another job. There are always options and alternatives. I don;t think getting one’s mother to call the boss will help at all. If I were the boss, i would be quite mad.

Recently I overheard a conversation while taking the MRT. Two teenagers were talking about holiday jobs. One commnted that her friend was so silly to take a job in an industrial estate, with long working hours (8.30am to 6pm), and which ONLY paid $1,200 per month. Gosh, it’s only a holiday job. $1,200 per month is quite decent. 

I’m not saying we should intentionally depreive our kids of necessities to teach them resilience. But it would be good to let them know that they can’t always have what they want. There are trade-offs, and there are many people who are less fortunate than you. We should appreciate what we have, and also try to give to the less fortunate in ways that we can.

 

 

 

I think generally kids in Singapore are losing competitive

edge by doing too much and not playing enough…. just my personal gut feel.

No doubt they are in the age of  iTablet, iPhone, Wii, etc…they have no time to use so many gadgets anyway…, is that comfortable?

Yes, it appears as if parents are pampering the children too much, even school facilities have no air-cons, parents will scream hell first…. but at the same time rob them of childhood for some, is it so pampering?  

 

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