Whoa, Insider. These are pretty strong statements, and there's too much inference on your part about others. If you went around accusing other people (and there's no way you can know), who's going to answer sensitive poll questions like that? Whatever happened to mutual respect of your fellow forummers?insider wrote:Errr...parents who peep into their kids' stuff even though their kids are OK kids probably is a reflection of these parents have a greater sense of insecurity, suspicious in nature, possessive, 看不开,lower confidence level, worry-too-much kind = higher risk of of bringing up kids who are similar to them (meaning likely to also bring up kids who can't build trusting relationships) = vicious cycle. Children's view of such parents maybe 烦死人 and they are unlikely to share more with such parents since telling them one thing and may lead them to imagine ten = don't tell better to save the 烦死人 situation...
These parents usually will also not trust their spouses (see a long strand of hair in the car = got woman outside?? and start their 'peeping game'...)
My personal view and don't get offended... Sometimes 'love and care' given out of 'good intent' can also give the receiver a sickening feeling if one doesn't apply it correctly...
PS: My teenage kids each has a digital safe (those $40+ types). I told them to lock whatever 'secret' things or valuables that they don't want others to touch / see in the safe and don't make noise if anyone in the family happens to see / read things that are on their tables (my daughter and son will 'visit' each other's study table regularly and sometimes may come across items that the table owner doesn't want to share with others).
I guess I could couch my answer like yours, with plenty of if and buts, so that I sound saintly (like you). But I just call it like it is. People who are too eager to accuse others are themselves highly suspicious, hyper critical of others (not themselves) and a real pain to live with. I pity their kids and spouses. Just my personal opinion. Don't get offended hor.