Will you be supportive of your child having tatoos?
It's a matter of opinion...
Hey everyone, I noticed that most of the replies are negative towards tattoos and I understand the stigma that is still attached to tattoos. Well, this is my personal stand/experience...
I started teaching preschool at 17...studied part-time, got married, had kids, became the principal of several schools etc..somewhere in the midst of all that, at 30, I decided to get my first tattoo on my birthday. I have since gotten 3 more (all for my birthdays) and still plan to get some more work done to complete/improve what I already have now.
I did not decide on getting tattoos on a whim, I did not get pressured into it by peers and I weighed heavily, for a long time, the consequences of getting tattoos - esp in my line of work. Yes, I did subsequently face some parents/employers who were immediately put off by it (despite the fact that it is usually covered up at work anyway) but in the end, most people realise that I am still me - a respected educator, a dedicated mum and a loving partner (my other half has no tattoos). I know of a few other teachers who have tattoos as well, one with almost full arms but she wears long sleeves to work everyday. All of them are good if not great teachers.
All I'm saying is that getting a tattoo does not change a person. If you are a bum, you are one with or without a tatt. For me, it was not only an artistic choice but each of my tatts represents a very major event/person in my life. And should my kids want to get one when they are adults (I'd say no before they hit 21), if they have thought it through as much as I have and can justify the reasons they want to get one, I would support it after telling them that should they change their minds after getting the tattoo, the laser removal process requires several sessions, each of which is WAY WAY more painful and expensive than getting the tattoo in the first place.
I started teaching preschool at 17...studied part-time, got married, had kids, became the principal of several schools etc..somewhere in the midst of all that, at 30, I decided to get my first tattoo on my birthday. I have since gotten 3 more (all for my birthdays) and still plan to get some more work done to complete/improve what I already have now.
I did not decide on getting tattoos on a whim, I did not get pressured into it by peers and I weighed heavily, for a long time, the consequences of getting tattoos - esp in my line of work. Yes, I did subsequently face some parents/employers who were immediately put off by it (despite the fact that it is usually covered up at work anyway) but in the end, most people realise that I am still me - a respected educator, a dedicated mum and a loving partner (my other half has no tattoos). I know of a few other teachers who have tattoos as well, one with almost full arms but she wears long sleeves to work everyday. All of them are good if not great teachers.
All I'm saying is that getting a tattoo does not change a person. If you are a bum, you are one with or without a tatt. For me, it was not only an artistic choice but each of my tatts represents a very major event/person in my life. And should my kids want to get one when they are adults (I'd say no before they hit 21), if they have thought it through as much as I have and can justify the reasons they want to get one, I would support it after telling them that should they change their minds after getting the tattoo, the laser removal process requires several sessions, each of which is WAY WAY more painful and expensive than getting the tattoo in the first place.
No pain, no gain...
schellen wrote:Eyebrow tattoo is okay since I have done it and I think my DDs have the misfortune of inheriting my horrible eyebrows that defy tweezing and drawing.
Otherwise, it depends. But I'm hoping that the pain will put them off.
1) Eyebrow tattooing is for beautification...many people (tribal and mordern) think the same about bodyart / tattoos.
2) What would become of the human race if pain put all women off childbirth? 8)
actually, my Sister in law have a tattoo too... she is the professional down to earth kind. I think it also depends on the age of getting tattoos and what/where/how many and whether one have tought through it. My Sil's was tastefully done, near the shoulders at the back, like yours Amberz. At work, she just have to make sure she does not wear something sleeveless.
I had a classmate in uni though who have 3 Winnie the pooh tattoo over her legs and I was like :!:
I had a classmate in uni though who have 3 Winnie the pooh tattoo over her legs and I was like :!:
I do not think tattoo is about stigma. It has its asthestic value as a form of art hence beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
No offence to tattoo lovers, for me, it is as simple as ugly and a permanent damage to otherwise good skin. It's like some makeup style, I would never allow my dd to walk out with an unacceptable form of makeup. What I believe is, what we do to ourselves tell alot about our tastes, our personality and our lifestyles. I am a person who loves accessories, but wrong accessories irk me alot when I look at them on anyone. If I am not doing what I am doing now, I might have gone into image consulting.
Just sharing, I just saw a show of a beautiful lady from every angle but for the show, she had a tatto at the lower back of her body. If she had decided to put some swaroski crystal on her back temporarily, I might think it could be quite charming but she had a big tattoo(the motif looked nicely symmetrical and artistic) on it instead. In the show, it was promoted as beautiful but it only reinforced her personality of evil and in the end she became a big-time betrayer to her organisation and got everyone killed. I supposed it did come across that she was a gutsy and bold lady with that tattoo on her lower back, but turned ruthless.
As for remembering major events or memories, there are many ways to get such mementos recorded, so I won't encourage my dd to go the tattoo way, which she might regret later in her life. Just my 2 cents, there is no right and wrong, just a personal preference.
No offence to tattoo lovers, for me, it is as simple as ugly and a permanent damage to otherwise good skin. It's like some makeup style, I would never allow my dd to walk out with an unacceptable form of makeup. What I believe is, what we do to ourselves tell alot about our tastes, our personality and our lifestyles. I am a person who loves accessories, but wrong accessories irk me alot when I look at them on anyone. If I am not doing what I am doing now, I might have gone into image consulting.
Just sharing, I just saw a show of a beautiful lady from every angle but for the show, she had a tatto at the lower back of her body. If she had decided to put some swaroski crystal on her back temporarily, I might think it could be quite charming but she had a big tattoo(the motif looked nicely symmetrical and artistic) on it instead. In the show, it was promoted as beautiful but it only reinforced her personality of evil and in the end she became a big-time betrayer to her organisation and got everyone killed. I supposed it did come across that she was a gutsy and bold lady with that tattoo on her lower back, but turned ruthless.
As for remembering major events or memories, there are many ways to get such mementos recorded, so I won't encourage my dd to go the tattoo way, which she might regret later in her life. Just my 2 cents, there is no right and wrong, just a personal preference.
Earrings are removable so there is more flexibility to achieve good asthetics, without damaging original look.markfch wrote:Come on, this is extreme. To link tattoos to drugs is like linking guys wearing earings to criminals Maybe I should do another poll on guys wearing earings.vlim wrote:To me, this question is just like asking me do I allow my kids to take drug or not ...
But I have a problem with tongue studs or studs around the mouth....they look "OUCH"!!...so looking at such people, I have to ENDURE pain.
I also find belly rings highly unattractive, it's like over-doing it.
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If my kids ask me before they reach the age of maturity, i will ask them to KIV till they are in their adulthood...
If they are still serious about it then, they make their own decisions, cos by then they shd be prepared to bear the consequences of the decisions they make for themselves... For better or for worse.
I will of cos ask for their rationale for doing so, but will not sway their decisions to mine... be it for or against.
I do not object to having tattoos if it is tastefully done
If they are still serious about it then, they make their own decisions, cos by then they shd be prepared to bear the consequences of the decisions they make for themselves... For better or for worse.
I will of cos ask for their rationale for doing so, but will not sway their decisions to mine... be it for or against.
I do not object to having tattoos if it is tastefully done
mintcc - Thanks for the compliment. Those were my earlier tatts. And yeah generally my tatts are covered by clothes when I go to work but I have one at the nape of my neck and with our weather, my hair doesn't always stay down so that is the one that gets exposed the most. Like I said, after the initial "OMG you have a tattoo?!?!" most people eventually get so used to it they don't even blink anymore.
Also, tatts don't kill you or cause you to do things that will hurt others, unlike drugs so that is really not a fair comparison.
ksi - Yes, to each his/her own so you are definitely entitled to your opinions. Didn't quite get the point about the show you were describing other than that the character had a lower back tatt and when she turned out to be a villian your thought was "See? As expected...couldn't have been a good guy with that lower back tatt." Well, I'd like to think I'm a good person and I have a beautiful (in my opinion) lower back piece!
You know, the list could go on and on...guys with earrings are gay, bikers are irresponsible, all men are assholes, sexy girls are easy...whatever. I think we just need to read every book cover to cover, understand it thoroughly and all before we pass judgement.
Also, tatts don't kill you or cause you to do things that will hurt others, unlike drugs so that is really not a fair comparison.
ksi - Yes, to each his/her own so you are definitely entitled to your opinions. Didn't quite get the point about the show you were describing other than that the character had a lower back tatt and when she turned out to be a villian your thought was "See? As expected...couldn't have been a good guy with that lower back tatt." Well, I'd like to think I'm a good person and I have a beautiful (in my opinion) lower back piece!
You know, the list could go on and on...guys with earrings are gay, bikers are irresponsible, all men are assholes, sexy girls are easy...whatever. I think we just need to read every book cover to cover, understand it thoroughly and all before we pass judgement.