I agree !HyperKiasu wrote:parents should compare the results vertically(kis' performance in the past) instead of horizontally (with peers)tamarind wrote: That's great
Parents should look at marks in "absolute terms" and not in "relative terms". 80+ marks is very good results if we don't compare with others.
Do you compare your kid's marks with others?
- 1littlegal
- YellowBelt
- Posts: 28
- Joined: Thu Jul 23,
At least for now, in order to gain my well done again, DD is putting in slightly more effort on her Chinese. Although she still doesn’t like it. Scoring 80+ in her class is considered low. Well, I must say I got to be contented.tamarind wrote:I agree !HyperKiasu wrote: parents should compare the results vertically(kis' performance in the past) instead of horizontally (with peers)
Re: Do you compare your kid's marks with others?
I guess most of us have worked before. My first boss told me never ever compare pay amongst colleagues (maybe he has vested interested so saying so ). But after working fo so long, I can see the wisdom in his words.KSP wrote:I try not to but sometimes I do ask. I really feel is not so healthy but we are human. I mean what if my child score higher or lower it is only a test or exam. But I really feel annoyed if parents ask me about my child's score. Especially those ask for the sake of comparing. I just told them which band and said forgot the exact marks. After a few time they catch my hint.
To me, comparing results is like comparing pay. Even if kid has 2 marks more than neighbour, alarm bells may sound cos why only 2 marks. Neighbour not very diligent you know etc etc. If results worse than neighbour, then the feeling is even more frustrating.
So why create opportunity to make ourselves unhappy? But I do agree that it'll be useful to see where we stand in terms of highest score, median score.
In my class when I was P6, our chinese teacher makes it a point to cane on the palms, whoever 听写/默写 scored less than 80. There is no retest and there is only one chance given.Brenda10 wrote:In my dd class, the teacher makes it a point that who ever 听写/默写 scored less than 70 have to stay back another day to re test…
I always share this with my dd.jedamum wrote:In my class when I was P6, our chinese teacher makes it a point to cane on the palms, whoever 听写/默写 scored less than 80. There is no retest and there is only one chance given.Brenda10 wrote:In my dd class, the teacher makes it a point that who ever 听写/默写 scored less than 70 have to stay back another day to re test…
During my time in P4, my maths teacher just asked the class to go back and learn the timetable (each time 3 sets like 1,2,3 or 4,5,6) and test us the next day. First thing the teacher did when the lesson starts was going round the class and test 1 by 1. Each student was tested 5 multiplication questions. If the student got anyone wrong, he/she was asked to go up and stand in front of the class. I really felt so stressful whenever there was a maths lesson. After the last student was tested, there were usually around 10 students up there and I were usually 1 of them. The boys were then be canned 3 times on the backside and the girls on palm. Some cried after the canning.
I told my dd she is so fortunate that her teacher made the effort to teach them multiplication using songs to make more fun and easier to remember.
Re: Do you compare your kid's marks with others?
I have created another thread here talking about comparing pay.markfch wrote:I guess most of us have worked before. My first boss told me never ever compare pay amongst colleagues (maybe he has vested interested so saying so ). But after working fo so long, I can see the wisdom in his words.KSP wrote:I try not to but sometimes I do ask. I really feel is not so healthy but we are human. I mean what if my child score higher or lower it is only a test or exam. But I really feel annoyed if parents ask me about my child's score. Especially those ask for the sake of comparing. I just told them which band and said forgot the exact marks. After a few time they catch my hint.
To me, comparing results is like comparing pay. Even if kid has 2 marks more than neighbour, alarm bells may sound cos why only 2 marks. Neighbour not very diligent you know etc etc. If results worse than neighbour, then the feeling is even more frustrating.
So why create opportunity to make ourselves unhappy? But I do agree that it'll be useful to see where we stand in terms of highest score, median score.
This is so unreasonable ! I never had a teacher who cane students because of poor results before, not even when they failed.jedamum wrote:In my class when I was P6, our chinese teacher makes it a point to cane on the palms, whoever 听写/默写 scored less than 80. There is no retest and there is only one chance given.Brenda10 wrote:In my dd class, the teacher makes it a point that who ever 听写/默写 scored less than 70 have to stay back another day to re test…
I think caning is no longer allowed in schools nowadays ?
In my girl's schools, kids who fail are asked to go for extra classes conducted by the school. This is the correct way of helping students, not public humiliation.
During my secondory school days, our crazy History teacher made those who failed eat a piece of the test paper!! Talk abt crazy!tamarind wrote:This is so unreasonable ! I never had a teacher who cane students because of poor results before, not even when they failed.jedamum wrote:In my class when I was P6, our chinese teacher makes it a point to cane on the palms, whoever 听写/默写 scored less than 80. There is no retest and there is only one chance given.Brenda10 wrote:In my dd class, the teacher makes it a point that who ever 听写/默写 scored less than 70 have to stay back another day to re test…
I think caning is no longer allowed in schools nowadays ?
In my girl's schools, kids who fail are asked to go for extra classes conducted by the school. This is the correct way of helping students, not public humiliation.
- autumnbronze
- Councillor
- Posts: 11719
- Joined: Mon Jul 13,
- Total Likes:63