pressure wise, it all depends on how you yourself feel.i3mum wrote:Just to ask anyone, if you are from a "normal-doing" family (stays in HDB flat, doesn't own a car, no maid) and you send your child to a good/elite school where most of the children come from rich families, do you think your child will feel pressurized?
I got a friend who keeps saying that she will not send her children to those elite school & prefers to send them to neighbourhood schools because she doesn't want her children to feel "pressurized". And she also commented that her kids will eventually "sense" it as they grow older.
What are your views?
there are quite a good no of rich kids from dd's school. of course some parents are a bit more snobbish but some do make an effort to fit in with the rest of the normal parents like me. they do drive big cars and some have drivers, 2 maids with cute expensive dolls waiting in school but most of these kids are pretty okay with similar interest in "hannah montanna, twilight, meg cabots, silly girls' crush, cutie stickers".
when we talk about cars or houses or bubbles or enrichment centres, it is usually about the advantages/disadvantages, who has lobang etc. we dont swing our fingers that have tonnes of bright shiny stones in the air all the time.
if you think pressure is due to the difference in wealth, what about education qualification of the parents? does it mean, if i am not a graduate, imy kids and i should feel ashame or inferior next to a parent who is a graduate?
or putting my kids in a neighbourhood school, make me morel superior to those who are from low income group? yeah, it is the low income group who should feel the pressure being in the same school as my kid...............
better stop now before i go off topic, too many things on my mind wrt this topic.