i thought that is called division of labour in an ultra super kancheong kiasu family ??carebear wrote:I am definitely not the kancheong parent, unlike my DH who is very super duper kancheong.
He does all the teaching and coaching, whereas I make sure my kids are well clothed and fed and am in charge of enrolling them into tuition centres and enrichment courses.
To me, academic excellence does not necessarily equal financial success. So as long as my kids are doing ok and not with bad company, I am already happy.
Any parents here ever felt pressurized by others?
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vk2010, why you expose people. So badverykiasu2010 wrote:i thought that is called division of labour in an ultra super kancheong kiasu family ??carebear wrote:I am definitely not the kancheong parent, unlike my DH who is very super duper kancheong.
He does all the teaching and coaching, whereas I make sure my kids are well clothed and fed and am in charge of enrolling them into tuition centres and enrichment courses.
To me, academic excellence does not necessarily equal financial success. So as long as my kids are doing ok and not with bad company, I am already happy.
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no lah, already self exposuremarkfch wrote:vk2010, why you expose people. So badverykiasu2010 wrote:i thought that is called division of labour in an ultra super kancheong kiasu family ??carebear wrote:I am definitely not the kancheong parent, unlike my DH who is very super duper kancheong.
He does all the teaching and coaching, whereas I make sure my kids are well clothed and fed and am in charge of enrolling them into tuition centres and enrichment courses.
To me, academic excellence does not necessarily equal financial success. So as long as my kids are doing ok and not with bad company, I am already happy.
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markfch,verykiasu2010 wrote:no lah, already self exposuremarkfch wrote:vk2010, why you expose people. So badverykiasu2010 wrote: i thought that is called division of labour in an ultra super kancheong kiasu family ??
now you have the answer of how to cope with the peer-pressures: come to KSP to do these exposures...or 自嘲....
Usually I'm the one after learning from KSP will go and tell my friends. So I'm one putting pressure on others .HyperKiasu wrote:markfch,
now you have the answer of how to cope with the peer-pressures: come to KSP to do these exposures...or 自嘲....
Carebear no offense, we are only joking ok? But if you really have to blame someone, vk2010 started it
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Haha...vicki,vicki wrote:I am the kancheong spider. Hb is the relaxed and calm turtle!!
So, hopefully we are a 'balance' for our kids!!
Same in my case. DH got no clues to enrichment class at all. So it's up to gan cheong mama (me lah) to plan for our kids.
Coming back to this topic, think all of us in KSP are pressurised in one way or another. Just a matter of the extent of pressure. Otherwise we wouldn't b in this forum.
B4 I joined KSP, i din even noe there are kids who knew this and that by age x. So it was like a wake up call to see if my DD knew some basics b4 entering a formal primary school education. I muz say it was scary.
But with more knowledge (from KSP of course ), I realise that I am clearer with my goals for my kids. Not necessary "the best" from other parents pt of view but it's "our best".
A lot of other friends/relatives/even my own mom, did gave us many opinions and we thank them for it. However we still persist with our own idea of "our best" instead of giving in to pressure coming from them.
Maybe other parents can share their "pressured" experience too?
Funny hor...but true leh...verykiasu2010 wrote:ksi wrote:No, I don't feel pressured by what others are doing for their children because every child is different. My friends share in great detail what they do for their children and sometimes seek my advice or opinion. If it has any impact on me, then I would be overly busy.
I feel more pressured by my own kid.
Yeah Blobbi....at least someone out there understands this "weirdness" of matter......Blobbi wrote:100% agree, ksi. I was struggling to come out with the words but you said it so precisely.ksi wrote:No, I don't feel pressured by what others are doing for their children because every child is different. My friends share in great detail what they do for their children and sometimes seek my advice or opinion. If it has any impact on me, then I would be overly busy.
I feel more pressured by my own kid.