How do you know your child is maturing?
I know DD is maturing emotionally when she started reflecting on her own actions. Just recently she showed me what she wrote in her journal.
'I was in a bad mood this morning and when didi asked me to play with him, I snapped at him. That made him unhappy and he went to complain to mummy. I was angry with him for complaining to mummy. I know I should not snap at him but I just did. But why must he complain to mummy? I am sorry for snapping at him but now I don't even feel like saying sorry.'
This to me is a huge milestone for DD. To be able to articulate her feelings like this instead of her usual method of bursting into tears and being totally incoherent which will drive me up the wall.
'I was in a bad mood this morning and when didi asked me to play with him, I snapped at him. That made him unhappy and he went to complain to mummy. I was angry with him for complaining to mummy. I know I should not snap at him but I just did. But why must he complain to mummy? I am sorry for snapping at him but now I don't even feel like saying sorry.'
This to me is a huge milestone for DD. To be able to articulate her feelings like this instead of her usual method of bursting into tears and being totally incoherent which will drive me up the wall.
to your DSmarkfch wrote:My ds can act like a mini adult sometimes. This event happened last Sat afternoon. DS was preparing to bathe. Then he took out his dirty clothes and put it on the bed. Too quick of mouth, I said this:
me: don't be an idiot, put your dirty clothes on the floor (I regretted saying tis half way thru my sentence)
ds: (turn around, and looking at me a queer manner) are you calling me an idiot?
me: (quickly change the subject) no, I mean you put dirty clothes on the bed is an idiotic action. I don't mean you're idiot.
ds: do you like people to call you idiot?
me: no, I'm sorry (now ego very small liao)
ds: don't let me catch you doing this again, ok?
me: I already said I'm sorry (almost whimpering)
After he's satisfied that he made me felt bad enough, he happily proceeded to bathe. So I must constantly remind myself to watch my words. Liddat qualified to be maturing or not?
awww... that's so sweet..Blobbi wrote:he'll always get the marks he deserved. That must have set him thinking because on the day before his latest test, I saw him fumble through his books and start learning loudly (for me to see lah ). He then asked me to test him after about 10mins. And why? "Because it's so true what you say, Mummy. I don't like the process, but I really like the full marks".
So happy that's he's growing up!
I agree with blobbi.. your DS is so lovingmarkfch wrote:I also have a story to share. But it's bittersweet. Recently ds told me that he wants to study hard to get good marks. 'Why?' I asked. His reply: 'Cos I want to make you happy'. I'm actually undecided whether or not his reason is valid. Cos I very much preferred that he wants to do well for himself, rather than to make me happy. Am I expecting too much?
Funz wrote:I know DD is maturing emotionally when she started reflecting on her own actions. Just recently she showed me what she wrote in her journal.
'I was in a bad mood this morning and when didi asked me to play with him, I snapped at him. That made him unhappy and he went to complain to mummy. I was angry with him for complaining to mummy. I know I should not snap at him but I just did. But why must he complain to mummy? I am sorry for snapping at him but now I don't even feel like saying sorry.'
This to me is a huge milestone for DD. To be able to articulate her feelings like this instead of her usual method of bursting into tears and being totally incoherent which will drive me up the wall.
Thanks for the encouragement, Blobbi. Yah, I guess I should be grateful that at least ds wants to study hard to make me happy. Btw, he's back to his old ways of wanting to kiss my on the lips againBlobbi wrote:Mark, your son is very young. These things, about independance and building up their own self esteem, they have to learn. And it takes many years to learn. We have to give them opportunities to do that. Two steps forward, one step back (and sometimes one step forward two steps back!!) is what I see in my little guy .
I'd love it if my son was as sweet as yours, to prize you so dearly. You have a very loving kiddo, Mark. Enjoy!
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Bad mummy, secretly reading dd's journal, keke. Your sweetie is so cute to be articulating her feelings. Hmm, you just gave me an idea. Maybe I should also encourage ds to do the same, then I can read him inside outFunz wrote:'I was in a bad mood this morning and when didi asked me to play with him, I snapped at him. That made him unhappy and he went to complain to mummy. I was angry with him for complaining to mummy. I know I should not snap at him but I just did. But why must he complain to mummy? I am sorry for snapping at him but now I don't even feel like saying sorry.'
No lah. Not secretly. She showed it to me. She's only 7yrs old, not 17 so no secrets yet. DD is a very expressive girl. Her emotions can be all over the place though. So this is a big, big, huge step. Only thing is she is still not very consistent. She still lets her emotions get the better of her. Well that is part and parcel of growing up. In any case, I dun want them to grow up too fast either.markfch wrote:Bad mummy, secretly reading dd's journal, keke. Your sweetie is so cute to be articulating her feelings. Hmm, you just gave me an idea. Maybe I should also encourage ds to do the same, then I can read him inside outFunz wrote:'I was in a bad mood this morning and when didi asked me to play with him, I snapped at him. That made him unhappy and he went to complain to mummy. I was angry with him for complaining to mummy. I know I should not snap at him but I just did. But why must he complain to mummy? I am sorry for snapping at him but now I don't even feel like saying sorry.'