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How do u treat the person who gossip about U behind yr back?

Postby loner » Fri Oct 08, 2010 4:34 pm

How should u behave if u know of someone who has been going around gossiping about u behind yr back?
A) Ignore and pretend nothing has happen and continue befriending her
B) Confront her
C) Keep a distance from her and hopefully she will get the msg.
D) others

PS. What if that someone happened to b yr sister/close friend/next door neighbour?

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Postby mrswongtuition » Fri Oct 08, 2010 4:39 pm

I normally chose B.
& I did just that recently to a close friend cum neighbour.
2 faced monster who tried to dig info fm me to gossip.

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Postby loner » Fri Oct 08, 2010 4:45 pm

mrswongtuition wrote:I normally chose B.
& I did just that recently to a close friend cum neighbour.
2 faced monster who tried to dig info fm me to gossip.


What if she denies and acts like a poor lamb going around claiming u have accused her :stupid:

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Re: How do u treat the person who gossip about U behind yr b

Postby buds » Fri Oct 08, 2010 4:49 pm

loner wrote:PS. What if that someone happened to b yr sister/close friend/next door neighbour?


Err... mother in laws included anot har? :lol:

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Re: How do u treat the person who gossip about U behind yr b

Postby loner » Fri Oct 08, 2010 4:55 pm

buds wrote:
loner wrote:PS. What if that someone happened to b yr sister/close friend/next door neighbour?


Err... mother in laws included anot har? :lol:


Of course lah! Mine not just deny but instead go round the "whole world" to tell relatives that I "bully" old woman :x

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Re: How do u treat the person who gossip about U behind yr b

Postby 24by7mum » Fri Oct 08, 2010 5:27 pm

loner wrote:
buds wrote:
loner wrote:PS. What if that someone happened to b yr sister/close friend/next door neighbour?


Err... mother in laws included anot har? :lol:


Of course lah! Mine not just deny but instead go round the "whole world" to tell relatives that I "bully" old woman :x


Well, if it is your MIL, it may be best to confront her once and for all with your FIL and husband present if you are concerned with what other people think about you. Or if you don't care, just let her ramble till people start to wonder if she is talking sense. In short, never let anyone control how you feel. You and you alone have control over your life!

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Re: How do u treat the person who gossip about U behind yr b

Postby daisyt » Fri Oct 08, 2010 5:48 pm

buds wrote:
loner wrote:PS. What if that someone happened to b yr sister/close friend/next door neighbour?


Err... mother in laws included anot har? :lol:


Hahahahahahaha!!!!!! :rotflmao:

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Re: How do u treat the person who gossip about U behind yr b

Postby buds » Fri Oct 08, 2010 5:54 pm

24by7mum wrote:In short, never let anyone control how you feel. You and you alone have control over your life!


Feelings are one thing... how we deal with it is another. :(
The tricky thing about marriage is we're not just marrying
the fella... it is also about the union of two families. It will
always be a sensitive issue, especially if the husband is
utterly close to the family.... he will take offence that u
claim his family is the one carrying tales.

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Re: How do u treat the person who gossip about U behind yr b

Postby LKVM » Fri Oct 08, 2010 5:58 pm

loner wrote:
buds wrote:
loner wrote:PS. What if that someone happened to b yr sister/close friend/next door neighbour?


Err... mother in laws included anot har? :lol:


Of course lah! Mine not just deny but instead go round the "whole world" to tell relatives that I "bully" old woman :x


Yeah so true :x :x :x

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Re: How do u treat the person who gossip about U behind yr b

Postby loner » Fri Oct 08, 2010 6:11 pm

I personally prefers to practice (A) initially but if that fella gets overboard I will choose (C).
Not that I'm a coward but more like experiences tells me that too many times the culprit will deny and there is nothing much u can do... :( This is especially true if she is "supposingly" :roll: yr close one :cry:

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