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Parents......is it our fault?

Postby Guest » Thu Jun 16, 2011 5:36 pm

Men/Boys wired to go for looks....women/gals _______to go for materialism? Please fill in the blanks with your own words.

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S’pore girls are materialistic: SMU study

A new research has shown that Singaporean women are "significantly" more materialistic than their American peers. Published earlier this year, the study by Singapore Management University (SMU) psychology professor Norman Li surveyed about 400 psychology students aged between 19 and 21.

The local females polled an average of 3.98, compared to the American women's score of 3.74. The closer the score is to five, the more materialistic one is deemed to be.

Survey findings also named a man's social status as the top criterion for Singaporean women when it comes to looking for a potential spouse, reported The Straits Times. Next on the list is kindness, followed by a lively personality. On the contrary, American women valued kindness the most, followed by looks, then a man's social standing.

While the study did not ask respondents for the reasons behind their answers, Professor Li said he is not surprised by the findings.

"Maybe Singaporean women are just being realistic. Here, you need a lot of money to survive and afford an affluent lifestyle. Maybe they are just being practical," said the 45-year-old American-born Chinese.

Those surveyed were students at SMU and the Northen Illinois University in the United States. They were surveyed on their attitudes towards marriage, children and preferences when it comes to choosing a partner.

"I think it is reasonable," said 22-year-old psychology undergraduate from National Technological University, Valerie Fong.

"Social status is parallel to money, and having that is like a validation from other people. It makes you feel good because others will approve of you. That and social comparison too, I guess."

"It is not a must but if you happen to chance upon one, why not? If you get a choice, you can certainly place yourself in an environment," she added.

"I guess that's true when you're looking for a husband, financial stability is definitely important," agreed Lydia Chan, 27, sales associate.

"But at the end of the day, money is not going to guarantee you a happy marriage unless you're seeking materialistic gains," she warned.

Other women Yahoo! Singapore spoke to were quick to disagree.

"I'm afraid I'm still old fashioned and traditional, but personality and kindness come first for me," shared Sharon Lim, 23, HR officer.

Said Deborah Tan, 23, an undergraduate, "I don't think the study reflects female students as a whole and it is unfair if it does. I think we have moved past materialism. To me, it does not have any meaning other than superficiality and shallowness which is what girls don't want to be associated with."

Lim Yan Han, 22, also agreed that the results are not representative.

"This is not something new," said the final-year National University of Singapore psychology student. "The findings back up the evolution theory that says men look for attractive women while women look for successful men."

"But what's the use of having a spouse who's a high flyer at work but doesn't communicate with you and instead, cares only about himself or his work?"

Professor Li's research found no major differences when it comes to men's preferences, however. His findings showed that looks remain the most important trait in a spouse for both Singaporean and American men, before kindness and a lively personality.

"Men are wired to go for looks," he explained, adding that a woman's physical attractiveness is a visual cue for fertility. Features such as "soft skin, full-looking lips and colourful cheeks" are not just attractive, but also associated with youth, which indicates a woman's fertility. That is why men tend to go for younger women, he added.
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Re: Parents......is it our fault?

Postby Oppsgal » Thu Jun 16, 2011 6:13 pm

Schools also need to be said got fault if parents also have fault in this?

I think is more to do with environment.

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Re: Parents......is it our fault?

Postby poppy15 » Thu Jun 16, 2011 6:20 pm

ksi wrote:Men/Boys wired to go for looks....women/gals _______to go for materialism? Please fill in the blanks with your own words.


desired

as in their desire for it

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Re: Parents......is it our fault?

Postby Guest » Thu Jun 16, 2011 7:54 pm

WCW wrote:tired? hahahaa....
coz need work damn hard for the materialism, very tire de lei


I like your version.....SMU should read this.
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Re: Parents......is it our fault?

Postby linden2000 » Thu Jun 16, 2011 8:06 pm

When I first read this article, what first came to mind is which part of America did the survey cover? I guess if it's New York for example, then perhaps it's comparative. But if it includes the more suburban parts of America where you can make a living on farms, then perhaps it's not so like for like.

Living in a city like Singapore is expensive and hence, financial stability which is very often a function of social status may be deemed important especially if the couple intends to get married and have children. So would think it is just being realistic rather than materialistic. And it's the top criterion but that does not mean it's the only criterion considered. :smile:

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Re: Parents......is it our fault?

Postby AceTutors123 » Fri Jun 17, 2011 9:25 am

linden2000 wrote:When I first read this article, what first came to mind is which part of America did the survey cover? I guess if it's New York for example, then perhaps it's comparative. But if it includes the more suburban parts of America where you can make a living on farms, then perhaps it's not so like for like.

Living in a city like Singapore is expensive and hence, financial stability which is very often a function of social status may be deemed important especially if the couple intends to get married and have children. So would think it is just being realistic rather than materialistic. And it's the top criterion but that does not mean it's the only criterion considered. :smile:



yes i agree. the target group of people surveyed is important to give us a more comprehensive view of the article.

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Re: Parents......is it our fault?

Postby wapobs » Fri Jun 17, 2011 2:28 pm

singapore women money face, got fault meh?
biasa la. :evil:

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Re: Parents......is it our fault?

Postby AceTutors123 » Fri Jun 17, 2011 4:14 pm

i think the whole nation as a whole should be at fault.
haha money minded singaporeans

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Re: Parents......is it our fault?

Postby Oppsgal » Fri Jun 17, 2011 6:03 pm

Conclusion? Environment here creates this?

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Re: Parents......is it our fault?

Postby Guest » Fri Jun 17, 2011 7:58 pm

Now I have something to say, this after all is a cross continent comparison, I believe if it is just Asia alone, SG will not rank high...... It would be HK, TW, China, JP, Korea before it reaches us........so it depends who they compare us to..... :lol:
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