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Schools should teach only biology of sex and leave morality

Postby tamarind » Tue May 19, 2009 2:30 pm

Hopefully ChiefKiasu will not merge this with the Aware thread. I did not join that thread because I am not concerned about Aware. This thread is not about the issues of Aware.

Interesting letter to the Straits Times :
Schools should teach only biology of sex and leave morality of it to parents

http://www.straitstimes.com/ST+Forum/On ... 78447.html

I REFER to last Wednesday's letter by Mr Warren Mark Liew, 'Instilling values a complex task'.
He questioned this assumption: 'All parents and teachers are sufficiently willing and able to teach their children the best values concerning gender and sexuality.'

As a full-time mother and a part-time educator in a polytechnic, I have this to say.

Just as I cannot be the best parent, and can only do my best, there are also no best values concerning gender and sexuality. There are only values I believe in, and these are the values I want to inculcate in my child.

As a parent, I am definitely willing and able to teach my child this set of values. I chose to be a stay-at-home mum to do just that. And I believe teachers should concentrate on the biology of sex education.

I do not deny the power of external influences. I only hope that over time, the values I have imbued in my child will take root, hold strong, and guide her in making informed decisions and facing the consequences of her decisions.

Meanwhile, I am here to censor. My child is only three years old and, at this point, I am still uncertain when I will lift the censorship. Based on my experience of working with 16- and 17-year-olds, I believe my child will still need my guidance when she reaches young adulthood.

My guidance will be in telling her - yes, you can definitely think for yourself now, but have you considered why you are thinking what you are thinking?

We do not need to worry that Internet-savvy young people are denied alternative views. We have to worry how and why they choose to adopt that particular value.

And when I say 'we', I am referring to parents, not teachers.
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Postby tamarind » Tue May 19, 2009 2:32 pm

I totally agree with the writer of the above letter, especially on her statement : "there are also no best values concerning gender and sexuality".

While I almost vomited when I watched Brokeback Mountain, and that was one of the movies I dislike most, I feel that what other people choose to do with their lives is none of my business.

Some parents may feel strongly that their values are right, but other families may not feel exactly the same.

Many years ago, the white people of America thought that black people should not be given the right to vote.

I certainly agree that parents should be the ones teaching the values, while schools should teach only the science.
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Postby ChiefKiasu » Tue May 19, 2009 2:36 pm

tamarind wrote:Hopefully ChiefKiasu will not merge this with the Aware thread. I did not join that thread because I am not concerned about Aware.


Yes, ma'am. :salute:

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Postby tamarind » Tue May 19, 2009 2:40 pm

Thanks Chief !

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Postby 3Boys » Tue May 19, 2009 4:38 pm

I agree completely. There is no such thing as values-free sex-ed. I am completely comfortable with my kids eventually having sex-ed, however, when it comes to controversial issues (which I shall not repeat here), I want the sex-ed class to completely reflect my view on the issue and not be 'neutral', which is unacceptable to me. Since one cannot and should not impose my views on others, and there is a diversity of views on this issue, and any programme with a broad audience can only ever be 'neutral', I agree that teaching just the biology is a reasonable if imperfect solution.

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Postby Guest » Tue May 19, 2009 5:52 pm

For biology class, this is expected to be covered from a science angle if one is required to know how the body function. Even at home, we teach biology of the body and how babies are conceived and born. I will explain sperm and eggs without qualms to the context of reproduction in science to my child or any child. So this part already exists in school. Science Centre used to have graphic images on the science of reproduction, is it still there?

I agree that parents should take the role of teaching sex education. However, for those who cannot, then at least some organisation can offer this and the best media is still school, a trusted organisation.

So it is back to square one...an optional education provided by the school but the content has to be checked thoroughly against family values.
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Postby Guest » Tue May 19, 2009 5:53 pm

3Boys wrote:There is no such thing as values-free sex-ed. .


I second this!
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Postby westmom » Mon May 25, 2009 8:08 pm

ks2me wrote:
I agree that parents should take the role of teaching sex education. However, for those who cannot, then at least some organisation can offer this and the best media is still school, a trusted organisation.

So it is back to square one...an optional education provided by the school but the content has to be checked thoroughly against family values.


"Ideally" sex education program in school should be taught by "married with kids" teachers/vendors !

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