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Postby vexedmax99 » Mon May 21, 2012 12:16 pm

you realised that your father in law "moslested" your helper??

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Re: How would you feel if .....

Postby Sun_2010 » Mon May 21, 2012 1:01 pm

vexedmax99 wrote:you realised that your father in law "moslested" your helper??

Disgusted and worried.
Can you veriy if it is true? - did you see it ? or is it the maid's word only? What did she mean by molest ? Do you have reason to believe it completely?

Try and not let it happen again.
Does your FIL live with you? Is your MIL around? Can you prevent FIL and maid being alone?
Can you share with husband? If the maid complains to agent then there would be problems for your family.

sort out your emotions and think practically.
Take care :hugs:

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Re: How would you feel if .....

Postby Precious2.lee » Mon May 21, 2012 1:01 pm

Did you hear from your maid or you have seen it? If this is true, it's going to be a police case because the maid can always report this incident. Think it's better to get your Hubby to talk to his father.

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Re: How would you feel if .....

Postby vexedmax99 » Mon May 21, 2012 1:04 pm

This is so sad... i am so disturbed :(

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Re: How would you feel if .....

Postby vexedmax99 » Mon May 21, 2012 1:06 pm

Maid is no longer around anymore, agent took her away

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Re: How would you feel if .....

Postby verykiasu2010 » Mon May 21, 2012 5:19 pm

so if the maid tell the agent = sure police case liao
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Re: How would you feel if .....

Postby Guest » Mon May 21, 2012 5:30 pm

Depends on how well you know your FIL.

If it is my FIL, it is highly impossible(his character, personality etc) so I would be suspicious of the claims from the maid instead.
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Re: How would you feel if .....

Postby peapot » Mon May 21, 2012 9:28 pm

I would feel sad but you can roughly judge his character if you have been staying with him for awhile.

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Re: How would you feel if .....

Postby Fat Mama » Mon May 21, 2012 9:47 pm

My friend's maid also claimed that the father molested her. They dont believe her and took her to the police. She became scared and admitted to the police that she lied hoping that they will quickly send her home.

Sometimes maids will find all ways to be sent home.

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Re: How would you feel if .....

Postby tutormum » Mon May 21, 2012 10:10 pm

I have had a student years ago whose grandfather sort of 'molest' their new maid of few weeks. My student's grandmother caught him hugging and trying to get fresh with the maid. I was giving my student tuition then. It seemed that he had done it before with other maids. The grandmother called her daughter immediately as he threatened to beat her up apparently for exposing him. My poor student was so frightened and I could only teach him to lock himself in the room and call for help if it ever happened again. My student and his sister were only left with the grandparents during the day. The maid followed them to their grandparents' house daily. :nailbite: You got to be careful whether the accusation is true or not cos during investigations your maid will be put up in the embassy and you have to pay her salary and levy during this period. Never let the maid be alone with the male members of your family including your DS.

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