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Postby rocklee » Thu Jun 25, 2009 3:14 pm

Thought of starting this thread as I believe all the mummies and daddies will be able to contribute. How many of the the mummies here delivered your babies with hubbies by your side? What was your re-action on the arrival of your new born? What was the re-action of your hubby? Any one fainted on seeing blood? Any one cried? hahaha..

My first pregnancy was a difficult one. I had bleeding for abt one month towards the end of the first trimester and I was confined to bed rest. It was the most terrible moment as I was so afraid of losing my baby. I began to get paranoid easily, always asking the question, what if this happen.. what if that happen... ? Finally, when it was time to deliver, I chose to be on epidural (too kiasi lor). As I had no strength to push, my gynae had to vacuum my baby out as his heartbeat was weakening and the umblical cord was round his neck. Before I knew it, my gynae informed me that my baby was out. I was totally not prepared! I closed my eyes tightly as I was afraid of seeing too much blood on the baby's body. I got so worried that I asked my hubby whether baby got two eyes, two ears, one mouth, one nose, ten fingers etc etc! (I think I have been the worst mummy on earth!) My hubby was very excited, he cuddled our baby and kissed him on the cheek. He kept saying that our baby was soooooo CUTE and asked me to open my eyes and see. I took a peek and was relieved. However, as I was not in the right frame of mind (vomitting and trembling due to the side effects of epidural), I did not cuddle my darling. I was probably the most heartless mum! I regretted immediately when my senses returned. I kept saying sorry to my darling and promised I will love him with all my heart! I was glad that my hubby was by my side and gave all the support that I needed and tolerating all the nonsense during my pregnancy.

When it was time for my second one, delivery was very much smoother. However, at the point when I heard him cry, "woooah...woooah!" (you know, the cry of a new born is very different from the cry of a toddler), the first thing that came to my mind was "Oops! we have to start all over again!" Nevertheless, this time round I remembered to cuddle and give his a kiss.

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Postby MMM » Thu Jun 25, 2009 4:16 pm

My experience was from normal to worst.

I had BP issue from the 1st pregnancy. As my gap between 1st and 2nd pregnancy is short (kids are only 11 months apart), my BP didn't really settle and I went on to have 2nd child. The result was I had pre-eclampsia, I had to rest for 2 months before delivery, go for weekly checkup and bloodtest. My son was mildly premature at 35 weeks, weighs 2.5kg and could hardly hear him cry. He was rush to NICU after delivery so never had a chance to hug,etc... But due to his weight, he was discharged together with me.

Gynae had asked me to stop at 2. So it was a surprise when I was realised I was pregnant with the 3rd child 3 yrs later. Still wonder how it happen. :? This time round, it was full blown. All was well until I was around 28 weeks. There was high level of protein in my urine so I had to go for weekly checkup and bloodtest. It last till end 34th week. Gynae said bb should be around 2.5kg. I thot yes, that's probably sufficient just like my son.

It was eventful delivery.... I had HELLP condition, my platelet count was too low so gynae said I cannot have epidural (I had that for previous 2 kids!!!) otherwise my blood cannot clot. Another specialist was called in as I had to have platelet transfusion during delivery. I had needles on both hands. It was traumatic and the entire wait was 16 hours. Gynae was glad that I was able to tahan and gave birth successful (fortunately it was my 3rd so it's "easier"). Baby cried really loudly when she came out, I thot to myself, this must be a "big" baby as compared to my 2.5kg son's cries. But guess what???? she is only 1.85kg!!! Next horror set in, insufficent birth weight so that means stay in NICU for longer period,etc... So nurse only showed her to me briefly and off she went to NICU.

I mged to see her once. I continued to have high bp after delivery so had to be on the bed. Friends who visited were "chased away" by nurses. Around 3rd day after delivery, I started to have blurred/ wierd vision. Eg. when I look at a photo frame, the shape got distorted. Cardiologist was called in and it appeared that my bp is causing my vision to be affected not to mention my liver and other internal organs that were affected due to high protein during pregnancy.

I was in hospital for a week and it cost us around $10k (in total for bb and myself). Baby was discharged 1 week after I went back. My blurred vision went on for 1 month and fortunately I recovered. But now, I've to be on bp medicine permanently and I am only in my mid 30's.

But for the kids?, thanks to my mum, the kids are now giants. My 2.5kg son is now in P1 and he is the 2nd tallest in class and definitely the fattest. Meanwhile for my 1.85kg girl, she is now in nursery and also one of the tallest child....

So childbirth for me isn't a beautiful experience and I am really stopping at 3 :D

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Postby EN » Thu Jun 25, 2009 9:03 pm

I was married for a year when one fine day, I have had a very bad stomach ache. The food that I ate has not even reached my stomach & within a minute of swallowing, there everything is being thrown out. Not only puking, I had a bad case of diarrhea too. The whole day I suffered & thinking that I might be dehydrated, dh sent me to AE. Dr thought must be a very bad case of stomach ache & gave me some medication to stop the pain & vomiting. The following day, it does not ease off & my mum just casually suggested, maybe I’m pregnant. She’s right. The bad case of vomiting lasted for 3 months. My weight was only 42 kg by then. I ate very little & I only drink Perrier. Right before I gave birth my weight was only 57 kg.

For my 1st kid, went to see gynae 2 weeks before due date. She commented that due to my size, I might not be able to give birth naturally. Both me and mum don’t quite take her seriously cause my mum gave birth to her kids naturally. Visited the gynae again a week before due date. It was early 8 am & I have made appointment with my sister to have breakfast at the hawker centre beside Gleneagles. But, I never had the chance. The gynae instructed me to be admitted to the hospital immediately due to the lack of fluid & the baby might suffocate. The nurses were instructed to give me nothing. No food, no drink (I think she is preparing me for operation). To make matter worst, I opt for a natural birth. There’s no epidural to ease my pain. The labour hour stretch from 10 am and I finally gave birth naturally at 9.30 pm.

I was probably the most heartless mum! I regretted immediately when my senses returned.


I was very hungry, my body sore all over, extremely prostrate that when the baby was placed on my tummy, I simply say “please get her off me”. It’s something that I regret to this day. My hubby was ecstatic & the very first one to kiss & cuddle her. My hubby insisted that I look at her. She’s a clean looking baby. There’s no blood, no sticky fluid on her. Her thick hair was slightly wavy & neat as if it has just been comb & she has deep dimple on both cheeks (none o f us has dimple), big eyes, fair & rosy cheeks. So…..rocklee, that makes us two. :cry:

My second child, it's totally another drama. I'll continue later since already written so long.

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Postby rocklee » Thu Jun 25, 2009 11:10 pm

Well mummies, no matter what you went through during prenancy and childbirth, I believe you will feel it is all worthwhile with your precious little ones. After going through the emotional and physical changes, we should be proud of ourselves. To me, nothing matters more that the health of my children. So everyone, please take good care, esp when the swine flu is spreading everywhere.

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Postby sunflower » Fri Jun 26, 2009 12:19 am

Mine was actually quite unevenful. Sailed thru my first pregnancy without any discomforts. Delivered within 3 hrs. Natural birth but VERY painful, was screaming like mad. Took only the mild pain killer injection and gas to counter the pain, because first time so felt that die die cannot use invasive pain control.

Second pregnancy just felt very heavy "down there" and difficult to walk. Even had chicken pox at the end of 1st trimester (VERY worrying at that time). Natural birth and delivered within 3 hrs. Also VERY painful and thought heck lah, try other means of pain management to see the diff. So got epidural at the last min...and THAT shut my mouth. Ha..ha...
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Postby winth » Fri Jun 26, 2009 10:21 am

I had planned for my first child to be born naturally and go for optional epidural should the pain turn unbearable.

I was warded in a week earlier in what I thot was contractions. False alarm. Slept overnight and got discharged.

Baby was 1 day late from the estimated due date, so my mum had instructed me to watch out for contractions, which she described that it was like cramps. At 12am, went for my pee and discovered light blood-stains. Blood stains not contractions, so I didn't think too much about it, so went to sleep till the next morning.

At 8am, hubby asked if we should check into the TMC first, I said wait till afternoon bec no contractions, plus only got blood stains. So had my breakfast before packing up for the hospital.

How I know, when I reached the reception, kanna scolded by nurse and said blood stains very dangerous ah... They got me a wheelchair and was wheeled straight into the delivery room.

Laid in the bed for hours while contractions started to get into me. By late afternoon, there was still no dilation, chose to opt for epidural. Nurse broke the water bag for me and was waiting for dilation, no news yet. Baby didn't want to come out, I thot. Nurse noticed bb's heart beat went down whenever I experienced a contraction. Doctor decided to go for emergency c-section as he said the umbilical cord might be entangling onto my bb, which in turns weakens his heart beat. Hubby who was all prepared to witness the birth of bb, could not be admitted into the ops theatre.

So I went to sleep, woke up, husband by my side.
Doc told him the umbilical cord had wound 3x round his neck.
Just like rocklee, I asked the same questions before I decided to see baby, "Does he look normal? Any birthmarks?"

When the baby finally came to me, nurse asked me if I wanted to feed baby the milk (no breastfeed for me). While feeding, I was looking at him to make sure he's 'normal', then noticed that I could only see his one eye opening up to look at me, so I pierced his other 'closed' eye to make sure there is an eyeball there and it's normal. :oops: Asked nurse to come look at his eyes, how come 1 closed 1 open... hehe... very dramatic. When reassured that it's very normal for newborns, only then did I cool down and started to enjoy holding him.

For my 2nd boy, I opted for c-section too. Easier, faster. Since was cut up liao, might as well go through it again. Hubby said he would rather be opted out from witnessing baby's birth as it will be very bloody. I opted to sleep through as well, bec I'm afraid of blood too... Baby 2 was alot faster and easier as it was through date selection, no need to wait for contractions and stuff.

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Postby MUMMYOF3 » Fri Jun 26, 2009 11:59 am

I delivered all my 4 baby boys naturally but all were induced early.

1st boy was induced early due to my water level low. Was in labour for more than 24 hours and can't tolerate the pain and opt for epidural.

2nd boy was induced at 38 weeks but unfortunately it was a stillborn due to umbillical cord accident. That was the worst and was in the labour room for more than 12 hours and kept crying throughout my labour. My gynae also never allow me to have any epidural.

3rd boy also induced as i was afraid after my 2nd baby. So i chose to induce him at 37 weeks but my gynae calculated wrongly and ended up my baby was a little premature and was in ICU for a week.

4th boy also induced at 38.5 weeks. Actually wanted him to come out naturally but have no courage to let him stay due to my 2nd baby experience. Labour was fast and my baby came out before my gynae arrived. Didn't opt for any epidural for both my 3rd and 4th baby since i've gone thru my 2nd baby w/o epidural.

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Postby EN » Sat Jun 27, 2009 3:24 pm

Doc told him the umbilical cord had wound 3x round his neck.


You are very lucky Winth. My colleague child did not make it due to umbilical wound around his neck. It is really sad to have carry a child in your womb for 9 months, everything things out fine but just before birth, accident strikes.

While feeding, I was looking at him to make sure he's 'normal', then noticed that I could only see his one eye opening up to look at me,


Haha. Mine too. But I did not pierce ds eyes. My mum told me that one of my sister eye was shut for 3 days before she open up a tiny slit. :lol: Must have run in the family.

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Postby EN » Sat Jun 27, 2009 4:06 pm

Pregnancy with my second child has been smooth sailing. No issue of craving either. But 3 weeks before I'm due to give birth, my 1st child was critically ill. Anxious about her condition & lack of rest, my BP surge to critical level. My 1st child was discharge after a week in hospital (out of KK) and immediately I went to Gleneagles to be induced.

The gynae has arranged to have me induced for morning delivery but I am required to check into the hospital the night before. So happily settled in the ward (does feel like staying in a hotel), I make myself comfortable & proceeded to watch a movie. My hubby by then has said goodbye as he was worried about our 1st daughter condition & promised to be back the next morning for the delivery.

While watching a movie, I went to the toilet 3 times to "pee", at very short interval. I was quite irritated when the nature calls me for the fourth time & grumpily walk over to the toilet. Half way towards the toilet, I have a huge unbearable painful cramp. Afraid that I might fall, I slowly crouch down on the floor not moving. I was frozen in pain & needed help but I was in the middle of "nowhere". The front door was 4 steps away from me, the toilet (it has the string to call the nurse for help) was also equal in distance towards the front door and lastly the bed was also about the same distance as to where I am rooted.

After calming myself down, was I then able to :idea: Crawling to the toilet sounds yucky so I ditch that idea. Crawling towards the door might not be a good idea as there might not be anyone in the corridor. So, I slowly crawl towards my bed, press the help button and waited on the floor.

Nurses came to check & yes, I'm about to deliver as the contraction came fast & strong. I was in the delivery suite & was so happy that my hubby was still around. He decided against going home but was drinking a cup of coffee & gave his phone number to the nurse in charge just in case he is needed. :love:

This time round my gynae came grumpily. She was expecting a morning delivery & there I was in labour just after midnight. Again the operating theatre was on a standby. The doctor warned my husband that I might need to be operated as my bp was surging high. Thankfully, the labour was short but it's definitely more intense than the 1st one.

Remembering my mistake of not kissing & welcoming my 1st child, this time I took ds in my open arm & start talking & kissing him.

Just like other mother, I check every details too. I was hoping that he will be as beautiful as his sister. But....very little straight hair, only one eye open & the other one small with single eyelid. Snub nose, fair but so much red dots all over his body, sticky & wah..... cry so loud.

Funny thing after I bald my kids up. DD whose hair was curly, now has very straight hair. DS whose hair was straight, then very curly & now ended with wavy hair. His eyes is slightly smaller than the other one. One bears double eyelid & the other single. Based on family traits, the single eyelid will turn to be double when he grows up, just like the mummy. :wink:

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Postby thebusybee » Sat Jun 27, 2009 4:50 pm

My birth story.....
Quick and No Suffering
- everything was too quick till I can't accept the fact, was kind of a 'blow' to me.

I carried BIG baby, was scheduled to induce (was told to prepare for C-section if can't deliver naturally) on a Wednesday. Few days before induction(Sunday), went for a swim at my sis' place, after which felt a bit weird as baby wasn't active, it remained that way till Monday afternoon while at work. I got worried so called the nurse to ask whether i should see the gynae, she told me to come in for a check up. After ultrasound, discovered my water level was low and advised to induce the same day.

At that stage, fear sets in, I was not ready to deliver yet!! Me and hubby decided to go home (had a choice of admission immediately or come back later), took dinner, shower then intended to check in after 11pm so as to save 1 night stay (as advised by dr before).

And so we dilly-dally till the nurse made a few calls to ask why I have not admitted yet.....then...we reluctantly checked in around 10pm +

After the nurse hooked some monitor machine up, discovered that baby was inactive, reported to my gynae and he RUSHED down within 1/2 an hour, gave quick explanation that baby might be in distress, need emergency C-section, then HURRIEDLY moved me to the OT.... at that moment....i realised it's for REAL, shivered and din have the chance to say long goodbye to hubby....as he was on the phone with family members.....

It was like, Snap Snap Snap, into theatre, ( i shivered even more, the OT is very cold and i had only a thin layer of rope on, every staff seemed so busy and rushing to cut me open, i worried more and tell them i have a lot of phlegm stuck in my throat, i worried i'll get choked to death while sleeping, they said will suck them out ), while continuing to hook me on tubes, needles etc, put the gas mask on then..zzz....

Around 30 min later, i was woken up by doc, first thing i feel was GREAT PAIN in the entire tummy area - like intestines and other organs not in the right place.

My first word was 'pain....' then asked about baby, doc said bb fine, then i went back to sleep.... (I had thoughts that maybe baby din make it and doc's trying to console me...)

Hubby actually went off to do some things in the work place while i was in the OT, thought that it's kinda silly to wait outside and let the imagination run wild. His phone happened to malfunction, after making several calls then doc/nurse managed to tell hub the news - mum and bb safe. DH was like :shock: - so fast come out already?

When he came back, the staff told him I'm in the delivery suite, but he only found my DS there alone for half an hour. (I was already in the ward) Can imagine how DS feels - arriving in a strange place without anyone he knows :cry:

So I was there in the hospital bed alone, can't accept the fact that I've delivered, DH then came, showed me videos of bb. Strangely there's no excitement seeing the video, even when holding him later, i just felt unbelievable as everything was too FAST.

By the way, DS weight 3.8kg, would not have make it to the world if i delayed few more hours as due to low water level, he's in distress and passed motion, he's soak in his own sh*t till chest level, would have inhaled the meconium and caused lungs problem. DH asked the PD if there's some resuscitation done to DS, he din answered directly but just said DS safe and fine. So till this day we think that DS wasn't responding when born and that was really a close shave. Glad that I made the right decision to see the gynae that afternoon.

If the god decides to bless me with another one or two more child, I very much want to go through a real labour if body permits. (Delivered 1st at 36, knowing that body needs longer time to jump start, so :pray: to have chance to experience natural birth )

for me, PAIN only came after birth of DS.

It's either 先苦後甜 OR 先甜後苦, which do you prefer?

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