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Parents suffer separation anxiety too?

Postby shinri » Thu Mar 14, 2013 10:36 am

Understand quite normal for kids to suffer separation anxiety when just starting school, but how about parents?
It's not just worry, but also missing DD a lot, wish to know what she's doing at the moment.

Also, is it normal for kids to change 'pattern' or behaviour due to separation anxiety?
DD used to like all kinds of fruits & love eating vegetables too.
But ever since she started school, she doesn't like vegetables anymore & only eats selective fruits.
Just very puzzled.
She's becoming naughtier than usual after picking her up from school.

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Re: Parents suffer separation anxiety too?

Postby ammonite » Thu Mar 14, 2013 10:45 am

I definitely suffered from separation anxiety. But I have learnt that it is also about trust in school and satisfaction with the perceived teaching. With ds1, I felt very unsettled, no matter which school he went to. With ds2, once I found the right school, all my anxieties melted away and i don't feel bad sending him to school every morning. Then I realised that I am dissatisfied with ds1's situation. I need to keep looking.

Food habit and naughtiness - probably due to peer influence.

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Parents suffer separation anxiety too?

Postby octoberbaby » Thu Mar 14, 2013 10:48 am

Now only P1, next time going to overseas study how? Even entry into NS also same feeling. Worry.

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Re: Parents suffer separation anxiety too?

Postby shinri » Thu Mar 14, 2013 11:24 am

octoberbaby wrote:Now only P1, next time going to overseas study how? Even entry into NS also same feeling. Worry.

not P1... just N1 lol...

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Re: Parents suffer separation anxiety too?

Postby slmkhoo » Thu Mar 14, 2013 11:29 am

shinri wrote:
octoberbaby wrote:Now only P1, next time going to overseas study how? Even entry into NS also same feeling. Worry.

not P1... just N1 lol...

The first time is the hardest, especially when the child is young and unable to express himself well. It should get better as the child grows more able, unless the parent (usually the mother) is really so invested in the child that she doesnt' have a life apart from the child. My husband is the sensible one I the family and will tell me when he thinks I am too molly-coddling. My kids are teens now, so we have 'let go' at various stages, but still have several phases to go!

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Re: Parents suffer separation anxiety too?

Postby dolphinsiah » Thu Mar 14, 2013 11:32 am

Watching your child learn to be independent is like flying a kite....

Slowly , slowly you let the kite fly higher and higher....

Then suddenly the line snap.....and they are on their own....

We as a parent is also learning how not to worry.... :xedfingers:

儿女是父母前世的债。所以,父母今生无限度、无限时的一生偿还。

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Re: Parents suffer separation anxiety too?

Postby shinri » Thu Mar 14, 2013 12:07 pm

1st week DD was fine a bit, didn't cry so much when I left her there.
This 2nd week, she started crying when I left, doesn't want me to go.
Today was ok, she saw her classmate and sat down ok, even waved bye to me.
DH reckoned DD got bullied in school or something frightens her off, so she didn't want to go.
I thought it was just separation anxiety, isn't it?

Most days her English teacher takes over in the morning, but today Chinese teacher took over morning session.

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Re: Parents suffer separation anxiety too?

Postby Oppsgal » Thu Mar 14, 2013 12:22 pm

shinri wrote:1st week DD was fine a bit, didn't cry so much when I left her there.
This 2nd week, she started crying when I left, doesn't want me to go.
Today was ok, she saw her classmate and sat down ok, even waved bye to me.
DH reckoned DD got bullied in school or something frightens her off, so she didn't want to go.
I thought it was just separation anxiety, isn't it?

Most days her English teacher takes over in the morning, but today Chinese teacher took over morning session.


Could be also bored in school. My kid does not like school sometimes. Cry when off to school.

My kid in the same cc for few months already then start crying. My kid told me is bored, prefer to stay home play together with me.

Lucky now, back to old time, happy to go school again. :shrug:

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Re: Parents suffer separation anxiety too?

Postby ammonite » Thu Mar 14, 2013 5:16 pm

oh N1, really still very small. It is normal to worry.
(they look so cute running out in their teeny tiny uniforms!!)

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Re: Parents suffer separation anxiety too?

Postby ChiefKiasu » Thu Mar 14, 2013 5:33 pm

shinri wrote:Understand quite normal for kids to suffer separation anxiety when just starting school, but how about parents?
It's not just worry, but also missing DD a lot, wish to know what she's doing at the moment...


I suffer from separation anxiety from many things, eg. my money, my clothes, my bolster... , but I'm happy just knowing my kids are under the excellent care of their teachers in school.

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