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Single friend/s who teach you how to raise your kids

Postby rains » Fri Dec 27, 2013 4:52 pm

I am on the verge of lashing back at a friend who constantly gives me lectures on how to discipline my kids, how to teach them independence, how to play with them, how to make time for them etc.

Do you have such friend/s and if you do, what do you say or do to minimise a fight over such topics? I feel that she's encroaching more and more into my motherhood territory and always telling me off about how I should raise my kids. I find that my patience is wearing thin and am no longer as gracious as I used to be towards her criticisms.

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Re: Single friend/s who teach you how to raise your kids

Postby pirate » Fri Dec 27, 2013 5:03 pm

Ask them to babysit for you. :evil:

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Re: Single friend/s who teach you how to raise your kids

Postby dolphinsiah » Fri Dec 27, 2013 5:30 pm

Ask her why she is still single? :evil:

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Re: Single friend/s who teach you how to raise your kids

Postby mummy OnABudget » Fri Dec 27, 2013 6:41 pm

i always retort if u think is so easy please bring him to your house to stay at least for 3days see if u can tahan anot

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Re: Single friend/s who teach you how to raise your kids

Postby janet88 » Sat Dec 28, 2013 9:52 am

mummy OnABudget wrote:i always retort if u think is so easy please bring him to your house to stay at least for 3days see if u can tahan anot

don't need 3 days...think she will surrender after 1 day 1 night.

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Re: Single friend/s who teach you how to raise your kids

Postby phtthp » Sat Dec 28, 2013 10:01 am

Ask her back -
Since she so eager to give you advice, best that she become a mother herself, experience it personally.

Tell her -
New year (2014) coming, quickly go dating agency find a guy, get married, have a kid. After got kid, then resume conversation to give u tips. Tell her straight in the face, "you be a mother first. Then our conversation on how to raise kids, can continue."

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Re: Single friend/s who teach you how to raise your kids

Postby rains » Sat Dec 28, 2013 10:23 am

She has lamented to me that boyfriends are hard to find so it won't be nice of me to ask her to go look for a boyfriend, will it?

As to becoming a mother herself, she is a teacher and doesn't think her experience of dealing with p1 and p2 kids is any less than a mother who parents her own kids. I tried explaining to her that dealing with your own kids is a different ball game but she doesn't see it that way, insisting that all the more she would be fiercer and stricter with her own kids given the same situation. How do you counter that?

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Re: Single friend/s who teach you how to raise your kids

Postby jetsetter » Sat Dec 28, 2013 10:28 am

teacher disciplining is diff from mother disciplining.

my take is: if u dun divulge or confide in her your DC woes, she has no opportunity to encroach into your motherhood space right?

so it starts with u, the mummy. stop telling her stuffs!

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Re: Single friend/s who teach you how to raise your kids

Postby mummy OnABudget » Sat Dec 28, 2013 10:39 am

janet_lee88 wrote:
mummy OnABudget wrote:i always retort if u think is so easy please bring him to your house to stay at least for 3days see if u can tahan anot

don't need 3 days...think she will surrender after 1 day 1 night.


janet if is ds hor i dont think need 1 day and 1 night tested and proven 5hrs max lol :dancing: :dancing:

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Re: Single friend/s who teach you how to raise your kids

Postby janet88 » Sat Dec 28, 2013 10:46 am

if any single woman tries to tell me how to raise kids, I would gladly pass my son to her for 3 hours and I bet she will beg me to take my son back.

a single teacher trying to be a mother...she gotta be nuts. the bell doesn't ring at the end of 30 min to teach another class.

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