11 yo jumped at Fernvale link

[slmkhoo]

Remarks: Tuition to start ASAP. Need a committed tutor. Student is a 10-month old baby. Tutor would need to play and converse with the student in Chinese language, materials like story books are provided.

So you see, parents of 10 month old baby also need to find tuition teacher.

End of the day, who is the one to push the child to excel? The ones who come to this forum to read!

To be fair to the parents, the requirement is not "tuition" in the typical sense as in book learning or drilling. If the parents don't speak Chinese, then it's actually not a bad idea to have someone come in to talk and play. I did that (for my 3 & 5yo kids) when we first went to China and they couldn't speak any Chinese at all (mine was too terrible then to be able to help them).

[sembgal]

Hi simkhoo, 3 and 5 years old not considered kiasu, in fact normal to have extra help to learn languages. I Can Read, Berries, they take in students from 3 years old onwards.

[BlueBells]

When a child did terribly for his tests / exams, who is / are the person the child is most feared to face, and show his results to? The school? The teachers? The friends? Or the parents? Why?

Who is the person whom the child would be extremely upset to be a disappointment to? Why?

These are questions I constantly asked myself. If the answers to one or both questions are : ME ; then I need to reflect long and hard as to how did I end up in such a state.

Parents are supposed to be a safe harbour to the child. If a child ends up fearing the safe harbour, then I don't know where else would be safer.

In our journey to help better our child, parents need to know when to grit our teeth and hold back.

Just my personal opinion, not flaming / insinuating / judging.

[SpartanMum]

When a child did terribly for his tests / exams, who is / are the person the child is most feared to face, and show his results to? The school? The teachers? The friends? Or the parents? Why?

Who is the person whom the child would be extremely upset to be a disappointment to? Why?

These are questions I constantly asked myself. If the answers to one or both questions are : ME ; then I need to reflect long and hard as to how did I end up in such a state.

Parents are supposed to be a safe harbour to the child. If a child ends up fearing the safe harbour, then I don't know where else would be safer.

In our journey to help better our child, parents need to know when to grit our teeth and hold back.

Just my personal opinion, not flaming / insinuating / judging.

You are right Bluebell. Thank you for this.

I remember when I did badly in exams, I just wanted to go home and spill the beans to my parents and get the load of my chest. I remember they never made me feel bad...only encouraged me. I am so grateful to them. Could not have asked for better parents...don't think I can ever match up to them.

It's absolutely normal to feel disappointment when kids don't do so well, the important thing is to remain calm and see how we can help them instead of berating them.

[ptb7476]

When a child did terribly for his tests / exams, who is / are the person the child is most feared to face, and show his results to? The school? The teachers? The friends? Or the parents? Why?

Who is the person whom the child would be extremely upset to be a disappointment to? Why?

These are questions I constantly asked myself. If the answers to one or both questions are : ME ; then I need to reflect long and hard as to how did I end up in such a state.

Parents are supposed to be a safe harbour to the child. If a child ends up fearing the safe harbour, then I don't know where else would be safer.

In our journey to help better our child, parents need to know when to grit our teeth and hold back.

Just my personal opinion, not flaming / insinuating / judging.

You are right Bluebell. Thank you for this.

I remember when I did badly in exams, I just wanted to go home and spill the beans to my parents and get the load of my chest. I remember they never made me feel bad...only encouraged me. I am so grateful to them. Could not have asked for better parents...don't think I can ever match up to them.

It's absolutely normal to feel disappointment when kids don't do so well, the important thing is to remain calm and see how we can help them instead of berating them.

last time when i get bad result .. i will jsut go home tell my parent .. get cane and move one .. life goes on ...

i wonder why children today cant do it ..

and parent... did they ask themselve how well they do last time .. if they themselve cant why pressurize the kid ...

alot of parent will reply .. i wan them good .. so that they wont reply the mistake i made .. etc .. but isnt life about making mistake and learn from it ?

[zulu]

When a child did terribly for his tests / exams, who is / are the person the child is most feared to face, and show his results to? The school? The teachers? The friends? Or the parents? Why?

Who is the person whom the child would be extremely upset to be a disappointment to? Why?

These are questions I constantly asked myself. If the answers to one or both questions are : ME ; then I need to reflect long and hard as to how did I end up in such a state.

Parents are supposed to be a safe harbour to the child. If a child ends up fearing the safe harbour, then I don't know where else would be safer.

In our journey to help better our child, parents need to know when to grit our teeth and hold back.

Just my personal opinion, not flaming / insinuating / judging.

You are right Bluebell. Thank you for this.

I remember when I did badly in exams, I just wanted to go home and spill the beans to my parents and get the load of my chest. I remember they never made me feel bad...only encouraged me. I am so grateful to them. Could not have asked for better parents...don't think I can ever match up to them.

It's absolutely normal to feel disappointment when kids don't do so well, the important thing is to remain calm and see how we can help them instead of berating them.

I believe it is very important for us parents to let our kids know that while we may at times be angry/ frustrated/ disappointed with our kids, our love for them is unconditional and we will always be there for them whatever the situation. Really hope my kid remembers that always.

[janet88]

I have a P5 ds and was really shocked when my friend sent me the news last night.

It is very common for P5 SA1 results to drop by more than 10 marks as there is a big jump between P4 and P5. Parents still have time to prepare the child for PSLE.

there is a big jump from p4 to p5...difficulty level drops across all subjects, esp math. it's really sad this boy had to end his life at this tender age.

when kids fail a test/exam, they fear letting their parents know and fear going home. it's very sad that their home becomes a dreaded place to return to when it is supposed to be loving & comfortable.

[Imp75]

Just told my P6 gal about this unfortunate incident. After that, she confessed that was a time (P3) she was worried about coming home after a disappointing exam result. I was horrified b/c I never scolded her before on results but maybe my disappointment showed in my face.....

[Giggler1]

Bluebell, you are so right!

[TheAnswer]

I have a P5 ds and was really shocked when my friend sent me the news last night.

It is very common for P5 SA1 results to drop by more than 10 marks as there is a big jump between P4 and P5. Parents still have time to prepare the child for PSLE.

there is a big jump from p4 to p5...difficulty level drops across all subjects, esp math. it's really sad this boy had to end his life at this tender age.

when kids fail a test/exam, they fear letting their parents know and fear going home. it's very sad that their home becomes a dreaded place to return to when it is supposed to be loving & comfortable.

I always tell my boy that no matter what results he got, daddy n I will accept n we will work harder together for next round.. we celebrate when exams end.. cos the effort has been put in..

Hubby n I always hug our kids.. reassure them..we work hard n play hard..

Have any issues can resolve it.. no need to resort to extreme solutions..