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Our parents' dreams ...

Postby ZacK » Mon Feb 15, 2010 2:14 pm

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Something I received in my email that i feel is worth sharing :celebrate:

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Something that we do often take for granted.

This is about a man who tells how his booking an air ticket for his father,
his first flight, brought emotions and made him realize that how much we all
take for granted when it comes to our parents.

My parents left for our native place on Thursday and we went to the airport
to see them off. In fact, my father had never travelled by air before, so I
just took this opportunity to make him experience the same.

In spite of being asked to book tickets by train, I got them tickets on
Lufthansa.

The moment I handed over the tickets to him, he was surprised to see that I
had booked them by air. The excitement was very apparent on his face,
waiting for the time of travel. Just like a school boy, he was preparing
himself on that day and we all went to the airport, right from using the
trolley for his luggage, the baggage check-in and asking for window seat and
waiting restlessly for the security check-in to happen.

He was thoroughly enjoying himself and I, too, was overcome with joy
watching him experience all these things.

As they were about to go in for the security check-in, he walked up to me
with tears in his eyes and thanked me. He became very emotional and it was
not as if I had done something great but the fact that this meant a great
deal to him. When he said thanks, I told him there was no need to thank me.

But later, thinking about the entire incident, I looked back at my life.

As a child how many dreams our parents have made come true. Without
understanding the financial situation, we ask for football, dresses, toys,
outings, etc. Irrespective of their affordability, they have satisfied to
all our needs. Did we ever think about the sacrifices they had to make to
accommodate many of our wishes?

Did we ever say thanks for all that they have done for us?

Same way, today when it comes to our children, we always think that we
should put them in a good school.

Regardless of the amount of donation, we will ensure that we will have to
give the child the best, theme parks, toys, etc. But we tend to forget that
our parents have sacrificed a lot for our sake to see us happy, so it is our
responsibility to ensure that their dreams are realized and what they failed
to see when they were young, it is our responsibility to ensure that they
experience all those and their life is complete.

Many times, when my parents had asked me some questions, I have actually
answered back without patience. When my daughter asks me something, I
have been very polite in answering. Now I realize how they would have felt at those moments.

Let us realize that old age is a second childhood and just as we take care
of our children, the same attention and same care need to be given to our
parents and elders.

Rather than my dad saying thank you to me, I would want to say sorry for
making him wait so long for this small dream. I do realize how much he has
sacrificed for my sake and I will do my best to give the best possible
attention to all their wishes. Just because they are old does not mean that
they will have to give up everything and keep sacrificing for their
grandchildren also. They have wishes, too.'

Take care of our parents. Don't take them for granted and make them feel
small and unwanted in their old age. They too have feelings/dreams/hope/
aspirations/wishes (and many broken/shattered ones) too while sacrificing them to give us our needs and our wants.
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May this be the year where we continue to build on existing relationships and work on re-building broken ones :pray:

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Postby BlurBee » Mon Feb 15, 2010 4:11 pm

:goodpost:
Thank you Zack.

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Postby ZacK » Mon Feb 15, 2010 7:52 pm

Thanks Blurbee ;)

I do have to admit when I was younger I was rather impatient with my parents. Dad's no longer ard and mum is aged... Right now I make a conscious effort to accede to my mum's requests whenever I can, just to appease her and make her happy, talk back to her less etc ... I guess a little sacrifice on our part is no big deal compared to what they had to do to bring us up. :celebrate:
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Postby markfch » Mon Feb 15, 2010 8:04 pm

I think most of us have a certain soft spot for our mothers. It's just that it's weird - to me at least - for sons to show their affection openly. If for no reason I decided to invite my mother out for tea, she'll either say 'what did the doctor say, how long more' or 'I don't have money to lend you hor'. :rotflmao:
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Postby ZacK » Mon Feb 15, 2010 8:15 pm

markfch wrote:I think most of us have a certain soft spot for our mothers. It's just that it's weird - to me at least - for sons to show their affection openly. If for no reason I decided to invite my mother out for tea, she'll either say 'what did the doctor say, how long more' or 'I don't have money to lend you hor'. :rotflmao:


Hahaha your mum is really funny LOL ...

I am definitely mummy's boy... The most affectionate thing I remember my mum doing was when I was still in primary school... Mum was helping out at a friend stall at the market downstairs... In the wee hours of the morning before we woke up, she would sneak into the room and plant a peck on my cheeks before she leave the house. On quite a number of occasion I could feel her kiss although I acted as if I was still sleeping :love:

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Postby mintcc » Mon Feb 15, 2010 8:31 pm

:goodpost:

Thanks for the story Zack. I have good childhood memories of my mum too..it is a timely reminder. Good idea to find out what little dreams they have that we can fufill...but my parents always says they don need any thing...so like you I just try to appease my parents, call more often and bring my DS to see her... :celebrate:

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Postby ZacK » Mon Feb 15, 2010 10:02 pm

mintcc wrote::goodpost:

Thanks for the story Zack. I have good childhood memories of my mum too..it is a timely reminder. Good idea to find out what little dreams they have that we can fufill...but my parents always says they don need any thing...so like you I just try to appease my parents, call more often and bring my DS to see her... :celebrate:


Haha you're welcome mintcc ;)

As far I know or perhaps it has not reached my ears lol... I shd be among those, of my siblings, with fewer complaints from my mum... :sweat: ... cos you know lar.. older people tend to be :rant: at times.

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Postby Guest » Tue Feb 16, 2010 12:59 am

Thanks for sharing Zack.
All of us can do with a reminder sometimes and be inspired. :celebrate:
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Postby ZacK » Tue Feb 16, 2010 2:12 am

ks2me wrote:Thanks for sharing Zack.
All of us can do with a reminder sometimes and be inspired. :celebrate:


Yeap the reminder was for myself too when i saw the email... I mean it is a given that we would plan and make sacrifices for our little ones just so that they may live their dreams... But we somehow not many think of doing the same for our parents who as if not more impt.

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Postby autumnbronze » Tue Feb 16, 2010 3:10 am

Thank you Zack, for sharing.

Its a beautiful beautiful read :D

The article is right. We should not EXPECT our parents to sacrifice after what they have done for us.

Its not too late, really, to help fulfill some, if not all of their dreams :celebrate:

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