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Postby auntieM » Wed Feb 24, 2010 10:08 pm

Before motherhood I really can chiong majong and dai ti type...
I was lucky even at Casinos...

Stopped playing for almost 8 years liao, and haven't looked back.

When DS picks them up next time I will advice him not to play too 'big' and too often.
I think it is the kakis you mix around with. :wink:

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Postby jedamum » Sun Feb 28, 2010 9:17 pm

as of now, my husband is at his grandma's place playing mahjong with his relatives. :|

call me a square, inflexible or whatever, i am not a risk taker. i am a product of strict upbringing of no gambling (4D or lottery not included though...but i only buy them like <10times per year?) - we were not allowed to even play cardgames when we were young. i have to keep my stack of cute bobdog poker cards from my dad so that he will not hit the roof.

so my stand is No gambling; but think husband will probably overwrite me. :roll:

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Postby skunk » Mon Mar 01, 2010 8:24 am

Highly intelligent people are both drawn towards gambling and away from gambling...as to whether they will end up compulsive gamblers, often it depends on the environment they are in, not even so much as will-power. If they're surrounded by gamblers, and grow up in a gambling-obsessed household, they're more likely to end up gamblers than not.

For intelligent people, gambling is fun, because the games often challenge their brain, to try to maximise their chances at winning, no matter how small it is. They're likely to become bored at purely-chance games after a while. Like Roulette, after 2 hours I feel like killing myself, and I don't even consider myself highly intelligent LOL.....my conclusion is that those addicted to purely-chance games, are more likely compulsive gamblers seeking the routine of the game to numb their senses....either that or they're not too smart LOL

Conversely, intelligent people are also drawn away from gambling, because after a while, they see the folly of trying to pit intelligence against luck....that it's really not worth the effort, no matter how intelligent they are. For those people not too smart, they might not realise they can actually earn more money through work than gambling hehe.

I'm not against gambling, I do go to casinos overseas, like maybe once a year, and I buy Big Sweep every week...but I believe it's no use preaching the anti-compulsive-gambling stance....those who will, they will no matter what, and those who won't, simply won't.

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Postby hquek » Mon Mar 01, 2010 9:35 am

I tell my kids gambling is not good - they are still small so no point explaining the nuances. Then again, I have to try to counter what they see from daddy/grandparents (as in discussing 4D, Toto). So for now it's, "buy small ok; cannot play with what you don't have".

Am very glad that i don't have gambling luck....so I'm not inclined in anyway. My take is that if it's my luck $1 will do the trick...no point to spend more.

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Postby concern2 » Mon Mar 01, 2010 9:55 am

jedamum wrote: i am a product of strict upbringing of no gambling ...we were not allowed to even play cardgames when we were young.


I share the same upbringing. Fortunately, my husband has the same stand on gambling too, but not so much on TOTO, cos his mom would remind him to 'buy' if they chance upon some 'meaningful numbers' :wink:

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Postby Funz » Mon Mar 01, 2010 11:19 am

Me and my sisters and our cousins were exposed to card games at a young age. Not gambling but games. 3 kings, blackjack, fishing, gin rummy, poker, chor dai di, mahjong. I remember doing a math project on probability using card games. Scored an A+ for that. hehe.

When we grew up, we added stakes to these games but friendly ones. In my late teens and 20s, the stakes were alcohol. You lose, you down a shot. Now, the only card games I play will be mahjong and that is only during family gatherings.

My dad was not adverse to a little friendly gambling but he drilled into us that we must know our limit. Told us if we are too weak to walk away when we are losing, then don't even start gambling. He also told us we must know how to choose our gaming kakis. Best to be among close friends and family. Don't gamble with total strangers. And if among friends there are big risk takers, stay away from the game with these people.

With my kids, I guess I will also be teaching them similar things. Expose them to the games but also impart to them the values of being prudent. As it is , at the age of 4+ and 6+ yrs, they know a set of 3 of the same cards make a pong and 4 cards make a gong.

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Postby LKVM » Mon Mar 01, 2010 11:21 am

jedamum wrote:as of now, my husband is at his grandma's place playing mahjong with his relatives. :|

call me a square, inflexible or whatever, i am not a risk taker. i am a product of strict upbringing of no gambling (4D or lottery not included though...but i only buy them like <10times per year?) - we were not allowed to even play cardgames when we were young. i have to keep my stack of cute bobdog poker cards from my dad so that he will not hit the roof.

so my stand is No gambling; but think husband will probably overwrite me. :roll:


I share the same sentiments like you jedamum I am very strict for my kids and totally no gamblings of any kind till they reach maybe teens

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Postby schellen » Mon Mar 01, 2010 11:44 am

i also learned mahjong while watching the adults. my cousins and i will hover around the table to watch but often get chased away as the adults said something about us being bad luck (i.e., too close to their shoulders). we kids will have our dinner first, then, when the adults go for dinner, we'll take over the table and mimic what we saw. i also learned card games like poker and daidi like this. my late grandfather actually sponsored us in our games during cny gatherings. i feel that it's okay as long as you play with people you know and trust, and play "small". nowadays, it's difficult to play with my cousins due to our busy schedules, even during cny, so when i feel like playing mahjong, i play with the computer. :wink:

sashimi doesn't know how to play such games except maybe for poker, but he buys 4d/toto/big sweep when the winnings are big and he'll ask DD1 for numbers or to choose the ticket. as for me, i have never bought such things and i still don't feel the urge to since i see no point in doing so.

so i guess when our DDs are old enough to understand AND are showing an interest in such things, we'll guide them so that they can still get a kick out of playing but not to the extent of getting addicted.

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Postby jedamum » Mon Mar 01, 2010 11:50 am

Funz wrote:we must know our limit. Told us if we are too weak to walk away when we are losing, then don't even start gambling. .

gambling is sometimes also a form of peer pressure at work. having lost $60 at a game supposedly to end at 9pm, my husband was 'coaxed' (by the relatives) to stay for another round probably to recoup his losses - he ended up another $20 poorer. Of course i don't nag at him when he returns (although i noticed that my MIL tried to siam me :wink:) as i don't mind it is a once in a while entertainment expense; then he said that the relatives suggested another game next weekend. To go or not to go? Not to go, will reflect an image of a sore loser - if it is a case of 'missing a leg' in mahjong game, it has become his 'obligations' to attend as it is a request by 3 seniors. To go, then how about the following weekends? and the following? He is pitting against veterans (relatives) that need not save for kids education and need companion over weekend cos their kids are all grown up.
Additionally, losers usually won't feel good; it was already close to midnight, he was tired, lost money; his handphone had to hang at this time; imagine his mood and the atmosphere around the house at that time.
Let me be the bad guy; I shall cook up some excuse for him to use then. :roll:

Of all vices, i will view addiction to gambling as one of the deadliest. My children can wait until they are older (18yo) before i will review based on their circle of friends and maturity if minor gambling is allowed.

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Postby skunk » Mon Mar 01, 2010 11:52 am

schellen wrote:so i guess when our DDs are old enough to understand AND are showing an interest in such things, we'll guide them so that they can still get a kick out of playing but not to the extent of getting addicted.


I share the same philosophy. Life is a gamble sometimes, whether it be starting a new biz, buying stocks and shares, even marriage LOL Nobody can truly say he/she doesn't gamble at all. Even going out without an umbrella, is a gamble it won't rain hehe.

The key is to take calculated risks, and learn how to walk away to cut losses :)

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