Is full day CC really good for our kids?

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Is full day CC really good for our kids?

Postby poison » Thu Mar 11, 2010 5:49 pm

For those stayed home or home working moms, do you place ur child in full day CC centre? As young as 3 years old?

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Postby toddles » Thu Mar 11, 2010 6:49 pm

I think full day childcare is usually one of the 'last resorts' since if you have a trusted caregiver at home it's still better to have the kid go for half day N1 for instance, and spend the rest of the time at home.

just my opinion. :)

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Postby tankee » Thu Mar 11, 2010 8:07 pm

Likewise, IMO full day child care only if there is no other choice.

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Postby titank » Thu Mar 11, 2010 10:41 pm

Yes only go full day childcare if really have no alternative. The most thing worried the most is the outbreak of HFM as the duration in the CC in pretty long compare in a kindergarten.

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Postby mrswongtuition » Fri Mar 12, 2010 10:30 am

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Just to share,

I sent my boy to childcare at 18 months old.

Although I have a maid and my dad can help to look after during the day, I still sent him to childcare. Why?

At home, there's hardly any 'meaningful activity' during the day. He just plays on his own while my maid is busy with housework and preparing his food/clothes/etc.

My dad is not trained in education and does not know how to teach or what to teach. All he will do is play with my boy, bring him down for walks and let him watch TV. Nothing much learnt at home during the day when we are at work.

At childcare, my boy learnt to interact with other children. He learnt to share (something which is quite hard to teach at home since he's the only child at the moment). He learnt to be more vocal and verbalise his needs. He learnt to feed himself (something which may not happen with my maid and dad spoiling him at home). He learnt to pack up after himself (must put all the toys back at original place; though we enforce this at home, it's hard for him to carry it out. At school, all the kids do it together, so there's some peer pressure). He also learn to stand up for himself and defend himself when bullied. They also taught him to be very hygienic (must wipe up or wash up immediately after getting dirty).

Alot of 'softskills' which is hard for us to teach at home due to doting grandparents is taught in childcare.

Then there's academic knowledge too. They have storytelling everyday, song & dance, flashcards, art & crafts, etc etc. Their day is so fun filled. My boy enjoyed it very much.

Of cos the usual concerns of falling sick easily, getting HFMD, etc was there too.
We chose a SMALL childcare, not crowded, well seperated classes, good hygiene practices. In my boy's 1.5 years there, he got HFMD once but it was from church, not from childcare.

Before we started him in the CCC, we started him on some supplements to help boost his immune system. Probiotics, colostrum and multivits (due to his poor appetite at that time) were given 2-3 months before he started CCC.

He did not fall sick often like what others would mention. He only fell sick twice, once with HFMD, once with flu (got it from me & my hb).

Since we have extra help at home, my parents will take turns to pick my boy up at 5pm everyday instead of waiting till closing time, 7pm. My hb starts work rather late, so he sends my boy in at around 9+am everyday.

Now that my boy is older and easier to manage (more independant, will spend his time doodling, writing, playing on his own), we send him to a kindergarten (few hours a day). It's more academic focused, which is what hb & I want.

It's really up to individual needs and wants, plus how much your family can chip in to help :)
I think since it's SAHM or WAHM, for 3yo kid, can find a preschool for few hours a day instead of CC (Pre-nursery like my boy).
I know of SAHMs who send their kids to half day CC to have some 'alone time' and some time to catch up on housework. Some of them have A FEW kids at home (young babies), so they send the older ones to CC so that they can manage the baby in the day.

What's your purpose of considering CCC? To have more time to yourself? Can't cope with kid and housework? To let your child learn more during the day?

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Postby mathsparks » Sat Mar 13, 2010 2:19 pm

Perhaps, poison, you can consider half day instead so he can learn social skills while avoiding the frequencies of flus/wat-nots.

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Postby EstherTan » Mon Mar 15, 2010 10:39 pm

Agree with Mrs Wong there. I also sent my girl to CC at 2 years old, but I opted for 3 full days rather than 5 half days etc. Reasons were very much the same. I don't have a maid, but work mainly in the afternoons (on off peak months) and my mom helps with her general care. My main concern at that point of time was that she didn't get much opportunities to socialize with other kids and was developing too fast for me to keep up. Having her in CC took a bit of load off me and provided the structure that she needs to help her develop skills.

Of course, illnesses cannot be avoided, but I think kids will get these sooner or later. If my girl is not extremely sickly, I think it's OK to expose these to her now and let her develop her immunity system. With regards to HFMD, perhaps you'll need to do your research on the school to see what their background with regards to these cases is like.

A doctor once told me this - if you don't want your daughter to fall sick easily, don't send her to school at all (and he really meant AT ALL). My thoughts? Not realistic at all.

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Postby penglee » Mon Mar 15, 2010 11:58 pm

hi poison, there is another thread discussion on childcare --> http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=1929&start=90

My own pov, I can understand why so many people are reluctant about sending their kiddos to childcare.
For us, even if we have caretaker at home ,or Mummy is sahm, I would still like to send my kiddos to childcare.

The Benefits outweigh the Negatives.
MrsWongTution has a comprehensive breakdown.

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Postby kiddo » Tue Mar 16, 2010 9:11 am

mrswongtuition wrote:Just to share,

I sent my boy to childcare at 18 months old.

At home, there's hardly any 'meaningful activity' during the day. He just plays on his own while my maid is busy with housework and preparing his food/clothes/etc.

Alot of 'softskills' which is hard for us to teach at home due to doting grandparents is taught in childcare.

Then there's academic knowledge too. They have storytelling everyday, song & dance, flashcards, art & crafts, etc etc. Their day is so fun filled. My boy enjoyed it very much.


Bravo! :love: mrswong

I did the same thing for my small bee at 18 months .
I have many resistance from the babysitter, my mother my sisters
and almost everyone I met , and I am glad I have
made the decision because small bee really pick up a lot of
skills which he will not learn at home, be it with babysitter or grandparents
unless there is some focus on understanding that young children
at this age do learn and pick up skills we may not realised.
:wink: :idea:

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Re: Is full day CC really good for our kids?

Postby sleepy » Tue Mar 16, 2010 9:47 am

poison wrote:For those stayed home or home working moms, do you place ur child in full day CC centre? As young as 3 years old?


That depends on whether you have another younger child to take care at home or an elder child to coach in school homework? Or if you are a WAHM, then half day childcare may meet the purpose. You would have a few hours to concentrate on your work or coach the other child while younger one is in childcare. I view childcare centers as babysitting arrangement rather than learning centers

If your 3yo is the only child and your intention is to let him socialise or learn in a more structured environment, then I feel it's unncessary to send to full day childcare.
Just send him to weekly enrichment classes. At 3yo, there are plenty of enrichments available and enrichment classes are much more indepth than what a child can learn in a childcare environment.

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