TIME magazine:Spanking makes children violent later in life
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When DH and I started out as parents, we decided on a reasoning via logic approach. The thing is, we'd been talking to him ever since he was a baby, we never used baby language. So we figured we'd had ample time to set him up so that he would 'get' us whenever we rationalize his misdeeds. Well, he does 'get' us, because he acknowledges, but I suppose a child has to be a child and will, inadvertently be up to mischief again.
DS is almost turning three. While he does generally listen to us, there are times that he gets us really with his nonsense. I think many would refer to this as a 'testing phase'. There have been times we'd resort to smacking his leg or hand as a very very last resort, though honestly, we make it a point for it to be few and far in between. We really don't like using this method ... but we use it after warning him several times as we don't want it to be a sudden thing and that he has to understand that he has 'earned' it due to his naughtiness. This will kind of 'stun' him, bring him to his senses and he will quieten down (after a short but huge burst of crying fit lah). We will then make it a point to explain to him our course of action a little later.
I hope to be able to do away with this completely
Hence, spanking is not something that I would advocate as a 'routine' form of punishment. Children tend to emulate. So my vote is on the second one.
Actually come to think of it, I think for me, I tend to raise my voice as a last resort a lot more than to smack him
DS is almost turning three. While he does generally listen to us, there are times that he gets us really with his nonsense. I think many would refer to this as a 'testing phase'. There have been times we'd resort to smacking his leg or hand as a very very last resort, though honestly, we make it a point for it to be few and far in between. We really don't like using this method ... but we use it after warning him several times as we don't want it to be a sudden thing and that he has to understand that he has 'earned' it due to his naughtiness. This will kind of 'stun' him, bring him to his senses and he will quieten down (after a short but huge burst of crying fit lah). We will then make it a point to explain to him our course of action a little later.
I hope to be able to do away with this completely
Hence, spanking is not something that I would advocate as a 'routine' form of punishment. Children tend to emulate. So my vote is on the second one.
Actually come to think of it, I think for me, I tend to raise my voice as a last resort a lot more than to smack him
Last edited by autumnbronze on Sat May 01, 2010 5:36 pm, edited 1 time in total.
Pull your ears doesn't sound half as bad as pull your eyes. Pull your eyes seems a bit off as a punishment.outsider wrote:2) you mean ears ?adhdadhd wrote:I have 3 ways to punish my DS,
1) "face the wall" aka time out or thinking corner
2) kneel down and pull your eye.
3) physical cane, hand or backside.
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I don't believe in sparing the rod either. I will spank the child if the occasion warrants it. In practice though, I must say I have surprised myself by how little I have had to resort to it. In the 6+ year raising 3 kids, I don't think the net total amount of spanking/caning for all 3 exceeds 10 occasions.
What did stop me cold one day was when DS1 hit DS2, believing that to be the way to discipline the didi. Really got me thinking.......
What did stop me cold one day was when DS1 hit DS2, believing that to be the way to discipline the didi. Really got me thinking.......
markfch wrote:Pull your ears doesn't sound half as bad as pull your eyes. Pull your eyes seems a bit off as a punishment.outsider wrote:2) you mean ears ?adhdadhd wrote:I have 3 ways to punish my DS,
1) "face the wall" aka time out or thinking corner
2) kneel down and pull your eye.
3) physical cane, hand or backside.
...