Reverse psychology works???

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Reverse psychology works???

Postby Jennifer » Fri Sep 26, 2008 12:32 pm

Do you have this experience?

1. Mummy tells the child (a P1) caringly to sit up straight (posture), don't bend towards the table when writing/drawing/colouring (eye care), etc and these advice falls on deaf ears.

2. Then mummy turns on the angry mode after so many repeated incidences and the child feels upset too as mummy is so nagging.

3. Then mummy says she surrenders since it is his body, not hers. If he does not want to take care of it himself, whatever happens to him is now none of mummy's concern.

4. Then the child straightens his thoughts and decides to heed those advices (at least for a day).

Does reverse psychology work???

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Postby sleepy » Fri Sep 26, 2008 2:20 pm

haha! this sounds very familar
happen to me all the times. Not only posture. Almost everything kanna challenge when they are in a defiant mood

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Re: Reverse psychology works???

Postby jedamum » Fri Sep 26, 2008 3:51 pm

Jennifer wrote:3. Then mummy says she surrenders since it is his body, not hers. If he does not want to take care of it himself, whatever happens to him is now none of mummy's concern.

4. Then the child straightens his thoughts and decides to heed those advices (at least for a day).

Does reverse psychology work???

I guess it is not so much on reverse psychology.
the kid is probably more concerned that mummy doesn't bother about him anymore..and that can be pretty scary when someone gives up on you.

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Re: Reverse psychology works???

Postby ChiefKiasu » Fri Sep 26, 2008 10:29 pm

Jennifer wrote:...Does reverse psychology work???


Hmm... interesting. But has anyone had the reverse situation when your child applies reverse psychology back on yourself? I get it all the time... eg:

Him: (staring pensively at the ice cream parlour)
Me: You want an ice-cream issit?
Him: Er... I think I dowan lah. I had one last week. You said cannot eat too much otherwise I cough, right?

At this point, can any parent say no?

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Re: Reverse psychology works???

Postby Jennifer » Sat Sep 27, 2008 8:26 am

ChiefKiasu wrote:
Jennifer wrote:...Does reverse psychology work???


Hmm... interesting. But has anyone had the reverse situation when your child applies reverse psychology back on yourself? I get it all the time... eg:

Him: (staring pensively at the ice cream parlour)
Me: You want an ice-cream issit?
Him: Er... I think I dowan lah. I had one last week. You said cannot eat too much otherwise I cough, right?

At this point, can any parent say no?


Why not? I would praise your child for his sensibility.

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Postby mstan » Tue Sep 30, 2008 10:56 am

It doesn't work on both my daughters.

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Postby agent66 » Tue Sep 30, 2008 4:25 pm

My gal does it quite often. She would say : Mummy said cannot eat chicken rice so often right? so I don't want chicken rice today."

Then I will praise her and tell her that I am glad she remembers my words.

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Postby ChiefKiasu » Wed Oct 01, 2008 11:04 am

mstan wrote:It doesn't work on both my daughters.


Maybe you are doing it wrong? :) It works so well with my children that they are using it back on me :)

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