agree with you there. My kids have everything they need but they are not spoiled kids I can assure you. Material things are just things..your love and attention affect them much more.sleepy wrote:It's not only the material things. Sometimes it's the tone of voice. Or perhaps more gentle, more patient, more tolerant of tantrums to one over anotherjedamum wrote:Favouritism has nothing to do with how affluent the parents are. Lesser well off parents need to deal with limited resources to be shared among their offsprings. There is only one way to avoid your child's perception of favouritism - don't give him/her any siblings.markfch wrote: I thought it's goes like this ... The more material things our parents possess ==> the more we stand to lose ==> more incentives for in-fighting ==> higher chance for perception of favoritism?
Luckily neither my parents nor I am rich ... so nothing to fight for, keke.
My dd1 receives more new clothes, more new stationeries, more food, more pocket money, more attention but she's still immensely jealous of the special bond I shared with her younger sister
I find that they get upset if I used a certain tone of voice or just words of praise for job well done... guess it comes down to sibling rivalry. I will never favour one over the other as I love them equally. I can tell them this everyday but they will still be bickering over my slightest attention. So I hv to watch myself when I am dealing with them.
My DS has a problem letting go..he can be so whingey and it drives me nuts. So sometimes, my voice will go up a few decibels when talking to him. But my DD is not whingey at all, she 's very clever at pleasing you so given a situation like mine, it is very hard to appear neutral even when you feel that you're being fair. .