How to handle an active preschooler

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Handling active preschooler

Postby ppnqq » Wed Oct 20, 2010 4:43 pm

How do you handle an active preschooler who doesn't always listen when overseas and worse, not all time leisure but mostly for serious matters such as business?

(I know some will advise not to bring him then but we have no others to help look after the child so has no choice but to bring along).

Thanks for all advises and suggestions.

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How to handle an active preschooler

Postby ppnqq » Wed Oct 20, 2010 5:06 pm

How do you handle an active preschooler who doesn't always listen when overseas and worse, not all time leisure but mostly for serious matters such as business?

(I know some will advise not to bring him then but we have no others to help look after the child so has no choice but to bring along).

Thanks for all advises and suggestions.

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Postby duriz » Wed Oct 20, 2010 5:11 pm

Hi ppnqq,

Involve your kids. Explain where you’re going and what it will be like. Show them photos and point out the destination on a map. If there’s child care involved, explain they’ll be with a new caregiver and discuss their concerns. Remember to let the kids play an active role in the planning so that they feel invested in the trip.

Stay at a child-friendly hotel. The hotel you choose will be the single most important decision you make when planning the trip. Call ahead and find out if the hotel can help.

Check out the child-care services. You’ll want to research the child-care agency and meet the proposed care provider for an interview. Be clear on your standards and your attitude towards discipline. And make sure they know how to reach you.

Hilton and Hyatt hotel chains have systemwide programs for families and kids.

Watching kids in airports and hotels around the country, one thing is made clear over and over again. They’re resilient and creative! They make toys out of trashcans, columns, and luggage carts. They turn waiting rooms into playgrounds.

Taking your kids on business trips can be challenging, but it can also reduce the stress and frustration of choosing between work and family. With a little planning and some patience, it can mean more quality time with your family.

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Postby ppnqq » Wed Oct 20, 2010 5:23 pm

Thanks duriz for your advises but doubt my 3 year old will really listen when he isn't doing so at home now :cry:

Also, hotel is out of the question because we'll be some where remote, so won't be staying at a hotel nor anyone to help out as well. No such facilities or sort, if not I would not be in such headache.

Is there any other suggestions to keep him occupied without disturbing and to behave himself? Sometimes we may even need to travel a fair bit by bus-11 too (legs) :sweat:

Really do not feel like bringing him along but really has no choice. :?: :?:

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Postby mrswongtuition » Wed Oct 20, 2010 5:28 pm

Before you bring, start trying out discipline methods which will work on the go.

Also, go somewhere which will engage the child and interest the child enough to keep him/her occupied. Once they are occupied, they usually will not misbehave.

My boy's really naughty but when we bring him out, we set ground rules and surprisingly, he turned out to be easier to manage than we thought. :D

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Postby duriz » Wed Oct 20, 2010 5:41 pm

Okay, okay, don't stress out.

1. Pack light but pack some of your child's favorite toys/books. But nothing that will fall into a million pieces that will make him lose the toy and his interest.

2. Don't plan too much. If you plan your day out meticiously you will fail. Kids are unpredictable. One day they might be all happy and co-operative, the next they turn into screaming nightmares.

3. Establish a routine. We all need a routine, otherwise it becomes too stressful and chaotic. Dont stress over it though, accept for the first few days that it will be chaos, and try to gradually improve things.

4. Do an activity everyday. It doesn't have to be anything big, it could just be walking 200 yards away to the park, or visiting the local supermarket.

5. Chill and relax. You have to learn to count to 10, to chill out, to expect the unexpected, and just well relax and enjoy yourself. Your child may end up making a gigantic mess or crying non stop. If you stress they will stress. If you laugh they will laugh.

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Postby cherrygal » Wed Oct 20, 2010 5:43 pm

Hi
Can you elaborate under what circumstances does he not listen? Does he always want to buy toys or go somewhere else? How does he behave if you refuse to do what he wants?

My son also wanted to buy everything he touches when we are overseas. I realise that holidays are not the best times for discipline. Just buy if it's affordable. That little soft toy will keep him happy for many hours.

Young kids also want to visit the toilet very often so it may be more convenient to make them wear diapers esp if you need to take the bus. Invest in a really light n compact stroller that you can bring along with you so you don't need to carry him when he gets tired.

Always carry boxes of cereals, sweets etc and small toys / crayons to entertain him. Give him paper and a pair of scissors to make crafts.

Also, do discipline him properly when you are home with him. He has to be respectful of you as a parent. That respect (aka fear) works well when you are overseas.

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Postby mintcc » Wed Oct 20, 2010 6:44 pm

1. pack little snacks to keep him occupied. We like the small boxes of coco crunch.

2. Try to travel when it is his sleeping time....

3. If his "not doing what he is told" is running around when he is not suppose to, make sure he get punished for it. And someone will need to hold his hand all the time. No joke getting lost overseas.

4. He will need to be occupied... little toys is good. For us, we use my iphone. Download new games and shows he likes. Record videos of him and show it to him to keep him busy

5. About the diaper part... make them wear but still go to toilet often. We thought we got ourselves covered by putting diapers on for DS when he was about 21/2 years old. Turns out all of us got a false sense of security. DS refuse to go to the toilets in the rural area and eventually did it on his diaper when we were watching a performance where there is no toilets around. The diaper overflowed while he was sitting on me :stupid: :stupid: . Thankfully the performance is in the open air and we got a private ride then.

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Re: How to handle an active preschooler

Postby ChiefKiasu » Wed Oct 20, 2010 7:18 pm

ppnqq wrote:How do you handle an active preschooler who doesn't always listen when overseas and worse, not all time leisure but mostly for serious matters such as business?

(I know some will advise not to bring him then but we have no others to help look after the child so has no choice but to bring along).

Thanks for all advises and suggestions.


It is difficult to conduct serious business discussions with kids around. You should try to look for someone (hotel staff?) to babysit your child while you attend the business meetings. Very few children can sit still for more than 15mins unless they are glued to a video game or cartoon. In any case, I would feel sorry for them even if they are able to sit quietly throughout the entire meeting.

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Postby Mrsbongz » Thu Oct 21, 2010 9:33 am

Some of our tactics when we travel:
- We always try to stick to our usual routine when we are overseas.. esp things like meals, naps and bedtimes.. we find that it gives them a sense of comfort.
- We also try to do at least 1 or 2 activities that are just centred on them each day, if u r in a remote area, just some bath playtime in the tub is good, bring bath toys... it gives them something to look forward to, and they get the attention they need (if not they may get up to mischief to get ur attention).
- try to get a babysitter if possible, she can tag along even if u are working to attend to the child's needs (toilet breaks, short walks or just plaing together in the next room etc)
- bring a comfort item, like a teddy bear. Mommy brings the baby (DS) and Baby bring their own baby. All babies have to behave and listen to Mommy/Daddy, and will get time to play as reward.

Hope some of it helps!!

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