Appreciation

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Appreciation

Postby rocklee » Wed Dec 01, 2010 11:52 am

Someone forwarded this to me. Just to share:

Appreciation: >
What to appreciate, when and how:

An Important Lesson!

One young academically excellent person went for an interview for a
managerial position in a big company. He passed the first interview; BUT in that Company, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.

The director discovered from the CV, that the youth's academic result was
excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate
research, never was there a year he did not score. The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarship in school?" and the youth answered "no".

The director asked, " Did your father pay your school fees?". The youth
answered, "my father passed away when I was one year old and it was my mother who paid my school fees".

The director asked, " Where did your mother work?" the youth answered, "my mother worked as cloth cleaner." The director requested the youth to show his hands and the youth showed a pair of hands that was smooth and perfect to the director.

The director asked, " Did you ever help your mother wash clothes before?"
The youth answered, "never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books, furthermore, my mother could wash clothes faster than I could"

The director said, I have a request, when you go back today, go and help
to clean your mother's hand, and then see me tomorrow morning.

The youth felt that the chance of landing the job was high and when he went back, he happily wanted to clean his mother's hands. His mother felt strange. With happiness mixed with fear, she showed her hands to the kid.

The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly and his tears fell as he did
that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so
wrinkled, and that there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises
were so painful that she shuddered when his mother's hands were cleaned
with water.

This is the first time that the youth realized and experienced that it is
this pair of hands that washed the clothes every day to earn him the school fees and that the bruises in the mother's hand were the price that the mother paid for his graduation and academic excellence and probably his future.

After finishing the cleaning of his mother's hands, the youth quietly
washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.

That night, the mother and son talked for a very long time.
Next morning, the youth went to the director's office. The director noticed
the tear in the youth's eye and asked: "Can you tell what you did and
learnt yesterday in your house?"
The youth answered, "I cleaned my mother's hands and also finished washing all the remaining clothes".

The director asked, "Please tell me what you felt"

The youth said:

"Number 1, I know what appreciation is now'. Without my mother, I would
not be successful today.

Number 2, Now I know how to work together with my mother. Only now do I realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done.

Number 3, I know the importance and value of family relationship."

The director said, "This is what I am asking, I want to recruit a person
that can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the suffering of others to get things done, and a person that would not put money as his
only goal in life to be my manager. You are hired."

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of
his subordinates, every employee worked diligently and as a team and the
company improved tremendously.

The Lessons from this anecdote:
A child who has been protected and habitually given whatever he needs,
develops "entitlement mentality"and always puts himself first. He is
ignorant of his parents' efforts. When he starts work, he assumes every
person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the suffering of his employees and always blame others. These kinds of people, may/will achieve good results and may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel a sense of achievement or satisfaction.

If we happen to be this kind of (protective) parent, this is the time to
ask the question

- whether we did/do love our kids or destroy them.

-You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn to play
the piano, watch a big screen TV but when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it.

-After a meal, let them wash their plate and bowl together with their
brothers and sisters.

-It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because
you want to love and show them the correct way.

-You want them to understand that no matter how rich their parent are, one day they will grow old, become weak and that their hair too will grow grey.

-The most important thing is for your kid to learn how to appreciate,
experience and learn the effort and ability needed to work with others to
get things done. They should also value, appreciate what the parents have
done and love them for who they are!

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Postby foreverj » Wed Dec 01, 2010 12:02 pm

Thank you for a lovely post! Food for thought indeed!

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Postby duriz » Wed Dec 01, 2010 2:07 pm

Thank you for sharing rocklee :D

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Postby shirley.tamzil » Wed Dec 01, 2010 10:34 pm

Very good post, will be sharing this with my DS...

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Postby Faun » Thu Dec 02, 2010 12:04 am

Rocklee,

Thanks for the interesting article.

My family has been contemplating to celebrate Thanksgiving every year like the Americans, but in our own style. DH and I think it's a good practice to make time to feel thankful to everything and everyone that has influenced our lives.

I've 2 kids and I must say the 2 of them are very appreciative of what I do for them. They say thanks to me every day, for a wonderful meal, when they see me doing the laundry, after I help them with their homework, and many more. I think they learn this from my husband who is always so appreciative for what I do for the family.

The kids do help occasionally with the chores but it's usually dd that is more auto. For my ds, I conclude that he definitely needs a wife to take care of him in future. Well, at least they feel thankful.

I used to help my mom do a lot of chores but I don't remember that making me appreciative of what she did for us. It was more like, she was doing her job as a mom just as I was doing mine as a student. I helped her because I felt sorry that she had to do so much and felt guilty that I had an easier 'job'. I must say I felt deep appreciation for my parents only when I became an adult and even much more after I became a parent. It's sad they passed away at a young age of 50+, never could repay them for why they've done for me.

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Postby BlurBee » Fri Dec 03, 2010 1:03 pm

Thanks for the sharing, rocklee. :goodpost:

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Postby duriz » Fri Dec 03, 2010 3:51 pm

Faun wrote:I've 2 kids and I must say the 2 of them are very appreciative of what I do for them. They say thanks to me every day, for a wonderful meal, when they see me doing the laundry, after I help them with their homework, and many more. I think they learn this from my husband who is always so appreciative for what I do for the family.

The kids do help occasionally with the chores but it's usually dd that is more auto. For my ds, I conclude that he definitely needs a wife to take care of him in future. Well, at least they feel thankful.


Wow Faun.

Your children 真懂事 :celebrate:

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Postby TwaTau » Fri Dec 03, 2010 4:29 pm

:goodpost: Appreciate what we have now and cherish them! Educate our kids with the right values and be appreciated!

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Postby vlim » Fri Dec 03, 2010 4:36 pm

after reading it...I told my kids to wash their own plates and cutlery after eating..Used to be wash by my maid. :wink:

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Re: Appreciation

Postby Angelight » Fri Dec 03, 2010 6:22 pm

Excellent article! Brought tears to my eyes. Thanks for sharing, rocklee!



rocklee wrote:Someone forwarded this to me. Just to share:

Appreciation: >
What to appreciate, when and how:

An Important Lesson!

One young academically excellent person went for an interview for a
managerial position in a big company. He passed the first interview; BUT in that Company, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.

The director discovered from the CV, that the youth's academic result was
excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate
research, never was there a year he did not score. The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarship in school?" and the youth answered "no".

The director asked, " Did your father pay your school fees?". The youth
answered, "my father passed away when I was one year old and it was my mother who paid my school fees".

The director asked, " Where did your mother work?" the youth answered, "my mother worked as cloth cleaner." The director requested the youth to show his hands and the youth showed a pair of hands that was smooth and perfect to the director.

The director asked, " Did you ever help your mother wash clothes before?"
The youth answered, "never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books, furthermore, my mother could wash clothes faster than I could"

The director said, I have a request, when you go back today, go and help
to clean your mother's hand, and then see me tomorrow morning.

The youth felt that the chance of landing the job was high and when he went back, he happily wanted to clean his mother's hands. His mother felt strange. With happiness mixed with fear, she showed her hands to the kid.

The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly and his tears fell as he did
that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so
wrinkled, and that there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises
were so painful that she shuddered when his mother's hands were cleaned
with water.

This is the first time that the youth realized and experienced that it is
this pair of hands that washed the clothes every day to earn him the school fees and that the bruises in the mother's hand were the price that the mother paid for his graduation and academic excellence and probably his future.

After finishing the cleaning of his mother's hands, the youth quietly
washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.

That night, the mother and son talked for a very long time.
Next morning, the youth went to the director's office. The director noticed
the tear in the youth's eye and asked: "Can you tell what you did and
learnt yesterday in your house?"
The youth answered, "I cleaned my mother's hands and also finished washing all the remaining clothes".

The director asked, "Please tell me what you felt"

The youth said:

"Number 1, I know what appreciation is now'. Without my mother, I would
not be successful today.

Number 2, Now I know how to work together with my mother. Only now do I realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done.

Number 3, I know the importance and value of family relationship."

The director said, "This is what I am asking, I want to recruit a person
that can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the suffering of others to get things done, and a person that would not put money as his
only goal in life to be my manager. You are hired."

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of
his subordinates, every employee worked diligently and as a team and the
company improved tremendously.

The Lessons from this anecdote:
A child who has been protected and habitually given whatever he needs,
develops "entitlement mentality"and always puts himself first. He is
ignorant of his parents' efforts. When he starts work, he assumes every
person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the suffering of his employees and always blame others. These kinds of people, may/will achieve good results and may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel a sense of achievement or satisfaction.

If we happen to be this kind of (protective) parent, this is the time to
ask the question

- whether we did/do love our kids or destroy them.

-You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn to play
the piano, watch a big screen TV but when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it.

-After a meal, let them wash their plate and bowl together with their
brothers and sisters.

-It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because
you want to love and show them the correct way.

-You want them to understand that no matter how rich their parent are, one day they will grow old, become weak and that their hair too will grow grey.

-The most important thing is for your kid to learn how to appreciate,
experience and learn the effort and ability needed to work with others to
get things done. They should also value, appreciate what the parents have
done and love them for who they are!

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