"Leashing" children?

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"Leashing" children?

Postby snowman.697 » Mon Dec 20, 2010 8:13 pm

Came across an article on stomp about a mum leashing her kids. Is this right or not? We're aren't animals; we do NOT deserve to be treated like animals. The mother should have used words to discipline her children, not put some string, legal or not, on them. If she's so afraid about them running around, why bring them out in the first place? If she told her children about the risks of straying away, why did she still put the restraint - or rather, leash - on her children, in the first place. I understand the need to keep the child safe - but what about letting them walk infront of them or holding hands? Teachers can manage 40 pupils without leashes, why can't parents manage 4?

If i've offended, again, im sorry, but i'm being honest here, i'll say what i want to say - there's no right or wrong, it's my own opinion - and i'll not regret it.

Just my two cents.

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Postby tankee » Mon Dec 20, 2010 9:30 pm

IMO,

Absolutely no no if it is leashing by attaching to a collar just like a dog.

but ok if it is tied to a harness that the child wears like carrying a backpack.

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Postby jedamum » Mon Dec 20, 2010 10:15 pm

i didn't leash my kids when they were younger. i was more concerned about the leash tangling around their necks or having their arms pulled out accidentally (those leash on hand type).

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Postby MrsSeah » Mon Dec 20, 2010 10:27 pm

Although I never leash my kids when they are young. But I had seen some parent brought those very CUTE & Beautiful leash. Those leash is not latch on their neck lah. It leash on their body. I have no objection on this. To me the safety of the kids is more important. I prefer to leash the kids than let them rush out of the road and mishap happenened or get lost.

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Postby MummyThreeStreams » Mon Dec 20, 2010 11:00 pm

The leash is not around the neck right?

I've seen those on backpacks. They're cute, but I wouldn't do it. I don't have any in-principle objections against it though. When DS1 was much younger, and running around a lot (and I was a very inexperienced mum), I would have thought that such a thing would be a godsend!

But now that I'm more experienced, I don't think such a device is necessary. If we're in a place that's not safe for them to be running about, they're either carried by us or we're holding on to their hands tightly.

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Postby snowman.697 » Tue Dec 21, 2010 12:52 pm

MummyThreeStreams wrote:The leash is not around the neck right?



Uh, nope.

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Postby peh-boo » Tue Dec 21, 2010 1:32 pm

tankee wrote:IMO,

Absolutely no no if it is leashing by attaching to a collar just like a dog.

but ok if it is tied to a harness that the child wears like carrying a backpack.


we have actually seen before but more like teenage girl liao.
she actually had a leash around her neck n was chained to a wall n was totally naked.
but she's not in singapore lah malaysia but dunnoe sg got or not?

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Postby jnj0910 » Tue Dec 21, 2010 1:46 pm

hi snowman,

i hv not seen the clip but why r u bothered if its not around the neck?
i dun leash my kids, bt to each his own .each parent knows their limts in keeping their kids safe.
how do u keep ur kids safe when out when their at that active age in crowded places?

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Postby Guest » Tue Dec 21, 2010 1:46 pm

peh-boo wrote:we have actually seen before but more like teenage girl liao.
she actually had a leash around her neck n was chained to a wall n was totally naked.
but she's not in singapore lah malaysia but dunnoe sg got or not?


huh? This sounds like absolute abuse!! Why should it be promoted in SG??? :?

Anyway, the leash for kids is sometimes essential especially for very active and not yet discerning kids. Also good for parents who love to shop and can forget about their children....so the leash still gives them freedom to move about but within limited areas. It is not ideal but good for "engrossed" parents and active kids. I think it is really the way it is handled. Handled with love is fine. Carrying in hands and putting in strollers are just other forms of "leashing" and probably worse cos the child is totally immobilised.
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Postby Chenonceau » Wed Dec 22, 2010 10:42 am

I used to leash Little Boy when we travelled. He was between 2 to 4. It was a harness leash that he wore across his chest and under his arms. It was especially useful at crowded places like Disneyland and Universal Studios where once a child slips your hand, it can be a nightmare to find. I also leashed him right through the many connecting flights we took (because losing a child at airports is another nightmare).

Little Boy didn't mind because it allowed him to explore the world within a radoius of 1m from me and because I attached the leash to my wrist, I could carry bags and such quite easily whilst holding on to him.

Most other times though, I let him hold my finger. We played a game called Catch the Fishy. My index finger was the fish and it would without warning decide to swim away from his little hand. And then he had to catch it all over again which was an occasion for plenty of giggles and squeals but the end-result was that he made sure he hung on to my finger really tight.

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