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How to tell if Child is telling lies??

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Re: How to tell if Child is telling lies??

Postby archcherub » Wed Jan 04, 2017 4:39 pm

jetsetter wrote:
lag wrote:what happen if the kid is a sec 1 boy... haizzz any solution?
the skills have been soo "refine" until it is challenging to spot the flaw..


take a polygraph test.

are u sure he is that good? did u spot any contradiction in his statements? U need to cross exam and interrogate until he blur blur and loses his train of thoughts. then catch him unawares like a hawk does to its prey. Gotcha!


eh no need so exaggerate right? lol most kids not good at telling lies.
once u manage to ask him repeat the stories, can soon find a weak point in his stories.
i usually ask questions a few times, keep repeating his stories after a while, the details would be wrong..

thats why i myself don't like to lie. remember the truth is always the easiest.

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Re: How to tell if Child is telling lies??

Postby FishFingers » Mon Jun 19, 2017 12:24 am

Look at the body language and the eyes of the child...

If the child does not make eye contact with you and has shifty eyes,he/she is most likely telling a lie. Probe a bit further,he will spill the beans about his alleged mistake.

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Re: How to tell if Child is telling lies??

Postby el_ninogold » Tue Aug 29, 2017 9:14 am

troubled wrote:Hi,

Any tested methods to know if child is telling lies??


I feel that instead of trying to go in the direction of catching a child telling lies, we can be good role models for them in terms of honouring our words and fulfilling our promises to the kids. If we promise we bring them to the zoo, we do it no matter how. We should not make empty promises or tell white lies/ half truths ourselves as we will be found out eventually. Ultimately, children are taught by what their parents are (we don't lie) and not merely by their talk (children must not lie). And if we do catch the kid lying, talking the kid through why he shouldn't lie always work better than punishing using punitive methods, which merely instills a sense of fear and resentment without real understanding.

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Re: How to tell if Child is telling lies??

Postby CarolW » Mon May 07, 2018 9:59 am

Young children who are lying often avoid eye contact. But as children get older and more savvy, they may overcompensate while lying and hold your gaze without looking away at all. As a result, both very little or very long eye contact may indicate untruthfulness.


https://www.popsugar.com/moms/10-Signs- ... g-27332955

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Re: How to tell if Child is telling lies??

Postby Joanne25 » Mon Jul 23, 2018 10:09 am

A good sign is when they start to talk they look and don't look you in the eyes or their eyes are darting around everywhere.

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Re: How to tell if Child is telling lies??

Postby FumbleDad » Mon Jul 23, 2018 7:33 pm

My kid is 8 and when she lies she looks at me in the eyes. Have you done your homework? Yes, all done she said. In reality, not really. I’m having problems guessing what she’s thinking. She’s playful, doesn’t take homework seriously and now lying. I’m pretty burnt out working with her.

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Re: How to tell if Child is telling lies??

Postby slmkhoo » Tue Jul 24, 2018 8:31 am

FumbleDad wrote:My kid is 8 and when she lies she looks at me in the eyes. Have you done your homework? Yes, all done she said. In reality, not really. I’m having problems guessing what she’s thinking. She’s playful, doesn’t take homework seriously and now lying. I’m pretty burnt out working with her.

Since she lies, you will need to check her bag daily. Then mete out consequences like no TV, extra work, whatever, on top of finishing whatever homework she has to do. Add extra if she lies, and let her know what the extra is for. She needs to feel some pain (not physical pain). Tell her that it would be in her own interests if she just did her homework, and that lying increases the penalties.

Additionally, tell her that lying to parents will mean that she is destroying any trust you have in her. Tell her how serious that is.

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Re: How to tell if Child is telling lies??

Postby funnygummyyummy » Tue Jul 31, 2018 1:40 pm

FumbleDad wrote:My kid is 8 and when she lies she looks at me in the eyes. Have you done your homework? Yes, all done she said. In reality, not really. I’m having problems guessing what she’s thinking. She’s playful, doesn’t take homework seriously and now lying. I’m pretty burnt out working with her.


it's normal. Don't worry. At 8, they will start to rebel and have their characters slowly forming. but you must instill some discipline. like others are saying here, maybe some light punishments

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Re: How to tell if Child is telling lies??

Postby CerlynR » Tue Aug 07, 2018 8:39 am

My 10 y/o daughter she lies constantly...even about stuff she doesn't need to lie about! I've given her the lectures about not being able to trust her. I'm wondering if it's just a phase that she will grow out of.
Here's a link that might find helpful: http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/2...

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