Please share how do you draw a balance, especially when both you and your spouse/in-laws/parents employ different methods in disciplining your child(ren)??
Contd from previous thread ......
I find it tough (and so does DH) to get DH to be the strict disciplinarian. Its because he works long hrs almost everyday and when he comes back home, he's got about 30 mins or so to spend time with DS before I put him to sleep.
Its only been recently, particularly this year that my DH is finally conceding to my views, only because DS has become quite precocious and picked up some undesirable habits from pre-school. But to him, he will still die die use the logical reasoning of cause and effect to discipline DS. He has a method of speaking really softly to DS, to the point of whispering and eventually calming DS down (most of the time).
I have learnt to let go as well and not nag at DH too much. I understand his need to bond with his son and frankly, I appreciate it.
But when it comes to extended family, I really cannot do much. Because despite their 'blindness', they love DS unconditionally and will go out of their way to help me whenever I need their help ie ferrying him to his classes etc ....
But I was really upset at that particular incident when they didn't contribute in terms of disciplining when he admitted to lying. Haiz, grandparents' role are to spoil their grandkids lah - you know, the good cops, bad cops analogy ......
Disciplinary Methods - Never the Twain Shall Meet??
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