The magic between us and our children :)

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The magic between us and our children :)

Postby sashimi » Thu Mar 05, 2009 2:12 pm

This topic is just for fun. :)

I was waiting somewhere with my DD yesterday evening and she said she wanted to play scissors-paper-stone, so we began. The following is more or less the "pairs" of hands we each played:

(My hand | her hand)

Stone | Stone
Stone | Stone
Stone | Stone :)
Scissors | Scissors :lol:
Paper | Paper :lol: :lol:
Stone | Stone :D :D
Stone | Stone :)
Stone | Stone
Scissors | Scissors :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
Paper | Paper
Stone | Stone

... NO peeking/cheating/coordination! After the 11th pair, the hands were different, but we were laughing like a couple of silly idiots. :lol: :lol:

I don't know what to call it, it's not telepathy, but it is magical. :)

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Postby schellen » Thu Mar 05, 2009 2:38 pm

Wow, waiting time at the clinic must have been reaaaally boring huh? Can even remember all the "hands". :wink:

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Postby ChiefKiasu » Thu Mar 05, 2009 7:37 pm

schellen wrote:Wow, waiting time at the clinic must have been reaaaally boring huh? Can even remember all the "hands". :wink:


Ahh... sashimi and DD probably share the same flu virus, hence the telepathy thing happened. QED.

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Postby schellen » Fri Mar 06, 2009 9:11 am

ChiefKiasu wrote:
schellen wrote:Wow, waiting time at the clinic must have been reaaaally boring huh? Can even remember all the "hands". :wink:


Ahh... sashimi and DD probably share the same flu virus, hence the telepathy thing happened. QED.


CHOY! Don't curse me hor, Chief! When one is sick, I already headache. If 2 sick, I cannot sleep already.

sashimi was there for checkup lah and DD wanted to keep him company.

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Postby Guest » Tue Mar 10, 2009 4:52 pm

Just to ride on the thread..............I just had an interesting encounter to share. I am not sure how true it is but for the past 2 days, my dd told me she could predict what I was going to wear for the day.... Each time she saw me, yesterday and today...she said..."I just knew it!!" Is this the telepathy? It's hard for me to validate cos if I ask her beforehand, she may influence my choice.

But she looked so confident and her eyes really beamed when she saw me in the attire she imagined me to be in.... :? Is this the magic?

Btw, I don't wear stereotype way daily....I vary quite a lot.
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Postby buds » Tue Mar 10, 2009 4:57 pm

schellen wrote:
ChiefKiasu wrote:
schellen wrote:Wow, waiting time at the clinic must have been reaaaally boring huh? Can even remember all the "hands". :wink:


Ahh... sashimi and DD probably share the same flu virus, hence the telepathy thing happened. QED.


CHOY! Don't curse me hor, Chief! When one is sick, I already headache. If 2 sick, I cannot sleep already.

sashimi was there for checkup lah and DD wanted to keep him company.


Heyya schellen, i know the feeling!
The children not so cranky for me,
but the hubs once in a year kinda
virus, super weak... like i wanna
die liao attitude. :P

But when I get sick.....

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Bonding with Your Child

Postby ImMeeMee » Sun Aug 02, 2009 3:41 pm

I have always enjoyed a good game of UNO Stacko with my girls. Our rules are very simple - we take turns to draw a piece from the stack (without touching those on the first row), aiming for the structure not to collapse. The one who causes the structure to collapse after drawing a piece would have been considered to lose the game. We always enjoy a good laugh when the structure collapses, and that is when the game is over.

There was this night when my 5-yo #1 and myself decided to have a game, just by ourselves. We stacked the pieces, and started the game as usual. I have expected the game to end somewhere when either of us drew a piece thereby collapsing the structure. However, with each piece that was drawn, the structure remained as it was, refusing to collapse.

As the excitement mounted, it was interesting to note the difference in behaviour between me and my girl. She kept to her childlike nonchalance everytime she drew her piece, after which she would flash me this trumphant smile for not causing the structure to collapse. In contrast, with every piece I drew and with the increase in stakes over every piece, I became the very cautious and uptight adult that has been the result of constant moulding in our environment. This in itself was a lesson in life for me.

Lo and behold - guess what - after the last piece was drawn, we realised that there were no more pieces to be drawn - we have finished the game!! You can imagine the camaraderie and triumph that we felt for each other for having worked as a team to overcome the odds. That sense of bonding that I shared with my girl at that moment - the feeling was indescribable.

It was a beautiful moment of my life.


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Postby sashimi » Tue Aug 04, 2009 1:32 pm

Yeah, Jenga or whatever they call it - it's a very fascinating game to play with kids. I understand what you mean exactly! :)

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Magic With Our Children

Postby buds » Wed Jan 20, 2010 4:30 pm

//Editor's note: Topic selected for Portal publication.

Magic with my children can come in the form of a simple conversation.
Here's sharing one that happened just hours ago.

I had a lotta stuff running through my mind even before sleeping hours
came that even a hawt night cannot help it. :lol: I remember falling
asleep but was jolted around 3:45am. Tossed and turned on the bed yet
still unable to fall back to sleep till like 4:30am. I decided to go to the girls'
room and see if i could get a sniff of them and get back to sleep. Since DD1
was recovering from high fever yesterday, i decided to give her more space
to breathe so i tucked in beside DD2.

She whispered.

DD2 : Mum... is that you? (Night light was off)

Me : Yes sweetie, it's me. Sorry to wake you.

DD2 : No you didn't wake me. It's ok. What happened?

DD2 : Had a bad dream?

Me : Hmmm... kinda. And i can't go back to sleep.

DD2 : Ssh.. ssh.. it's okay now. I'm here for you. (tapping me)

Me : Thanks darling.. i appreciate that.

DD2 : No thank you-s needed Mummy. Don't mention it.

DD2 : You are always here for me so i will always be here for you too.

Me : Aaaww sweetie, that's very nice to know. (heart aching now)

DD2 : Did you tell Daddy about it.. did you wake him.. to tell about your
dream.. or tell him you can't sleep?

Me : No i didn't. I don't think i should. Why do you ask?

DD2 : Well, i'm just asking. It's good that you didn't or else Daddy will
not be able to go back to sleep and will not have enough rest, how is he
going to go to work tomorrow. Then he will be cranky.

Me : :lol: Yeah, you're quite right there sweetie.

DD2 : You still can't sleep yet, Mummy? (sensing some movement)

Me : Yeah.. a lil' problem. Cos of the things running through my mind..

DD2 : You must sleep cause you have to take care of jie-jie (feverish).
I don't need enough sleep now, it's ok. I am in afternoon session so i can
still go back to sleep and wake up a little later than usual. You must have
enough rest, Mummy. Ssh.. ssh.. (now she is stroking my hair so gently
that tears are starting to well up in my eyes)

DD2 : Mummy, can you lift your head up for awhile?

Me : Ok.

DD2 : Here, dry your tears and blow your nose, Mummy. Later, you
cannot breathe properly, how to go back to sleep? See, luckily i kept
one pack of pocket tissue underneath my pillow.

Me : Thanks darling, now go back to sleep too yah..

DD2 : Ok. But not until YOU go back to sleep first.

DD2 began singing our special go-to-sleep song i created that i had
been singing each time they took a nap or went to bed at night.. since
they were both babies. My tears just kept on flowing now... the
floodgates just opened.

DD2 : Ssh ssh.. "Close your eyes and go to sleep and we will sing
tomorrow.... (then she hummed the rest of the song to lull me to sleep)
She whispered, "I love you Mummy. And i will always be here for you.
Don't worry, with me here the bad dreams will go away. God will also
protect us."

DD2 hugged me to sleep, whispering sweet nothings and hummed till i
really slept i suppose, cos the next thing i realised they were both outside
watching TV with very low volume. The last thing i heard her whisper to my
ears was. "Luckily you have me, right Mummy... ssh ssh sshh.. you sleep
now, i'm here."

DD2 ever asked about how she came to this world. I mentioned in casual
passing that we never intended to have her. We thought we'd have one
first which meant only jie-jie... then see how we would cope. But we sorta
accidentally (unplanned) had her. And when she asked how she was as a
baby, we told her that she was a very naughty baby, refused to sleep, so
hard to fall asleep, always wanted to be carried... (etc). But she was just
so super chubby and cute and she was nevertheless a gift from God for us..
We loved her anyways... that as she grew older she became more and
more our little angel... and at times the mischievous little monkey as well.

So from that day on, whenever she CAN do something nice or something
right, she never failed to remind us that her existence did bring us
happiness.

As an educator, i believed children are always listening... even though at
times we think they're not. This magical wee hours of this morning just
proved to me she listened and absorbed and understood what i've been
telling her since she was little... she used the exact same words i used to
pacify her when she cried or when she felt sad... and to hear her say, that
she would always be here for me was the best thing she could've said today.
It calmed me down enough to go back to sleep. This was one morning i
knew that my staying home was more than just sacrifice. It was this magic
that was brewing all the while awaiting to be cast upon. The magic i shared
with my DD2.

"Mummy loves you DD2, you're my one and only little angelic monkey." :hugs:

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Postby Poohbear » Wed Jan 20, 2010 5:16 pm

Awwwh buds.. while reading this, tears are welling up in my eyes :cry:
altho i m sneaking in to the forum during office hours to read this, i still felt i hv to sneak in a few more min to write this...

this is a very positive affirmation of the hardwork you hv put in :celebrate:

Can i say i m a bit envious of what a wonderful gal you hv in DD2 :please:

Pls give her my warmest :kiss: DD1 too :kiss:

Been followin the other thread about you sharing your tough times, just like to say that, your DDs are very fortunate to hv u :love: Tough as it may be, but pls hang on okie :xedfingers:

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