RRMummy wrote:Hi Eason M,
It is heart-warming to know a father who wants to bond so much.
I agree totally in spending quality time with your little one and what Chenoceau said also applied to both my gals..
But just a little something off my head...in your eagerness to bond, maybe you should not pull her away from Mummy to spend quality time together. I'm just wondering if it will kinda backfire if you push too hard coz she will feel that once you come home you will try to tear her away from mummy dearest.
I would suggest instead to do fun and silly things together just the 3 of you. Sing and dance together. Make Sunday your family outing day either to fly kites, go to playgrounds, etc etc. Let her see that she does not have to choose mummy instead of daddy.
When the gals were your DD's age and younger, my DH will swing them like an aeroplane or throw them around and tickle them silly when he gets home.. they gradually grew to realize that mummy had no such strenght to play like that.. so DH became THE one they looked for when they wanted to play. As for me, I still remain to be the one they will definitely prefer for bedtime.
It will take time, she may ignore you for awhile when mama's around but hang in there. It is said by many that little girls will always grow to be closer to their daddies.
I guess my eagerness to bond is partly because of 2 reasons. Firstly I was not closed to my dad at all only my mum. Secondly we have already decided she will be our only child.
Thanks for the suggestion. I did think of that too. She may think of me as the bad guy who tear her away from her mummy.
We do have weekend outing. Usually I will bring her out to spend some time together. My DW will then come later and 3 of us would go dinner together.
The thing is she is ok to be with me and laugh and plays with me when we are alone but once her mummy appears, she will quickly drop me and run away. Same thing happens also when we are in the room.
But I guess it really does take effort and time.