That's a sound advice! Haven't been too conscious about my own tone or body language. Will take note of that.Intermezzo wrote:hi markfch ~ not sure if you've already tried this.. =)markfch wrote:I said previously that at P4, I decided that my parents were talking rubbish and I pretended to listen by merely nodding my head. I think my ds is doing the same thing to me now; only difference is that he doing it at P1.
Whenever I say something he doesn't like to hear, he'll go 'Yah yah yah' plus rolling of the eyeballs. Now, I'm aware that I can use physical threats like shouting or even slapping his butts to make him stop this irritating habit. I'm equally aware that physical threats are only effective for a limited period. So now I just tell him that he's being very rude. I'm not hopeful about the effectiveness of this method.
I could cut his computer game time such will surely hurt. But is there a way of appealing to his reasoning? Reasoning - more than threats, is what I'm hoping for.
i find that my kids can take my 'advice' more readily if i talk to them when sitting side by side comfortably like on a sofa. i also put an arm around their shoulder. somehow it feels less "confrontational" to them, compared with when you're both standing face to face. also, since you are much taller than your boy in P1, it might make him feel like being talked "down" to.. so talking to him at eye-level might also help.. =)
no matter how, young kids do need ALOT of reminder when it comes to behavorial issues.
i also find that it's more effective to touch on one topic at a time, and to speak short and to the point. sometimes just one or two words is enough as a reminder.
just sharing from personal experience...
and i agree with you that reasoning is much better than threat. =)
For myself, I tend to use analogy or concrete examples/instances to show DD how undesirable her certain actions or words are. Whilst she usually understands when I put it that way to her, sometimes at the "heat of the moment", she may still forget what I have said before...