BeContented wrote:insider wrote:2ppaamm wrote:Cry? Cry loh, won't die one.
This is the kind of 'mental/emotional strength' that parents with 'manipulative' kids need to have.
Deal with the situation matter-of-factly, with minimal emotions, and don't let him catch you feeling 'heart pain' else you lose the game...
IMO, it's ok to let the child see your 'heart-pain', but importantly you must still execute your planned action. I will admit to my kids that I also wish to let them have more fun, be happy. The easy way out for me is to just let them enjoy & no fight between us, but is that the right thing to do? Why do I choose to make things 'difficult', it's not fun for me too. Let the child think a little. No point laughing a while now but crying & regretting for many years in future .....
Frankly not sure if all children take such stuff, fortunately mine did.
Actually sometimes I tear when I cane & see them cry.....but from there they know it hurts me too to cane them & they know it's something I'll rather choose NOT to do unless it warrant for it. (PS : but caning is usually not due to academics, more behavioural issues)