Child Easily frustrated

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kaitlynangelica
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Child Easily frustrated

Post by kaitlynangelica » Thu Jun 12, 2008 12:34 pm

Dear parents,

I do not know if this is the correct forum to post.

My daughter seems easily frustrated with her writing. I know her schoolteacher was a little strict with her and tried to get her to write nicely which I must add that her writing is much better now. However, when she is at home with us and she is trying to write something and she is not able to perfect it, she gets frustrated, crushes the paper and throws the pencil across the table. this is very worrying to me.

Also, she is particularly clingey to me. When I drop her off at school or any of her enrichment classes, she will whine and sometimes even cry. But when my husband, maid or Mum does so, she goes in cheerfully.

Any advice? Should I bring her to see a counsellor?

All input will be appreciated.

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Post by mintcc » Thu Jun 12, 2008 2:55 pm

this remind me of my boy.

When he is younger, he use to get fustrated when his lego structure falls down. he will then start getting upset, cry and throw the blocks around.

I just console him, tell him that it is alright that the blocks fell, don't be angry and show him how to do it properly and praise him for putting in effort. Slowly, he outgrew that phase.

I think being clingey to you shows that you daughter is more attached to you. My boy was also quite clingey to me at childcare too, but I just reassure him that I will be back in a while and cheerfully bid him goodbye. Now, he will need a hug before he let me go but in general, he is okay.

Don't think there is a serious behavior problems there...sometimes we are our kid's best counsellor...

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Post by kaitlynangelica » Thu Jun 12, 2008 3:54 pm

Mincy,


Thanks for assurance.

Acutally the one who got me stressed is my Mum. She lives overseas for half the year so naturally not close to my daughter. But then when she comes back, she likes to give her opinion on everything.

I have been doing what you mentioned. I assure her its okay and she can take her time to practise writing. She cries much less now when I drop her off at childcare. And all the teachers at school have assured me that the minute I turn my back, she is perfectly okay. The most important thing is that she comes home looking happy. Teachers have also said that she is well-behaved and independant at school. She finishes her worksheets by herself and will ask questions when she doesn't know.

I only have one child so I can't compare. That's why had to ask.

Thanks again!

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Re: Child Easily frustrated

Post by RachelStar » Tue Oct 02, 2018 1:55 pm

My son also get frustrated easily.
Anyone knows of anything that can help to control temper?

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Re: Child Easily frustrated

Post by slmkhoo » Tue Oct 02, 2018 2:31 pm

RachelStar wrote:My son also get frustrated easily.
Anyone knows of anything that can help to control temper?
What makes him frustrated?


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Re: Child Easily frustrated

Post by Ms. Ooi » Thu Nov 01, 2018 11:50 am

First of all, parents and caregiver has to find out the reason of your child being frustrated or throwing tantrum. Then record down the frequency of it and what actions will he/she do when he/she feel frustration. Then from there, parents could figure out more by talking with your child or get your child to express his/her feelings.

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Re: Child Easily frustrated

Post by buildbuildbuild » Sat Nov 03, 2018 2:44 pm

slmkhoo wrote:
RachelStar wrote:My son also get frustrated easily.
Anyone knows of anything that can help to control temper?
What makes him frustrated?
i got the same problem too. he cannot take it when we stack his toys/lego neatly. he will get upset and mess it up and walk away smiling. if we stack it back neatly he will throw his temper. howwwww???

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Re: Child Easily frustrated

Post by slmkhoo » Sat Nov 03, 2018 4:35 pm

buildbuildbuild wrote:i got the same problem too. he cannot take it when we stack his toys/lego neatly. he will get upset and mess it up and walk away smiling. if we stack it back neatly he will throw his temper. howwwww???
Maybe he just wants some measure of control over his things? How old is he? Rather than make it a battle of wills, Teach him to compromise - ie. you don't like mess but he doesn't want you to arrange his things, so a possible compromise could be: give him a box or area to put his things, and just require them to be confined in that area/box. Let him dump them in and don't stack them for him. If he can't compromise that way, confiscate his things until he agrees.

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Re: Child Easily frustrated

Post by zac's mum » Sat Nov 03, 2018 4:47 pm

slmkhoo wrote:
buildbuildbuild wrote:i got the same problem too. he cannot take it when we stack his toys/lego neatly. he will get upset and mess it up and walk away smiling. if we stack it back neatly he will throw his temper. howwwww???
Maybe he just wants some measure of control over his things? How old is he? Rather than make it a battle of wills, Teach him to compromise - ie. you don't like mess but he doesn't want you to arrange his things, so a possible compromise could be: give him a box or area to put his things, and just require them to be confined in that area/box. Let him dump them in and don't stack them for him. If he can't compromise that way, confiscate his things until he agrees.
:goodpost:

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Re: Child Easily frustrated

Post by buildbuildbuild » Sun Nov 04, 2018 4:04 pm

slmkhoo wrote:
buildbuildbuild wrote:i got the same problem too. he cannot take it when we stack his toys/lego neatly. he will get upset and mess it up and walk away smiling. if we stack it back neatly he will throw his temper. howwwww???
Maybe he just wants some measure of control over his things? How old is he? Rather than make it a battle of wills, Teach him to compromise - ie. you don't like mess but he doesn't want you to arrange his things, so a possible compromise could be: give him a box or area to put his things, and just require them to be confined in that area/box. Let him dump them in and don't stack them for him. If he can't compromise that way, confiscate his things until he agrees.
Thanks! he is going 8. he has a play corner to keep all his toys, but he cannot take it when its tidy.i think i will change to boxes instead of shelves.

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