Show and Tell (展示与讲述)

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Show and Tell (展示与讲述)

Postby Admummy » Mon Jul 02, 2012 11:27 am

My gal is in primary one now. Overall, she is coping well with her studies except Show and Tell (both EL and CL) which forms about 10% the EL and CL curriculum weightage.

I guess she's facing a lot of stress because she's shy and soft-spoken by nature. What makes thing worst was the CL teacher aggravated the matter. During last term's CL show and tell, she was asked to prepare the topic, "My Favourite Animal". I took the pain to work with her on the content and what to say and even practised with her for almost 2 weeks. She was doing really fine during the rehearsals with me. Unfortunately on the actual day, I guess she was really nervous and forgotten about what to say. (BTW, I did not ask her to memorize any scripts, coz I know this would add stress to her. So what we did was to identify key words to mention, then she would use her own words to form sentences on the spot).

She was crying very badly when she came home that night. She told me the CL teacher asked the whole class who think my gal did well (nobody raise hand), then who think my gal did badly (whole class raised their hands).
She told me she felt so shameful and betrayed by her friends (coz even her best friend think she was lousy and laughed at her). Since then, she no longer look forward to going to school, always asking me when holiday will come, even told me she hates all her classmates.

I have shared the incident with both the EL and CL teacher during PTM, also hinted to them to give more encouragement and have more patience to my gal in this show and tell. Both of them noted my point.

This term, the show and tell weightage is even more (25% if not wrong). I can already sense the great resentment that will come from my gal. I have tried to inculcate positive thinking but not really effective.

Anyone can share how I can improve the situation? What can I do to encourage my gal to take failure positively? Not be petty? How to boost her confidence? Any courses on show and tell to recommend?
TIA

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Re: Show and Tell (展示与讲述)

Postby cherrygal » Mon Jul 02, 2012 2:25 pm

OMG, that's really cruel of the teacher to make the class judge her performance. Should tell the principal.

Understand your concerns about Show n Tell esp for kids who are not the confident type. That's why many parents send their kids to Speech n Drama classes at a young age. I didn't send my kids to such specialised classes as my kids are chatty by nature but I think Berries does incorporate such speaking opportunities in their usual enrichment classes.

Anyway, to do well for Show n Tell, I have realised that you cannot force your ideas onto the kid (memorising or not). Best is to work on a flow. If they allow props, use a poster with photos or powerpoint slides to serve as reminders. This way, the kid will not forget the points or at least most of the points. I find that works well for my boy and his teacher said he did a good job explaining the photos.

The presentation should flow like this:
1. Introduction - Greeting, topic, sometimes including who, when, where, what
2. Body - Max 2 to 3 points related to the topic (2-3 sentences per point)
3. Conclusion - Ending statement, thank you

Besides saying the points well, you must also teach your kid to speak loudly. That wins half the battle. Sometimes it's not what you say, but how you say it. So loudness and good diction help a lot. And this comes with lots of practice and encouragement.

For his Show and Tells, I usually do a large poster with photos that illustrate the topic. Then dumb down all the points to P1 level, use only words that they have learnt before (no use adding cheem words coz they add stress to the kid), go through the points together and alter to his style if necessary. Then I type out the script and add hanyu pinyin here and there, then get my boy to memorise most of it for the next 3-5 days. 2 days before the test, I will get him to rehearse with the props. So far this has worked quite well.

And don't overstress the kid. Choose a relaxed time for such rehearsals and don't do too many times. I usually tell him to do a good rendition with eye contact, loudness and accuracy quickly so he can go and watch TV instead of rehearsing.
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Re: Show and Tell (展示与讲述)

Postby cherrygal » Mon Jul 02, 2012 2:33 pm

Regarding your DD's bruised ego, what I would do is to tell her to do better next time to show them all. Prove them wrong. She must draw strength from failure.

I always tell my boy "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never kill me." That mantra has given him a thicker skin to taunts from cruel kids.

Laugh all they want, let's see who has the last laugh when we get the results.

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Re: Show and Tell (展示与讲述)

Postby Admummy » Mon Jul 02, 2012 4:40 pm

Dear Cherrygal, thks so much for sharing your tips and experiences. I am really grateful for you taking the time to reply and answer to my problem.

I did not complain to the Principal. I am not sure is it a common way in primary school for the teacher to assess children (i.e. base on response from the same peers).

totally agree with you. being soft spoken, my gal already lose half the battle. I feel so "angry" with myself when i couldn't transform my gal's character to be less introvert. but maybe it is in the genes, my hubby and I also the "low profile" type of personality.

Sometimes feel "sayang" for her like when teacher discuss a topic in class, gal can tell me all the great ideas then i ask her, did you share with the class? she said "no" she is scared that she gave the wrong answer. really regret for not sending her to speech and drama during kindy time...now like a bit too late...

I will definitely try out your method...now that the new term CL show and tell topic is out, i will try to practise with her immediately (next show and tell will be in Aug) hopefully from now till aug, there should be enuff time to "season" her..

"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never kill me." That mantra has given him a thicker skin to taunts from cruel kids.Laugh all they want, let's see who has the last laugh when we get the results.


I love your mantra! I am definitely going to ask my gal to memorise this...yah laugh all you can now....come AUG, it will be SHOWTIME for my princess!!

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Re: Show and Tell (展示与讲述)

Postby mel2sg » Mon Jul 02, 2012 6:25 pm

The presentation should flow like this:
1. Introduction - Greeting, topic, sometimes including who, when, where, what
2. Body - Max 2 to 3 points related to the topic (2-3 sentences per point)
3. Conclusion - Ending statement, thank you


Totally agree with the above. That how I guided my boy. you have to provide them with the structure-flow so it does not looks frightening to them.

If you ask me I rather the school go thru the normal SA tests than all these. Those parents who do not have time or over-look the S&T date, the kid will definitely be disadvantaged. fair?

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Re: Show and Tell (展示与讲述)

Postby cherrygal » Mon Jul 02, 2012 10:14 pm

Always glad to help! :)

yah, would prefer to have the normal tests instead of such assessments which require so much parental assistance. I also asked DH what if we were illiterate?

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Re: Show and Tell (展示与讲述)

Postby cherrygal » Mon Jul 02, 2012 10:40 pm

Dun worry, public speaking is a fear that many people have, even adults. Our kids have to learn how to manage their anxiety. So we need to be extra encouraging.

Anyway, it's still not too late to attend speech and drama classes if you want. It may be a good idea to have those classes to draw her out of her shell and restore confidence since it was bruised by her classmates. Most enrichment centres would have such classes.

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Re: Show and Tell (展示与讲述)

Postby nonKiasu » Mon Jul 02, 2012 10:48 pm

Hi, Admummy. Regarding your girl not keen to go to sch anymore.... I faced the same situation when my DS3 was in P1 Term 4. I told the teacher flat on her face what the teachers' behavour caused it, in a polite manner of course. I don't hint to the teacher. I explained to the teacher that my DS3 is a sensitive boy and what kind of adults' behavour will cause my boy to break. She understood and even helped to bring this msg to other teachers eg art teacher. She also arranged sch counselling session which help the most. Eventually, things went well but the process for my boy to heal is as long as 1 term.

While talking to the teacher, I also understand that some P1 teacher used to teach P6 in previous year. So they may use the same manner of coaching to P1, forgot that such manner is ok for P6s but too hash to the P1s.

My advise is no need to complain to the principal if parent and teacher can work well together. You will affect the teacher's bonus if u complain. But of course, if the teacher refused to listen and work to improve the situation, u will have no choice but bring the matter up to her boss.

Final note is pls don't stress your girl. Let her develop. Give her time. So what if she didn't do well in that 25% of show n tell. It's not the end of the world. Afterall, she's only P1. Still a long journey to the U.

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Re: Show and Tell (展示与讲述)

Postby MMM » Mon Jul 02, 2012 11:36 pm

Hi Admummy,

I think our kids are in the same school.

Yes, show and tell is going to be part and parcel of assessment especially for P1 and P2 and unfortunately their life too when they have to give presentation infront of a group of people. So it's a good idea to help the child overcome their fears. Don't talk about kids, adults do have such fears too... You can consider sending your child to speech & drama classes.

I don't think the teacher has intention to put the child down, it's more like a feedback from peers and to see if the other kids through observation can understand what is expected. I think they do that with all the kids. Eg. what do they think of their peer after their peer has done the recitation. But for a introvert child, this is definitely very pressurizing and probably not the best way to do it.

My P1 is currently attending a CL speech & drama class at Han language in Yishun. This teacher actually teaches the P3 and P4 kuai ban in the school. The session in school is only limited to those shortlisted by teachers. She is very senior and produced some national talent in this area. My P1 joined her class since K1 (when my older kids were with her) and they have annual performance infront of students, parents, etc... Maybe close to 100 people so this sort of give her the exposure. The teacher also emphasized on pronunciation, voice projection, etc.... I really saw the results when her CL teacher shared with me during PTM that she was impressed with her recitation and she had scored full marks. She told me that she loved her intonation, expression, etc... so I shared with her that she has been "training" under this particular teacher. PM me if you want the contact.

But I understand how you feel because I've a P5 dd1 and she belongs to the introvert. Unlike dd2, she is the quieter type and not so articulate type. When she was in pre-school, I recalled sending her to julia gabriel for s&d classes so as to let her open up. She is also attending the Chinese s&d class with this teacher since P2. The teacher told me that dd1 don't have talent for s&d and would propose that she learn till a certain stage eg. P6 and then stop. I agree with her assessment as my intention to put her through this is to expose her and hopefully she build up confidence. In addition, oral exams is a big component so it will also help her out for PSLE. During the annual performance, my P5 would be so soft that we cannot hear her... She is the type who is loud at home.... so she is definitely capable of projecting her voice louder.

But every child is different. So what we can do as parents is to support and expose them where we possibly can. Hopefully they outgrow it by the time they are older.

I briefly look through the scope for term 3. I think topic is about Singapore or something like that.

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Re: Show and Tell (展示与讲述)

Postby Guest » Tue Jul 03, 2012 1:26 am

Does the teacher teach the children how to do "show and tell" in P1/P2 as in the techniques and the tips?

My child was under the old system in P1/P2 but she had a few out of curriculum show and tell experiences at that level, designed by her teacher, likely to break the monotony of lessons in class. For those, there was not much teaching but children were just encouraged to pick a topic of interest and talk about it. So it was not assessed but simply exposure. In that setting, the teacher gave her own feedback and not obtained it from the class, because no one was an expert.

In the same token, during the learning process, children who are still clueless themselves should not be given the voting rights on their classmates' performances, this is not voting for SG idol. :faint: However, an alternative such as a qualitative feedback on the strengths and the weakness can be shared by a few selected students to form a balanced feedback for a child in her learning process. As an experienced teacher, if a child appears totally unprepared, a separate discussion should be taken offline with the parents to understand the situation. And if a child is just not performing to par yet but has put in efforts like ADmummy's child, then such voting of Yes=good and No-bad serves NO purpose at all but to shame the child and inhibits future learning. Every child who puts in efforts will have strength to be pointed out(for effort), for example, if their speech is not perfect and they forget their lines, this is just deemed as a weakness, ie, room for improvement, however, the strength may be seen in the effort of preparing the props and the content is rich. So as a teacher, this kind of balanced feedback will motivate the child for the next 'show and tell'.

Having said this, I would say there is also merit in voting by the students when the situation is right. For example, if the teacher can predict that it is a positive outcome. This is particularly effective in a leadership role as it can boost the confidence of the children looking up to this leader and the leader leading. So in order to have voting exercise, a teacher must be very observant and sharp. I must commend a teacher I know who is particularly strong in this area. She does not do voting exercise on all children except one as she can predict the positive outcome and invoke a positive feeling inside the classroom.

Hope this is useful for your situation.
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