A mother's letter to her daughter...

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A mother's letter to her daughter...

Postby AnalectsReader » Wed Aug 05, 2009 12:26 pm

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Original Title: 孩子的心是敏感,柔软的...请小心处理...

这是写给我孩子的道歉信.

宝贝, 妈妈对不起妳.

我不应该对妳发脾气的, 只为了芝麻緑豆的小事. 昨天就像一向那样, 我轻易的被惹怒, 而妳只会乖巧的讨好我.

晚上忙着上网, 到睡觉时间,我没像我每天做的那样, 抱抱妳, 亲妳; 告诉妳这一天妳什么事情做得棒, 告诉妳:"妈妈爱妳,宝贝"; 只催促妳去睡.

今天早上五点多听见妳的哭声,赶紧去看妳, 竟在梦中哭泣! 而床垫上, 还有未干的尿迹...

困惑...妳自从不依赖尿片后, 是从不尿床的, 一次都没有. 为什么?
因为我的责备伤心吗? 还是, 妳在生我的气呢?

吃早餐的时候, 突然想到, 难道是因为昨晚我没向妳说爱妳吗?

赶回家, 看到妳刚好醒来, 赶紧抱着妳对妳说:"妈妈爱妳! 对不起, 妈妈昨晚忘了!妈妈昨天是生气, 可是生气不代表我不爱妳; 记得, 妈妈是永远爱妳的".

妳只是笑笑, 又闭上眼睛睡了...

我去做了做别的事, 回头再看妳...眼睛仍是闭着的. 但妳的眼角, 却闪着泪光...

"宝贝, 怎么啦?"
......

"妳还在生妈妈的气吗?"
眼睛还是闭着. 轻轻摇头.

"妳伤心妈妈骂妳?"
犹豫. 摇头.

"妳很感动?! 妈妈说爱妳?"
缓缓点头.

我的喉嚨,有一种哽噎的感觉; 我的心,有一种酸酸的感觉...又好像有一点痛? 我的宝贝... 妳的心竟是敏感,柔软至此... 而妳还只不过是个四岁的小孩, 妳已经会想要隐藏妳的感觉...

妈妈对不起妳...太多时候, 妈妈不够细心, 妈妈不够耐心, 妈妈不够贴心...原谅我, 给我机会改进...在妳的心变硬之前, 让我学会做一个, 够好的妈妈.

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Postby mum03 » Wed Aug 05, 2009 12:31 pm

Ahhhhhhhhhh what is it all about :whut:

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Re: 孩子的心是敏感,柔软的...请小心处理...

Postby Busymom » Wed Aug 05, 2009 12:41 pm

AnalectsReader wrote:这是写给我孩子的道歉信.

我的喉嚨,有一种哽噎的感觉; 我的心,有一种酸酸的感觉...又好像有一点痛? 我的宝贝... 妳的心竟是敏感,柔软至此... 而妳还只不过是个四岁的小孩, 妳已经会想要隐藏妳的感觉...

妈妈对不起妳...太多时候, 妈妈不够细心, 妈妈不够耐心, 妈妈不够贴心...原谅我, 给我机会改进...在妳的心变硬之前, 让我学会做一个, 够好的妈妈.


Thanks, really touched. Serves as a good reminder...

Always feel very bad after losing temper with my kids.

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Postby san76 » Wed Aug 05, 2009 12:42 pm

mum03 wrote:Ahhhhhhhhhh what is it all about :whut:


I guess, it is how she wants us to know her love for her child. But I doubt how can the kid read? Still bed wetting can read and access to internet?

Sometimes people just want to write out how they feel.

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Postby AnalectsReader » Wed Aug 05, 2009 1:10 pm

san76 wrote:
mum03 wrote:Ahhhhhhhhhh what is it all about :whut:


...I don't think I can express myself better in English...

...But I doubt how can the kid read? Still bed wetting can read and access to internet?


I have already read it to her before I post it online. She is not "still bed wetting", this morning is the ONLY one time.

...Sometimes people just want to write out how they feel.

...Yes, I hope ppl don't do what I usually do to their children --lose temper.

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it's a reminder to myself

Postby AnalectsReader » Wed Aug 05, 2009 1:55 pm

...most important of all, it's reminder to myself to be PATIENT...as I'll view myself as a real failure if my child grow up having a 刚硬,麻木,冷漠 的心.

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Postby Merlion » Wed Aug 05, 2009 2:08 pm

Very touching letter ...... thanks for sharing.

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Postby jedamum » Wed Aug 05, 2009 2:54 pm

When I was a kid, I lied about some stuff. My dad found out and was so furious that he gave me a tight slap across my cheek (I think I am first and only in the family to get that). He wasn't literate and didn't know any sweet words. His sincere apology in terms of a 'sorry' with a tearful face were enough to gave me the lesson of honesty that made me who I am now.

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Postby Busymom » Wed Aug 05, 2009 3:06 pm

Think the title of this thread not right. It's a letter to her daughter...

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Postby ChiefKiasu » Wed Aug 05, 2009 3:09 pm

Busymom wrote:Think the title of this thread not right. It's a letter to her daughter...


Well know secret: ChiefKiasu knows little Chinese :oops:

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