All About Working With Children Who Are Weak Academically

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Re: All About Working With Children Who Are Weak Academicall

Post by hercules » Tue Nov 20, 2018 1:05 pm

Giggler1 wrote:
And we were very happy that she managed to get into NA stream. Fast forward, now that she is in Sec 2, she managed to scored 90s for her Maths which is so unbelievable!!!
Feel so happy for you that you finally can 守得云开见月明!I am praying for the day will come for my GN.

All the best to your kiddos!

*Maybe one day I will ask you for the tutors of your child for her if I can't give her tuition anymore...

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Re: All About Working With Children Who Are Weak Academicall

Post by Giggler1 » Wed Nov 21, 2018 10:21 am

Thanks, Hercules!

My eldest gal taught me a lot!!! Although she has no luck to meet good sch teachers, she is lucky to meet the BEST tutor for her. That tutor doesnt specialised in teaching Dyslexia kid but she is patient enough to coach and motivate my gal.
She played a very big part contributing to my gal's "success".

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Re: All About Working With Children Who Are Weak Academicall

Post by bestwishes » Wed Nov 21, 2018 1:59 pm

Giggler1 wrote:I agree with Hercules that to teach academically weak kids, we have to focus on the main truck of the tree and forgo the branches. My gal has Dyslexia and I only found out when she was P5 so it's kind of too late to do anything. So what her tutors and myself did for her was to focus the low-lying fruits for her. Eg, only learn fraction, ratio and percentage for Maths and forgo P6 chapter like Speed. Then for Science, only focus on MCQ and forgo OE qns. With these methods, she managed to pass all 4 subjects esp her Maths in PSLE which was an amazing feat for her as she failed her Maths in primary school since P3.

So to deal with academically weak students, we have to focus on the important parts and forgo the rest. At that time, our aim was to get passes for all subjects for her PSLE and she made it.

And we were very happy that she managed to get into NA stream. Fast forward, now that she is in Sec 2, she managed to scored 90s for her Maths which is so unbelievable!!!
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Re: All About Working With Children Who Are Weak Academicall

Post by lee_yl » Wed Nov 21, 2018 2:27 pm

Hercules,
Actually many young kids have this problem of confusing alphabets and numbers. DD2 was one of them. I noticed it when she was in K1. “p” “q” or “b” “d” or “3” “E”. Her condition improved as she moved on to upper primary.

Friend’s nephew was diagnosed as “mild case”, couldn’t even differentiate left and right hand even though he was already a teenager. He could only walk straight and couldn’t understand instructions like “turn left”.

Has your GN been diagnosed by a professional for all her learning difficulties she encountered? Like you suspected Dyslexia and Selective Mutism. Being shy or just low self esteem is different from having selective mutism. If she indeed suffered from such learning difficulties, better to seek professional advice and go for early intervention like therapy or medication (if any). I am a believer of early intervention thru professional help. I know you are very concerned about her but if you “suspect” then use your method to help her may instead delay treatment. It gets harder and harder to treat once she enters adulthood.

If she is diagnosed free from learning difficulties, then I have seen shy kids gain confidence after attending public speaking courses etc.

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Re: All About Working With Children Who Are Weak Academicall

Post by Estéema » Wed Nov 21, 2018 3:49 pm

Giggler1 wrote:I agree with Hercules that to teach academically weak kids, we have to focus on the main truck of the tree and forgo the branches. My gal has Dyslexia and I only found out when she was P5 so it's kind of too late to do anything. So what her tutors and myself did for her was to focus the low-lying fruits for her. Eg, only learn fraction, ratio and percentage for Maths and forgo P6 chapter like Speed. Then for Science, only focus on MCQ and forgo OE qns. With these methods, she managed to pass all 4 subjects esp her Maths in PSLE which was an amazing feat for her as she failed her Maths in primary school since P3.

So to deal with academically weak students, we have to focus on the important parts and forgo the rest. At that time, our aim was to get passes for all subjects for her PSLE and she made it.

And we were very happy that she managed to get into NA stream. Fast forward, now that she is in Sec 2, she managed to scored 90s for her Maths which is so unbelievable!!!
Giggler1,

Only hv time to catch up on missed forum chats.

I’m so touched by your dedicated observation & constructive help to your gal. This is such an encouragement for a parent willing to focus on small steps according to the learning abilities of your child. I’m sure her current achievements wld give her a lot of build up of self-esteem. :imcool: Do celebrate with her coz it’s amazing achievements! You’re really a great champion to your girl! :salute: :udawoman:


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Re: All About Working With Children Who Are Weak Academicall

Post by Giggler1 » Wed Nov 21, 2018 4:02 pm

Hi Esteema,

I don't dare to claim credit on my girl's achievement leh. For pple who know me should know that I don't have good temper to start with and I really learn to be patience with my girl through the hard ways.

I think what really changed me was after I sent her for psychological assessment and the psychologist pointed out that my gal has dyslexia however she has high IQ thus she is able to find her own way to overcome her problems. I broke down in front of the psychologist immediately. I felt so guilty at the moment cos all along I kept thinking that she is slow and lazy. Instead of helping her, I added to her stress and she needed to fight her war alone. So to compensate, I changed my attitude towards her entirely. I learned to be more patient and understanding towards her. We just focused on each day's mission and don't look at results at all. TBH, it would be very demoralising if we looked at her results cos no matter how hard she studied, she still failed in certain subjects during her pr sch years. Like what Hercules mentioned, we just make sure that she is strong in building the 'truck", taking small steps everyday.

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Re: All About Working With Children Who Are Weak Academicall

Post by swortionery » Fri Nov 23, 2018 2:02 pm

Giggler1 wrote:Hi Esteema,

I don't dare to claim credit on my girl's achievement leh. For pple who know me should know that I don't have good temper to start with and I really learn to be patience with my girl through the hard ways.

I think what really changed me was after I sent her for psychological assessment and the psychologist pointed out that my gal has dyslexia however she has high IQ thus she is able to find her own way to overcome her problems. I broke down in front of the psychologist immediately. I felt so guilty at the moment cos all along I kept thinking that she is slow and lazy. Instead of helping her, I added to her stress and she needed to fight her war alone. So to compensate, I changed my attitude towards her entirely. I learned to be more patient and understanding towards her. We just focused on each day's mission and don't look at results at all. TBH, it would be very demoralising if we looked at her results cos no matter how hard she studied, she still failed in certain subjects during her pr sch years. Like what Hercules mentioned, we just make sure that she is strong in building the 'truck", taking small steps everyday.
Thanks for sharing! Yes the attitude and perspective that parents have when nurturing kids are very important. I keep telling parents that a diagnosis isn't just a label; a diagnosis can assist the child, parents, educators, and specialists in sussing out methods that work.

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Re: All About Working With Children Who Are Weak Academicall

Post by hercules » Sat Nov 24, 2018 12:57 pm

lee_yl wrote:
Has your GN been diagnosed by a professional for all her learning difficulties she encountered? Like you suspected Dyslexia and Selective Mutism.
Hi lee_yl, thanks for your input.

So far I observed my GN has improved greatly. I shall continue to observe her further and probably will decide whether to send her for a proper assessment by end of P4 if I need to apply for time extension for her P5/6 exams.

Patience is perhaps the greatest gift I can offer to her for the time being.

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Re: All About Working With Children Who Are Weak Academicall

Post by LearningStarCLMA » Fri Nov 30, 2018 9:06 pm

Believe that every child is able to learn and acknowledge differences do exist.

Once parents realize this, it will be less stressful on the kid.

Celebrate every little successes as they come along.

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Re: All About Working With Children Who Are Weak Academicall

Post by lee_yl » Sun Dec 02, 2018 9:15 pm

hercules wrote:
lee_yl wrote:
Has your GN been diagnosed by a professional for all her learning difficulties she encountered? Like you suspected Dyslexia and Selective Mutism.
Hi lee_yl, thanks for your input.

So far I observed my GN has improved greatly. I shall continue to observe her further and probably will decide whether to send her for a proper assessment by end of P4 if I need to apply for time extension for her P5/6 exams.

Patience is perhaps the greatest gift I can offer to her for the time being.
Hercules,
I saw your earlier reply with attachments of your GN’s exam results. She actually improved a lot under your care and patience.

Since you have this plan of sending her for a proper assessment by end of P4, I think it’s a good idea to do a proper assessment early so that you can 对症下药. Report may tell you what’s your niece’s strengths and weaknesses, like visual spatial weak/strong etc, hopefully when you coach her next time can 事半功倍. If you need to apply for time extension for major exams and PSLE, do all the necessary tests early, not too near to PSLE. Lesson from my friend who started the application and tests late and she was badly stressed by the whole process.

All the best.

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