At what age do you let you child have their first dating/rom

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At what age do you let you child have their first dating/rom

Postby AmandaChuaAC » Sat Feb 22, 2014 3:52 pm

Hi just wondering at what age do you think it's ok for your child to start dating or having BGR?

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Re: At what age do you let you child have their first dating

Postby phtthp » Sat Feb 22, 2014 5:42 pm

Go Uni then can date

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Re: At what age do you let you child have their first dating

Postby Mawar » Sat Feb 22, 2014 6:17 pm

phtthp wrote:Go Uni then can date


I second that but things may not be within our control.

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Re: At what age do you let you child have their first dating

Postby Beatrice_NoQ » Mon Feb 24, 2014 5:57 pm

I think once they reach JC and Poly level (17 - 18 years old) it is no longer within our control. Even if we disallow, kids will inadvertently find a way to date if they really want to.

Instead of disallowing, perhaps keeping an open mind will encourage your kids to be more willing to share their BGR issues with you. This way, you will be able to monitor the situation closely.

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Re: At what age do you let you child have their first dating

Postby BlueBells » Thu Feb 27, 2014 9:40 am

I have been telling my children, 18 and beyond. Told them they can have many friends of the opposite gender, but don't narrow down to one Darling too soon.

Also told them that the only question to a lasting relationship is "will you marry me?" , not "Will you be my boy/girl friend?" - relationships built on the latter question rarely last till time for the first question. :smile:

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Re: At what age do you let you child have their first dating

Postby insider » Mon Mar 24, 2014 12:15 pm

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Re: At what age do you let you child have their first dating

Postby janet88 » Mon Mar 24, 2014 12:22 pm

Son told me his classmates have girlfriends.
I asked him if he is interested in anyone...he said no.
He said having a girlfriend will cost money...Not only that, he doesn't have the means to have one....I told him to study hard and focus on his studies for now.

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Re: At what age do you let you child have their first dating

Postby insider » Mon Mar 24, 2014 12:44 pm

janet_lee88 wrote:Son told me his classmates have girlfriends.
I asked him if he is interested in anyone...he said no.
He said having a girlfriend will cost money...Not only that, he doesn't have the means to have one....I told him to study hard and focus on his studies for now.



In my observations and analysis, those who have girl/boyfriend at young age, esp during sec school time usually dont have good relationship (emotional attachment) with their parents and/or dont have a good circle of friends and/or dont have proper hobbies .

Coz the attachment needs with parents are not met at home, they seek to meet such needs outside.

Coz dont have good circle of friends and/or proper hobbies to kill time, they fantasise meeting 'someone' who cares = they are likely to meet this someone who cares.

Parents whom yourself ever been through relationship/s during sec school time may reflect in my analysis and then to see the truth of such.

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Re: At what age do you let you child have their first dating

Postby janet88 » Thu Mar 27, 2014 8:30 am

true.
if emotional needs are met at home, the child would not need to seek attention by having a girlfriend/boyfriend. at this tender young age, what do they really understand from having a relationship.

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