Being raised in a very traditional chinese home, I have taken the stance that there are times when punishment must be incoporate into the discipline process, though I certainly do not advocate violence.
If the child teacher in school have adopted a more humanistic approach in discipline (which in a way a good one). I have concerns that the child might distant himself from me (as a parent) as by comparison, I would be seen to be a more devilish adult than the teacher.
I understand the teachers' hands are tight in school from rendering certain punishment due to the Ministry's regulations, yet I am afraid that the inconsistencies in the discipline style given by both of us (the teacher and myself) might cause the child to develop to be more defiant at home.
The reverse situation might also be true for some of us (where the teacher is fierce while the parent is more protective of the child's wrongdoing).
I hope experience parents/teachers are able to share their insights on this issue.
Inconsistent Discipline Style - will it be a problem?
Parental influence on children in the first 12 years of their lives have a permanent effect. Unfortunately, children come with no user manual. Each child is different from the other. Discuss how to handle emotional and educational needs of your child here.