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Re: Mummy Jennifer: New member reporting

Postby Integer » Wed May 14, 2014 7:59 am

Jennifer wrote:Ah boy bn nausea n vomiting since after ytd dinner. Both of us did not sleep well, he woke up a few times to vomit n I were on standby to help.

Going to bring him to see doctor later.

Take care, Jennifer & Ah boy. :hugs:

Hope he gets well soon.

Maybe u can ask the GP/Dr for referral to the specialist in blood? Haematologists?

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Re: Mummy Jennifer: New member reporting

Postby slmkhoo » Wed May 14, 2014 7:59 am

icy_mama wrote:
Jennifer wrote: :rotflmao:

anyway, I am at cold war with him now. Other than work related, did not talk or ans him.

i know i shouldn't be saying this, but :ugogirl: :wink:

i do cold wars but my dh can't stand it. he'd never let it drag overnight. so, he'd usually end it with an apology. anyway, for me to be mad, he has to be very wrong. :laugh:

My husband and I both prefer to sort things out asap, normally on the day itself, or the next day. That's what is advised during pre-marital counselling. We will sometimes go silent for a few hours to think over things, but we haven't had any prolonged cold wars in our 27 yrs of marriage, as far as I can remember. It can be hard to discuss and compromise, but it clears the bad atmosphere faster.

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Re: Mummy Jennifer: New member reporting

Postby slmkhoo » Wed May 14, 2014 8:04 am

Integer wrote:A few mths ago DH said something wh hurt my feelings. Sometimes when we go out, I'll ask he pay or I pay. He ans a few times, does it make any difference? (implying the cc cards are settled by him anyway). After hearing these comments abt 2 times, I totally exploded! Told him I don't want to hear these kind of nonsense fm him again! Hmmm! As if I don't contribute to our hsehold?! So far, he has complied... :wink:

Are you reading too much into what he said? My husband says this to me too, and I also say it to him! To us, it's a statement of fact as I carry supplementary cards and he pays the bills. Until a few mths ago, I only had very occasional earned income for about 17 yrs, but I've never felt that my husband meant that I don't contribute to the household.

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Re: Mummy Jennifer: New member reporting

Postby slmkhoo » Wed May 14, 2014 8:06 am

Jennifer wrote:Anyone has recommendation for a specialist who can do blood tests on deficiency of vitamins, minerals etc? I want to get ah boy for a thorough checkup. Can't continue to live our lives like this.两三天就病一回

Your GP may be able to do a first round of basic tests. He may be able to find out if there are any problems, or narrow down for further investigation.

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Re: Mummy Jennifer: New member reporting

Postby Funz » Wed May 14, 2014 8:37 am

:hugs:

Ah boy could still be adjusting to a more hectic school schedule. Niece was like that when she started sec 1. Every other week she will be down with a fever and can't talk cos no voice. Lots of ulcers too. Many late nights and irregular meals and she says she has no appetite.

Sis very laid back so BIL was the one who made sure she has her breakfast. He insists on it. Got her multivits and nagged her non-stop into taking them.

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Re: Mummy Jennifer: New member reporting

Postby Funz » Wed May 14, 2014 8:43 am

slmkhoo wrote:
icy_mama wrote:
Jennifer wrote: :rotflmao:

anyway, I am at cold war with him now. Other than work related, did not talk or ans him.

i know i shouldn't be saying this, but :ugogirl: :wink:

i do cold wars but my dh can't stand it. he'd never let it drag overnight. so, he'd usually end it with an apology. anyway, for me to be mad, he has to be very wrong. :laugh:

My husband and I both prefer to sort things out asap, normally on the day itself, or the next day. That's what is advised during pre-marital counselling. We will sometimes go silent for a few hours to think over things, but we haven't had any prolonged cold wars in our 27 yrs of marriage, as far as I can remember. It can be hard to discuss and compromise, but it clears the bad atmosphere faster.


Everyone deal with their disagreements differently. Some need to stew over it, be it a few hours or a few days. What is more important is that at the end of the stewing, things are addressed and not swept under the carpet.

I will say for women who use the cold war method, men can be quite oblivious hor. So better make sure that they know you what you are freezing him about. :smile:

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Re: Mummy Jennifer: New member reporting

Postby Funz » Wed May 14, 2014 8:50 am

slmkhoo wrote:
Integer wrote:A few mths ago DH said something wh hurt my feelings. Sometimes when we go out, I'll ask he pay or I pay. He ans a few times, does it make any difference? (implying the cc cards are settled by him anyway). After hearing these comments abt 2 times, I totally exploded! Told him I don't want to hear these kind of nonsense fm him again! Hmmm! As if I don't contribute to our hsehold?! So far, he has complied... :wink:

Are you reading too much into what he said? My husband says this to me too, and I also say it to him! To us, it's a statement of fact as I carry supplementary cards and he pays the bills. Until a few mths ago, I only had very occasional earned income for about 17 yrs, but I've never felt that my husband meant that I don't contribute to the household.


Different people have different triggers. You may not find it upsetting but others might. It is how a person feels about certain things. Their feelings should be acknowledged and the other half needs to be aware of such sensitivities.

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Re: Mummy Jennifer: New member reporting

Postby Integer » Wed May 14, 2014 9:00 am

Funz wrote:
icy_mama wrote:
Jennifer wrote: :rotflmao:

anyway, I am at cold war with him now. Other than work related, did not talk or ans him.

i know i shouldn't be saying this, but :ugogirl: :wink:

i do cold wars but my dh can't stand it. he'd never let it drag overnight. so, he'd usually end it with an apology. anyway, for me to be mad, he has to be very wrong. :laugh:


Everyone deal with their disagreements differently. Some need to stew over it, be it a few hours or a few days. What is more important is that at the end of the stewing, things are addressed and not swept under the carpet.

I will say for women who use the cold war method, men can be quite oblivious hor. So better make sure that they know you what you are freezing him about. :smile:

Haha , I'm sure mine knows. Face extremlely black, tone extremely monotonous, sometimes I just outright tell him : I'm not talking to u now, don't bother me with anything!

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Re: Mummy Jennifer: New member reporting

Postby Integer » Wed May 14, 2014 9:04 am

slmkhoo wrote:
Integer wrote:A few mths ago DH said something wh hurt my feelings. Sometimes when we go out, I'll ask he pay or I pay. He ans a few times, does it make any difference? (implying the cc cards are settled by him anyway). After hearing these comments abt 2 times, I totally exploded! Told him I don't want to hear these kind of nonsense fm him again! Hmmm! As if I don't contribute to our hsehold?! So far, he has complied... :wink:

Are you reading too much into what he said? My husband says this to me too, and I also say it to him! To us, it's a statement of fact as I carry supplementary cards and he pays the bills. Until a few mths ago, I only had very occasional earned income for about 17 yrs, but I've never felt that my husband meant that I don't contribute to the household.

I actually know he didn't mean much BUT I just don't like the way the sentence was phrased. I read it as impolite, insensitive. Diff people diff sensitivities, I guess. It's like the 1 dish meals are gd enough/acceptable to yr family, but defintely not so, on a frequent basis, for us.
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Re: Mummy Jennifer: New member reporting

Postby Integer » Wed May 14, 2014 9:11 am

Jennifer, u have a PM...

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