Mummy Jennifer's Hatch

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Re: Mummy Jennifer: New member reporting

Post by Jennifer » Tue Oct 01, 2013 10:47 pm

icy_mama wrote:
Jennifer wrote:Beats me.

Bn going on for years now. He simply untidy?

The other day, he told hubby he would be staying at granny's hse over the weekends for the rest of the year. Reason- to get away from me.

Think I so free to scold him everyday if he behaves?

Heartache, angry.

So today I shut my mouth, look away, heck care how much time he wasted. He kept his own clothes that I folded n ironed. In the past, needed me to nag n nag b4 he will keep them away.

Maybe I shld just disappear from his life.

yes, disappear from his life.... not completely. just off the volume. u think it'd work?


Very likely to work if using today as feedback.

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Re: Mummy Jennifer: New member reporting

Post by icy_mama » Tue Oct 01, 2013 10:52 pm

Jennifer wrote:Very likely to work if using today as feedback.

:hugs: dun be angry and sad. i'm sure he said all those stuff in anger too. dun take what he said to heart. u know his character anyway, right? ask him to do 1, he'd do 2. so if u want him to do 1, just say 2. easy does it. :wink:

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Re: Mummy Jennifer: New member reporting

Post by ngl2010 » Tue Oct 01, 2013 10:56 pm

From the examples you wrote above, it looks like he doesn't think of other people when he does something. E.g. other people also need to sit on the sofa, you need to clean the floor/table if he drops the food, you need to wash and iron 2 sets of clothes instead of one.

Is it possible to talk heart to heart with him that his habits are giving you more work?

Or, ask him to clean up himself. I don't like crumbs and spills on the floor so everytime DS drops/spills something, he has to clean it up himself. So, when he wants to eat biscuit, he will use a plate so there is no crumbs on his clothes/table/sofa/floor.

Now DS is even considerate enough to turn the clothes to the side I prefer because when he helped me hang laundry he noticed that it is more difficult to turn the clothes when it is wet so when he take off his clothes he makes sure the clothes is already turn the side I prefer.

That is my experience. I only have one child so my experience is limited.

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Re: Mummy Jennifer: New member reporting

Post by TheAnswer » Wed Oct 02, 2013 6:42 am

:snuggles:

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Re: Mummy Jennifer: New member reporting

Post by Jennifer » Wed Oct 02, 2013 7:05 am

ngl2010 wrote:From the examples you wrote above, it looks like he doesn't think of other people when he does something. E.g. other people also need to sit on the sofa, you need to clean the floor/table if he drops the food, you need to wash and iron 2 sets of clothes instead of one.

Is it possible to talk heart to heart with him that his habits are giving you more work?

Or, ask him to clean up himself.


It pains me more if I would to put all these down to his selfishness.

说到口水都干了


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Re: Mummy Jennifer: New member reporting

Post by Jennifer » Wed Oct 02, 2013 7:41 am

will be year end soon...

bear with me for the next few months

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Re: Mummy Jennifer: New member reporting

Post by icy_mama » Wed Oct 02, 2013 8:04 am

Jennifer wrote:will be year end soon...

bear with me for the next few months

u speaking to ah boy? or us?

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Re: Mummy Jennifer: New member reporting

Post by TheAnswer » Wed Oct 02, 2013 8:05 am

Jennifer wrote:Eg. Change clothes, no need to hang, just leave on the floor. Then forget, get another set of new clothes. End up with 2 sets of clothes on the floor.


My hubby used to be like this. I understand your frustrations :rant:

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Re: Mummy Jennifer: New member reporting

Post by TheAnswer » Wed Oct 02, 2013 8:05 am

Jennifer wrote:will be year end soon...

bear with me for the next few months


:grphug:

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Re: Mummy Jennifer: New member reporting

Post by ngl2010 » Wed Oct 02, 2013 8:32 am

:snuggles:

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