Jennifer wrote:Or is it a Man Ego thingy
Elder boy was telling me that he had attended leadership courses and in those courses, the leaders would set down rules and there would always be people who would push the boundaries of the rules which then caused some inconveniences to the whole group.
To him, he does not like to be one of these push boundaries people.
I guess he is still green.
My concern for this child is he seems like a push over, not aggressive enough.
When he was growing up, I rushed him into growing up to be a sensible person who is considerate for others. Too much I think that I sometimes feel that I robbed him of his childhood.
I should let him find his own pace.
It's a man thing! Seriously, though, I think it's a personality thing. My husband is always more reluctant than me to ask or find alternatives, but it's not lack of confidence. He has a higher tolerance than me for things that are not "ideal" and is OK to be inconvenienced, delayed etc. I've learned to bite my tongue and let him be when it's something that affects mostly him. He can be very assertive when something really gets him annoyed, but he doesn't get annoyed as easily.