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Hi parents, don't know if anybody's kids have encounter this? My relative's dd is being bullied by her classmates. I suspect her classmates has got 'support' from outside gangs so she is very aggressive... this classmate of her will everytime make things difficult and even asking others to boycott, is really headache.. any advise how to deal with such situation ?

Perhaps you could have a word with the class teacher first?

yes...speak to the class teacher...but be careful because some school teachers might not handle it properly..leading even MORE classmates to ostracise the child... causing even more problems in future.... i would urge you to go online to surf for "how to handle bullies"... plenty of tips... the girl should learn how to defend herself and learn to walk away when bullies come along... need be, report to police and let the police give a stern warning to the kids involved... if it's me, i wouldn't tell the sch teacher..because not every one can handle it beautifully..

My relative told me they already report it to the police, but the police told them let the school settle..... now we only worried that if the bullies got provoked, don't know what they will do next.. we even consider to change school. Nowdays teengagers really very hiong, in view the recent murder cases, we adults also scared scared... Real headache to tell or not to tell the school...

minty2000 wrote:My relative told me they already report it to the police, but the police told them let the school settle..... now we only worried that if the bullies got provoked, don't know what they will do next.. we even consider to change school. Nowdays teengagers really very hiong, in view the recent murder cases, we adults also scared scared... Real headache to tell or not to tell the school...

Report police

So serious? Mind telling us what exactly happened.

markfch wrote:

minty2000 wrote:My relative told me they already report it to the police, but the police told them let the school settle..... now we only worried that if the bullies got provoked, don't know what they will do next.. we even consider to change school. Nowdays teengagers really very hiong, in view the recent murder cases, we adults also scared scared... Real headache to tell or not to tell the school...

Report police

So serious? Mind telling us what exactly happened.

Wow, such serious case in school bullies. Fortunately, no such issues in my sec school, otherwise, I will be frightened to death

minty2000 wrote:My relative told me they already report it to the police, but the police told them let the school settle..... now we only worried that if the bullies got provoked, don't know what they will do next.. we even consider to change school. Nowdays teengagers really very hiong, in view the recent murder cases, we adults also scared scared... Real headache to tell or not to tell the school...

If you are very sure that the case was serious and it involved a gang,
please email him, he should be able to help :-

k_shanmugam@mlaw.gov.sg

from my past experiences, its helped and things solved very fast. i did that to other ministries and my problems solved within a few days. Normally, you would get push here and there for weeks and the problems will still remain. Well, this is how our civil service works. Try emailing to him, state clearly to him that his men were not doing their job. Although there is a slim chance that he will read your email personally, but i believe the follow-up will be very fast. But you must prepare to put down your real name and contact no on the email for them to follow up. Hope this help.

Thks, php...

My relative reported to the police because those teenagers got challenged them to meet outside, so being worried of dd's safety, they informed the police... and i heard one of the teenagers was an 'ex-gang' which he claimed that he already quit. So, it is still not confirmed that this involve the gang or not... And my relative was advised not to meet up with those teenagers cos most of them under 18....

haha...i doubt he reads the email personally..but i agree that they work harder after such emails are sent... anyway, mind sharing what happened? why sound so bad?

kiasu_mum75 wrote:haha...i doubt he reads the email personally..but i agree that they work harder after such emails are sent... anyway, mind sharing what happened? why sound so bad?

few months ago, i sent an email personally to the minister in MOM and the next day, i got two phone calls, one from the quality manager and one from the customer service manager. i got my problem solved within a day. if i am going to follow their so-call protocol, i think my problem wouldn't solve till today....one pushed to another, liked merry go round....all refused to take ownership to the matter...