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Sec 1.parents - how much homework does your child have?

PSLE marks the graduation of Primary school students and their entry into Secondary schools as teenagers. Discuss all issues about Secondary schooling here.

Sec 1 parents - how much homework does your child have on an average day?

1-2 hours
9
64%
2-3 hours
3
21%
3-4 hours
2
14%
4+ hours
0
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Re: Sec 1.parents - how much homework does your child have?

Postby Foreverfriends » Tue Aug 08, 2017 7:59 am

slmkhoo
My DS realizes that his addiction affects his studies but he told me he can't control himself :slapshead:
My DS's data plan is tagged to my hubby's line. My hubby got my DS 4gb data plan. Sometimes my DS exceeded that! My hubby told my DS to pay for that. My hubby use this as a carrot to control my DS. He won't work with me on restricting my DS. :cry:
Let me search for other thread that talk about this :thankyou:

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Your DS should be able to kick off using his phone unnecessarily from the behavior you described. How I wish my DS is like that.
My DS won't go with me if he knows the location is off grid

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Re: Sec 1.parents - how much homework does your child have?

Postby ammonite » Tue Aug 08, 2017 8:34 am

Forever, I will just slash his data plan down.

my ds' plan is tagged to mine. He currently gets 500mb and will run out by mid month if he forgets to check his settings. It is fine. There is nothing so urgent that cannot be done, communicated or resolved through other channels of communication.

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Re: Sec 1.parents - how much homework does your child have?

Postby janet88 » Tue Aug 08, 2017 9:35 pm

daughter has only 200mb...so she can't use data plan outside. at home, there is wi fi. but i still can control.
she is busy with homework and with tests coming up, time is really tight. she only has about 30 min to surf/instagram/FB/youtube before bed time.
son has 2gb and free wi-fi in poly...but with tests and exams coming up, his time is quite limited too...but still have to monitor. he helps to coach sister for geography and history.

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Re: Sec 1.parents - how much homework does your child have?

Postby Capricon » Thu Mar 22, 2018 9:44 am

I would like to know if it is normal to have a lot of extra classes after school in Secondary one.

My daughter is in Zhong Hua Secondary school, is loaded with lots of homework during weekdays and weekends. She has been coming home late like 6-7pm about 2-3 times a week in term 1, her teachers can tell her that it will be worse in term 2. She is not coping well with such a drastic transition, as she came from a relaxed primary school. She is feeling tired everyday but I feel she is unhappy and is resisting to go to school. She misses her free time for her hobbies.

When she raised her concerns to the teacher, she is being told to get used to it which makes her feel not understood. I am thinking of changing her to another school which do not drill the student with so much homework. She was also told that the March one week break is not a break, but to do more homework instead. Does this happen in other schools? Please advise.

I am feeling stress about this, as it is already term 2 and she is still not adapting. This is my first child in Secondary school, and I have no idea that there is so much homework in Secondary 1.

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Re: Sec 1.parents - how much homework does your child have?

Postby ammonite » Thu Mar 22, 2018 9:57 am

I think the long hours are normal. The style of teaching may also be different with a lot less instruction so the kids may feel out of depth for a while. One term is not really enough time to adjust, but maybe you can look at how she Is using her time to help her find some pockets, and speak to other kids to have a sense of how everything is. Encourage her to catch up on her rest and refuel over the weekend. Does she like her cca?

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Re: Sec 1.parents - how much homework does your child have?

Postby Cloud Cloud » Thu Mar 22, 2018 10:21 am

The hours sounds quite typical. What is her travelling time like? Any pockets of time in school to do homework and project? Is her cca taxing or a more relaxed one?

My girl is in Sec 2 and also stays back 2 to 3 days. She try to complete some homework in school and usually spends about one hour on homework. I find that she spends more time chatting with her friends or watching utube.

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Re: Sec 1.parents - how much homework does your child have?

Postby Capricon » Thu Mar 22, 2018 10:22 am

Thanks for the reply, ammonite.

She hates her cca which makes things worse. We have already written to HOD to pull her out from the cca which is not of her choice. However, they are taking a long time to process it and the St John still ask her to attend even though we have written that she wants to quit the cca if there are no vacancies in the cca she prefers.

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Re: Sec 1.parents - how much homework does your child have?

Postby sky minecrafter » Thu Mar 22, 2018 10:27 am

Hi Capricon, I'd agree with ammonite, in fact Year 1 was the superb honeymoon period; the only thing was getting used to growing up (how to handle difficult peers, nonchalant teachers, too much freedom, time/self management...). I wouldn't encourage changing schools so easily, rather, sit down with child & school teacher/mentor/counsellor. This has to be the time to work out coping strategies cos it gets worse when there're the streaming tests end of Sec 2 & the specialisation of subjects Sec 3 onwards, group projects etcetera. Do spend time talking through the issues with the various parties.

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Re: Sec 1.parents - how much homework does your child have?

Postby ammonite » Thu Mar 22, 2018 11:08 am

Capricon wrote:Thanks for the reply, ammonite.

She hates her cca which makes things worse. We have already written to HOD to pull her out from the cca which is not of her choice. However, they are taking a long time to process it and the St John still ask her to attend even though we have written that she wants to quit the cca if there are no vacancies in the cca she prefers.


I think cca commitment gives them some point deduction that will come in handy when applying to poly/jc, so schools are strict about CCA ( parents, pls correct me if I am wrong). It is really about helping them get the maximum point deduction possible. You can encourage her to be positive as she can pick up useful first aid skills that she will definitely be able to use in the future - tell her she can save your life in future etc. The CCA audition does mean that a fair number of kids don't get the CCA of their choice. I am not sure how schools handle cases where the child wants to switch, maybe other parents can shed some light on that.

It may also be that she is not making many friends in her cca, hence her negativity. She probably feels like she is burning up her precious afternoons on something that is not only totally unnecessary but she also hates, and that resentment can be building up along with the workload and fatigue. If you can help her cope better in any of these areas, you should see some improvement. I have found fatigue to be a huge dampener - some kids seem to just take it and sleep anywhere possible and every day is a brand new day; others just stew and it builds up like a thunderstorm. If she seems deeply unhappy and not expressing it well, you can do some activities with her to just help her manage her emotions, be it outdoor or indoor activities...you know, lower the cortisol level and increase the endorphins or oxytocin. I encourage my kids to just go outdoors and play with the neighbours (yes, even the teen!) if it's not too late. I may take them to their favourite restaurants or to cat cafes when they seem to need some extra TLC. I do talk to them about how to make themselves feel better.

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Re: Sec 1.parents - how much homework does your child have?

Postby S_Mummy » Thu Mar 22, 2018 12:10 pm

ammonite wrote:
Capricon wrote:Thanks for the reply, ammonite.

She hates her cca which makes things worse. We have already written to HOD to pull her out from the cca which is not of her choice. However, they are taking a long time to process it and the St John still ask her to attend even though we have written that she wants to quit the cca if there are no vacancies in the cca she prefers.


I think cca commitment gives them some point deduction that will come in handy when applying to poly/jc, so schools are strict about CCA ( parents, pls correct me if I am wrong). It is really about helping them get the maximum point deduction possible. You can encourage her to be positive as she can pick up useful first aid skills that she will definitely be able to use in the future - tell her she can save your life in future etc. The CCA audition does mean that a fair number of kids don't get the CCA of their choice. I am not sure how schools handle cases where the child wants to switch, maybe other parents can shed some light on that.

It may also be that she is not making many friends in her cca, hence her negativity. She probably feels like she is burning up her precious afternoons on something that is not only totally unnecessary but she also hates, and that resentment can be building up along with the workload and fatigue. If you can help her cope better in any of these areas, you should see some improvement. I have found fatigue to be a huge dampener - some kids seem to just take it and sleep anywhere possible and every day is a brand new day; others just stew and it builds up like a thunderstorm. If she seems deeply unhappy and not expressing it well, you can do some activities with her to just help her manage her emotions, be it outdoor or indoor activities...you know, lower the cortisol level and increase the endorphins or oxytocin. I encourage my kids to just go outdoors and play with the neighbours (yes, even the teen!) if it's not too late. I may take them to their favourite restaurants or to cat cafes when they seem to need some extra TLC. I do talk to them about how to make themselves feel better.

:goodpost:

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