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1 year boy refuse to stand and crawl.

Posted: Fri Mar 12, 2010 6:57 pm
by shurley197323
Hi. My friend's boy is going to be 1 year old in 2 weeks time. But he only manage to turn around 8 mths old but stop now.He also refuse to stand up while holding up to something. But can sit and walk in the walker very well.Poor boy is the only odd one out because the rest of the childs can stand in his infantcare centre . PD comments maybe he's too weak and got no strength.
Anyone had this experience before? Any input will be very helpful.
Thanks al lot.

Posted: Fri Mar 12, 2010 7:48 pm
by Guest
I am not an expert in this field, but thought I would just share my niece's experience when she was a little girl.

She's now 20 but she did not walk till she was almost 2! Scared the wits out of us. Doctor said there was nothing wrong with her. Same like your friend's son, she zoomed around in her walker with great confidence but she didn't dare to let go of support to try to walk, lack of confidence, maybe?

We encouraged her, played games with her to boost her confidence etc and clapped to show our support and encouragement whenever she took little unaided steps. We clapped like as if walking a few steps unaided were the great achievements we have ever seen and slowly, she built up her confidence but it did take her a while to walk, but, well, she made it in the end.

Tell your friend not to worry especially if the doctor did not find anything wrong with her boy.

Posted: Fri Mar 12, 2010 8:54 pm
by dimsum
Does he spend long period of time in the walker? I suggest removal of the walker in the house.

Posted: Fri Mar 12, 2010 9:09 pm
by shurley197323
THANKS FOR SHARING.

Re: 1 year boy refuse to stand and crawl.

Posted: Mon Mar 15, 2010 2:14 am
by kiddo
shurley197323 wrote:Hi. My friend's boy is going to be 1 year old in 2 weeks time. But he only manage to turn around 8 mths old but stop now.He also refuse to stand up while holding up to something. But can sit and walk in the walker very well.Poor boy is the only odd one out because the rest of the childs can stand in his infantcare centre . PD comments maybe he's too weak and got no strength.
Anyone had this experience before? Any input will be very helpful.
Thanks al lot.
Dont worry they will walk in their own time...Also walker is very bad for children learning to walk as they become clutches for the child and make they become lazy to walk cos there are something there (walker) to help them....very much like pacifier stop child from exercising the brain when they suck on pacifier.

Somehow each child is different we need to learn from each other and understand what THE CHILD UNIQUELY need.....some thing dont' apply to every child...we need to know the child..

Hope this help :D :?

Posted: Mon Mar 15, 2010 3:13 am
by dnbll
Hi, shurley197323!

My boy also didn't walk on his own until around 2 months past his 1st birthday. He celebrated his 1st bday in his walker :D The daughter of our friend, born 3 weeks before my son, can stand and walk on her own when she attended my son's party. I had been so envious and even got a bit scared, thinking, "Is something wrong with my son?" I was told not to worry, because each child is different and would come to learn these things in his own good time.

Since he can roam around the house in his walker, but not on his own, we thought he might be a bit scared. So we took him out of his walker several times each day, and propped him against the sofa, holding his hips or at the armpits securely (must make sure though, that he is comfortable and safe), and just let him feel how to stand up. You can try to sing fun songs or talk to him encouragingly while doing this. When he gets tired, then just stop and try again another time. When he has learned to be confident in standing on his own (still propped up against the sofa), we held both his hands and encouraged him to make a small step by gently lifting one of his feet. If he makes a step, however small, we made a big deal out of it by clapping hands, with lots of hurrays, millions of hugs and kisses, etc. You know, build his confidence somewhat. I noticed with my kids that when we encourage them like this, they tend to try a bit more, because they love the attention that they get :D

Am not an expert on these things; just my experience. Nowadays, i have to "discourage" my boy not to practice so much his jumping and running skills in the house, hehe!

Hope this helps.

Posted: Mon Mar 15, 2010 8:40 am
by shurley197323
Thanks a lot for the input. It very helpful.

Posted: Mon Mar 15, 2010 9:01 am
by tankee
when my DS was borned, I was advised by friends and relatives against using a walker. They claimed that walker would slow down a baby willingness to learn to walk, babies will just grow to depend on walker to zoooooom around the house.

Posted: Mon Mar 15, 2010 12:55 pm
by schellen
A walker will impede walking because when a baby is in a walker, he/she is always on tiptoe when moving around. Walking properly requires heel-toe movement. Due to this (and the danger of the walker falling over, furniture being damaged), I never got my DD1 a walker. Instead, I got her a push toy that can support her weight. She took small steps at first but when her confidence grew, she started zooming about the house with her teddybear in the front seat. (She started walking around her first birthday.)

Posted: Mon Mar 15, 2010 9:53 pm
by MrsSeah
Can your friend son walk while holding your friend hand?

My niece who is lack of confident in walking. She always has to cling on my sis hand while walking. In the end, we give her a balloon to hold on it. After that we let go the balloon and let her hold herself and she is walking very well with that balloon. I think my niece must be thinking that she is holding a support. :wink: