What will u do if u r me???
Posted: Sat Feb 26, 2011 12:36 am
Dear KS parents.. I would need some opinion if u were me what will u do?
I'm filing divorce with my ex currently on the terms on 4 yrs of separation. Since Ds is 1 yrs old 2 mth, I've been separated with my ex and he had nt been payin maintenance to the child neither did he visit the child.
Now that we r going thru divorce, he had given up his custody and gave me sole custody care n control. The only thing he is asking is reasonable access to the child and no maintenance or $1 maintenance for the child.
At the initial stage when we were separated, my ex took Ds birth cert to consult a lawyer to enquire about giving Ds up for adoption. I've stopped him in time by making a police report against him. Now that he is asking for reasonable access I worry something bad may happen.
I had proposed his access to be once a mth between 1-4pm on Sunday and it got to be in my house and when I'm around. Am I too much? 2ndly by asking for 50% of Ds expenses as maintenance is it too much especially when he is not working despite being a uni grad? I spend 1.4k on Ds mthly for his sch n classes.
Another issue. I believe most Chinese family will bring their newborn birth character to A Feng shui master to calculate for a good name. When Ds is born, my ex decided to name Ds to his liking. From few mths old to four yrs old Ds had been admitted to kkh once a yr. Finally in '09 I went to you long zi to hav his name calculated. Then I know his actual name is nt gd to his health. Since then I tried getting my ex to agree in the changing of name but he refuse. Friends teachers n relatives had since abandon his actuAl name and call him with the new n better name. since the switch in name, Ds no longer get Admitted to hospital and health is much better now. Which mother dun wish their child to b health and safe? Plus Ds need to enrol for p1 soon..
Parents plZ advise what shld I do???
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I'm filing divorce with my ex currently on the terms on 4 yrs of separation. Since Ds is 1 yrs old 2 mth, I've been separated with my ex and he had nt been payin maintenance to the child neither did he visit the child.
Now that we r going thru divorce, he had given up his custody and gave me sole custody care n control. The only thing he is asking is reasonable access to the child and no maintenance or $1 maintenance for the child.
At the initial stage when we were separated, my ex took Ds birth cert to consult a lawyer to enquire about giving Ds up for adoption. I've stopped him in time by making a police report against him. Now that he is asking for reasonable access I worry something bad may happen.
I had proposed his access to be once a mth between 1-4pm on Sunday and it got to be in my house and when I'm around. Am I too much? 2ndly by asking for 50% of Ds expenses as maintenance is it too much especially when he is not working despite being a uni grad? I spend 1.4k on Ds mthly for his sch n classes.
Another issue. I believe most Chinese family will bring their newborn birth character to A Feng shui master to calculate for a good name. When Ds is born, my ex decided to name Ds to his liking. From few mths old to four yrs old Ds had been admitted to kkh once a yr. Finally in '09 I went to you long zi to hav his name calculated. Then I know his actual name is nt gd to his health. Since then I tried getting my ex to agree in the changing of name but he refuse. Friends teachers n relatives had since abandon his actuAl name and call him with the new n better name. since the switch in name, Ds no longer get Admitted to hospital and health is much better now. Which mother dun wish their child to b health and safe? Plus Ds need to enrol for p1 soon..
Parents plZ advise what shld I do???
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